My fiance doesn't seem like mister right. but my friend is really nice, thoughtful, buff, athletic, funny, and cute. Now my friend may be my mister right. My fiance is two years older than me and i have not seen him and 3 weeks. My trouble is, my fiance is exstatic. I like my fiance, but now I'm seeing my friend in different ways. It's confusing! HELP!
2007-05-02 18:08:35 · 8 answers · asked by flirtygal23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to make the decision about your fiance independently of whether there's someone else. If your fiance is not Mr. Right, release him to find someone who is. Don't cheat on him with your friend, though, or it will always taint your new relationship, and he'll be waiting for you to do the same to him.
2007-05-02 18:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the ability to say that you only "like" your fiancee, then you shouldn't be getting married to him. All this after not seeing him for three weeks (why is that?). That's probably why you are looking at your friend differently; because you are no longer in love (if you ever were) with your fiancee. It would be best for the two of you if you would just tell your fiancee how you feel. Granted it might break his heart, but it's better you do it now than a few years down the road when you're married and have to go through a divorce. I would just chalk this up to wedding jitters but you clearly said that you simply "like" your fiancee which implies either a change of heart, or no true feelings were there to begin with. And if you said yes out of sheer comfort and complacency, then you DEFINITELY do NOT need to marry this man.
"Don't marry the person you feel you can live with. Marry the one you KNOW you can't live without."
(Hope this helps)
2007-05-03 01:33:19 · answer #2 · answered by T. Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't seen your fiance in three weeks and already are wandering eyes, then I don't think it was meant to be. Don't marry him if you have any plans of cheating. It wouldn't be fair to him.
This is something serious that you have to be sure you love this man. you are going to be with him for the rest of your life ( I hope). So I know about "pre wedding jitters" like on T.V. but most of it don't involve, should I marry this man or my best friend?
2007-05-03 01:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better to break his heart now rather than in a few months when the wedding is payed for & he had all these high hopes. it down with him one day and say listen, I really love oyu but im starting to have second thoughts.Its nothing you did, bu I just cant go through with this. give him back the ring
2007-05-05 18:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly Taylor 49 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have any feealings at all for you friend, break up your engagement with your fiance because that's not fair to him! that means you are not as commited as you thought!
Additional details: Don't cheat and be fair and postpone the wedding or call it off.
2007-05-03 01:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pre wedding jidders. if you havent seen your fiance in a while, maybe your just stressing out. talk to your friend, you dont want to end a relationship for "what if"
2007-05-03 01:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mooshak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You "like" your fiance?
haha wow
Look here woman:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Agvuz0VthVmK9CBIm6aBtrnD7BR.?qid=20070502220626AAB2Kuo
2007-05-03 01:11:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is simple make a choice
2007-05-03 01:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgretchem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋