My gf is very busy and I can never call her and she can never call me. Lately it has got that bad that I don't even see her for up to 36 hours with only a small text here and there. Some nights she won't come home. I have talked about it before but now I am threatening to break things off as she never seems to attempt to communicate with me just for even 2 mins on the phone when she has a sec which she DOES. I have told her straight that I think she is self-absorbed and it confuses me why she wouldn't want to come home as we live together or call to even just talk and ask how my day was. Should I not be feeling pretty bad about all this?
2007-05-02 18:36:05 · 27 answers · asked by DirtyHarry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is busy because she is doing school. It's not so much that she isn't around. That's ok and hopefully it won't always be like this but she never seems to put the effort in to call.
2007-05-02 18:43:15 · update #1
ure not a bad bf...we all crave attention and thats all you want.
you didn't say what is it that is keeping her superbusy though, if its a job then you can go lightly on her, if its something else, you need to find out where her priorities are.
2007-05-02 18:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not a bad boyfriend....
Because you are making attempts at communication, but she is not.
You have every right to be aggravated, and school cannot be so extensive that she can't even spare you thirty mins on the phone.
When she does call you, for a mere few mins, tell her how you feel, and say "This two min deal isn't cutting it for me" and quickly stick in how you feel, maybe that will make her pause and think about it.
It's different, however, if you ALWAYS want her to call you, thats bad (because she is busy as much as you...etc etc), but if she does not call or when she does you feel like she does not give you the time of day, it's alright.
Write her a note or something.
Better yet....break up with her.
2007-05-03 01:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't feel bad! A relationship is all about spending time together, and falling in love a little more each day. She needs to get her act together, if she wants to work it out.. There is no reason why she can't spend a few minutes on the phone with you, or taking the time to see how you are.. I think you are doing the right thing.. Good luck!
2007-05-03 01:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by detraf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have good reason to be feeling pretty bad, but not because you're threatening to break off the relationship. Sadly, it sounds as though your girl friend is sending up an awful lot of red flags (i.e. not coming home, not communicating, and most importantly, not caring about your needs at all.) You deserve better.
2007-05-03 01:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Christina W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me guess, you have been hearing things about her... If you are saying you guys live together and she is not coming home, that is a problem.If you don't believe me you try not coming home.You guys need to talk,but this sound like she is gone already. It is always best to know the truth, no matter how bad it hurts. It hurts a lot longer if you try to hold on to someone that cannot show the love and respect you deserve, good luck.
2007-05-03 02:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. L. Junior12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad dude. Youre on the right path. It may be the best thing to take a break from each other for a while. It will probably make you both realise what you had in each other & that will make you appreciate. Or you both could realise that you really are more happy not being with the other & it will make it easy to move on.
2007-05-03 01:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i'd be pissed. one of my friend's was in this same position, where he told his girl over and over a certain something, and she never changed, even though it would be the smallest thing in the world to change. they ended up breaking up and what i found out many weeks later, she was cheating on him. this was also in high school. you guys live together, so it's gotta be serious. if she can't change something so little as to just calling you for two minutes on the phone...especially when she's not coming home at nights. that right there would make me dump a girl, if she couldn't let me know she was not coming home at night or something. its not only wrong, but its also very disrespectful to you. she knows you have concerns, and she doesn't TRY and help work things out. i dunno man, i'd be pissed. no lie, i'd prolly think she was cheating on me... but who knows? maybe she's just the "i've gotta work all the time" kinda girl. i've met those...they really do exists. or maybe there's something she's not telling you?
2007-05-03 01:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by zeek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should feel bad about it. if she's staying out all night and not calling, she might be doing the dirty elsewhere. no offense, but just a hunch. people that love one another, call, talk to each other, make plans to do things. you live with this girl? start wearing condoms or break it off with her. do not let anyone steal your self worth or time. both are hard and almost impossible to get back. you can find a girl that thinks, your tha bomb!
2007-05-03 01:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by CWPig Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie..... You make time for the things that are important to you.
What's got her Sooo Busy that she's not coming home for days on end?
Someone who really cares makes time no matter what because they would put you first.....
I'm really sorry.... i think she has little consideration for you and little feelings for you too.
Work out what you want in your relationship and set boundaries.... if she's really serious in making things work she'll change her act when she realises you won't stand for it......and if she doesn't, stick by your word and leave, there's a girl out there who would love to spend time and make time for you the way you would for them.
Chi Chi x.
2007-05-03 01:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by Chi Chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eh. depends on why shes not coming home.
if shes out with friends, going to clubs ect ect...then no, you shouldnt feel bad.
but if shes working 18jobs to support herself, then yes you should feel bad, shes just doing what she has to do to get what she wants.
either way, it seems that you should break it off because you need more attention that she can give you right now, you aparently aernt the most important thing in her life and if thats what you want then I think you should look for someone else
2007-05-03 01:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by Seth G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not a bad bf at all and its a little concerning that she doesnt come home sometime, i dont wanna scare you or anything but is it possible she might seeing someone else? if so its a good idea to break it off with her before things go to far
2007-05-03 01:41:25 · answer #11 · answered by whoselinebabygirl999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋