My girl friend and I recently broke up, about 2 weeks later a grandparent passed away that I never met, I felt it would have been awkward to go the the funeral for her sake and decided not to . Now she is really angry that I didn't go. Was this a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation?
2007-05-02 18:35:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ure damned.
To me it depends on how the relationship ended. if it ended on good terms then you should have been there, if not then you're not obliged to attend.
2007-05-02 18:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't go to the funeral for the dead person. The dead person would not know that you are there. You go to a funeral out of respect and concern for the family. If your relationship was long term, she has a right to be angry.
2007-05-03 01:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh this happened to me. I went out with my now ex-boyfriend for 4 years. A week after I broke up with him his Grandfather died. I knew his Grandfather and was close to his family. His Mum text me that he died. Horrible feeling. Felt like a deserter and a real meany. But, that's just life, **** happens! So I sent flowers and a nice card from my family to theirs. I didn't go t funeral. I don't think I could have handled it. What an awful situation, makes me feel sick just thinking back to it.
2007-05-03 01:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were in an awkward situation for sure,and it sounds like you made the best decision you could to try to lesson the stress for her.The 2 of you were not together so she really has no legitimate reason to be angry.Just put it behind you and move on,you did the right thing...
2007-05-03 01:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would have been awkward. So would you have been there for the deceased grandparent or the ex-girlfirend? You answered the question yourself (damned if you do & damned if you don't).
2007-05-03 01:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not. You just need to tell her what you told us...
Honesty is teh key in a relationship, whether its a intimate one or even just a friendship. She'll respect you for it. Just say sorry you didn't think she'd want you there, and that it was a bad call of judgement, and that you are there for her now if she needs you.
2007-05-03 01:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grandparents dead+ she is pissed+ u didn't go to the funeral= not a good thing say u r sry that u didn't come
2007-05-03 01:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one you probably should have gone but too late know maybe send her a card saying that you felt it would of been awkward and inappropriate and you still feel for her loss
2007-05-03 01:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Are we using our brains today 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't intend to do anything wrong, so there's no real fault of your own. As long as you told her why you didn't go and explained it, that's all you can do. The rest is her issue to deal with.
Heath
2007-05-03 01:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,for the most part but you should have sent her a sympathy card as soon as you found out.
2007-05-03 01:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's angry that you used her as an excuse not to go.
try a real excuse/reason and dont put it on her maybe she'll calm down.
who's 'grandparent'? yours or hers anyway...you didnt say
2007-05-03 01:44:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋