In the last year & a half since my ex fiance betrayed me & broke my heart my life has been a living hell. I have constantly been depressed. have had a had time trying to associte myself with people b/c the trust isn't there anymore. i have seen people who are evil & hurtful people continue to be rewarded with a wife kids that they don't deserve while a man like myself who always tried to live the way god wanted me to(Not saying that i'm perfect but compare dto many others i have lived adecent life) contine to be screwed over & over & over. it's as if god is punishing me for some reason & i don't know why. I watch as my family enjoy their lives with their spouses & children while i be the loser & the black sheep of the family being the only one without anything. This is in no way bashing god or christianity i'm just asking should i blame god for my missfortunes & bad luck in life lately? My feeling is what has he doen for me lately & why does he continue to do this to me?
2007-05-02 16:41:02 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you are a true follower of God you shouldn’t blame Him, for what ever happened to you because He promise to His servants that nothing going to happened to them that not accordance with His will . “Rom 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
Do you believe in “blessing in disguise”? I believe in this. wait and see if you believe that you are a son of God nothing bad is going to happen. Put your trust in to the Lord.
2007-05-02 16:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by yana 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. If you're a religious guy, look at the stories of Job and Jacob. You are confusing life's tribulations with biblical God testing.
Instead of feeling that you were betrayed, you should be happy that you learned of this betrayal before you married and had children. You see, you could have married an evil person who obviously did NOT deserve you. Or your betrothed was not serious about spending the rest of her life with you.
Second, bad luck falls on people who fail to find wisdom in failure, and then quit far too soon.
No matter how nasty life can get with you, if you don't keep trying, you will fail before you have another chance to succeed. You have to keep trying or you will get bitter and angry which is where you're headed. That's what I call negative energy and its a waste.
Maybe you need to start working on your relationship skills, and see what it is exactly that might have caused the betrayal you suffered. Im not suggesting that you're a bad person, but I have known good people who made bad mistakes.
My buddy is a good guy. But he has a mean temper. He loses it all the time and does a lot of yelling. He has secretaries quit on him all the time. His wife puts up with it, but he's a hothead. He's not physically violent at all.
He can also be neglectful and ignore even the most obvious things.
As a result people get testy with him. He's always asking why, and when I tell him he won't believe me.
Maybe there's something you're doing that you are unaware of, or maybe something you're not doing, that you are unaware of.
Sometimes its just hard to say. But self-improvement does wonders in turning your life around.
Start thinking about other people around you and what you can do to help them.
Helping others is a form of self-improvement because it takes your mind away from your own problems, and directs your energy in a positive direction.
Anyway, the real answer to your question is that you are blaming God when you should start with yourself first and start looking at directing your energy towards helping others.
And by the way, those who do give their time and efforts to others, often attract sincere mates.
2007-05-02 16:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by krollohare2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would like to say I can feel your pain. I too have gone through a very trying life. But even before I learned about Reincarnation, I never blamed God for my misfortune.
God is all Loving and forgiving. He allows you to plan your life and learn from it. There are many reasons you could be having trouble as you are. What if in another life, you betrayed someone or even your fiance for instance. You may have broken someone's heart and now you have to experience the same thing so you see the flip side of the coin and learn from the experience so you never do it again. Sometimes we can judge others and be judged. Jesus said if you live by the sword, you will die by the sword. What you sew , so shall you reap. I have had to suffer many lonely times because I had many lessons to learn in this life.The thing you can do is not blame God , but count your blessings and with an attitude of gratitude go to God in Prayer and ask for help with your problems. Ask him to make the needed corrections in your life that would be perfectly suited to you and your highest good. Please do not blame God for the errors you have made. Whenever you point at someone, you have three fingers pointing back at you. That is the place to start looking where to blame.
Rev. TomCat
2007-05-02 16:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't read all what you had to say but I know the answer to your question. You are not wrong in blaming God, well maybe you shouldn't blame God ..personally. God tells mankind to throw all burdens upon him so they may be lifted ..or some such. There's more to it than that I'm sure but off the top my head that's all I've got for you. Hope things turn around ..oh, just picked up the last part of your paragraph there. God is not doing anything to you, this is Satan's world for now. All God is doing at this time is protecting us from being devoured by Satan and Demons. An ancient battle is being dragged out in this day and age ..we're simply caught in the middle.
2007-05-02 16:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by Zed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, I can feel what you're going through, you could have wanted to give me a thumb down by saying but it's "true". I feel like tears want to come out from my eyes because I think that I'm worst than you. I've tried to live a holy life just like you but to watch me fail, fail, fail and fail again, it's like nothing good has ever happened to me. If you knew me, you'd say that I'm the best/nicest person in the world. I've suffered from "injustice" from my own relatives and I just can't take it anymore. My aunt is an evil witch and she almost killed me if it weren't for God. I've lost everything. Now, I'm bitter against God. I'm so bitter I make people around me miserable, my mom, my brother and sister.
Life doesn't make sense, even as a christian I agree with that one. There's a phrase in the bible that says "Men are created to suffer". I don't know why would God say something like that but it's true. In your sufferings, you can become a better person and I believe with prayers, time and God YOU WILL RECOVER!!! I too believe that someday I should have joy that goes beyond my sufferings.
May God bless you!!
2007-05-02 16:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus loves you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Your life does sound a lot like mine was when I was younger. I used to wonder the same things; my husband cheated on me while I was pregnant, was not there for me or the kids ever, and still I tried in vain to make the marriage work for 35 years. I was a good wife and mom who received absolutely no thanks or appreciation for being completely devoted to the family. Yes, it is wrong to blame God directly for these awful things. Indirectly, it is because God gave people free will and he does not interfere with that. That's why other people can do things to hurt us
But, along with that, we do have the power to refuse to be hurt. It took me years to learn this. I asked God for answers, and one day a miracle occurred. All of the answers were given to me through a book that some carpenters found in a burned down homestead that had been inhabited by U.S. draft dodgers. Now I understand why these things happen to us. The name of the book is The Urantia Book. It will change your life forever. I pray that you will find the answers too.
If you seek, you WILL find! Be of good cheer...there is much happiness ahead for you if you allow only truth, beauty and goodness in your life. I only hope that you find it a lot sooner than I did. Be glad that you have a clean slate to start over again...this will allow you to find that special person to share your life with.
2007-05-02 17:01:58 · answer #6 · answered by slsunfrog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong if you blamed God for the bad things that has happened to you in your life lately.
God can not do wrong.God is merciful and powerful.You should introspect yourself why you broke your relationship with your fiance.You should investigate why your fiance betrayed and broke your heart.The wrong will be in yourself or also in your fiance's behaviour or attitude which is against with God's life guide.God will not give a happy and success ful life to you if you do not try hard to make better your fate...The bad fate is not only happened to you but many humans who felt more severely fate than you..You must wake or get up and do not despair.Feeling despair is hated by God..There are many ways to overcome it.God spoke that in all difficulties there is a way of easiness..Satans will always tempt us so we should have a strong faith to God for avoid ing or depeating the satan's temptation..Satans will bring us to the bad doings and wrong path, but God wants us to do the right things.
You must remind also that not all men like your ex fiance
.There are many single men whose attitude and behaviour are better than your ex fiance..But you must aware and evaluate it deliberately and carefully, before you determine for having a special relationship with a man..I hope you will get better and have a right solution of your problem in the ne
ar future.God will bless you.
2007-05-02 17:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your pain. I can understand it. I was married for 17 years with two children and my husband decided that he didn't love me and didn't want to be married any longer. I have never felt so lonely and rejected. I asked God why He let this happen to me.
I kept repeating the scripture that God gave me in Romans 8:28 in which Paul writes; "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." He loves you.
If you will ask God to intervene in your life and in this situation, He will make what Satan meant to harm you, become a blessing. I know that He did this for me.
I finally met and married the man who genuinely loves me. I had his child and we are living happily ever after.
You must get out there and meet women who are Christian and genuine. A Christian singles group is a good place to meet people. It seems that the girl that you were with was a bad choice anyway. Make right choices and you will find your true love. Blessings.
2007-05-02 17:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you are going through this. But I don't think that God is doing this to you. But can I ask you this. You are very depressed and you see others having what you desperately want to have. I don't blame you! Marriage and children can be a blessing. But, what can you do to feel better. If you are more positive and upbeat, there are a lot of women who want a man that believes in God.
2007-05-02 16:45:49 · answer #9 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to think of it as god, then think of it as if god is testing you to see if you are a true believe or not.....i would suggest reading the book of job from the old testiment of the bible. it is about a man who believes in god, and the devil takes everything away from him, his family, his houses, everything.....and this was done in order to prove that the man truly was a good man.
if something bad happens to you and you want to blame it on god, then think of it as a test, and by cursing god for it, you are failing.
the people that dont deserve what they get, keep getting it as if they keep getting more and more chances to use what they get to help other people.
why do the bad people have everything and the good people have nothing??? its a very hard question to answer, i have been asking myself the same thing for a long time.
2007-05-02 16:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have every right to get mad at God. Not mad enough to hate Him and all that goes with that. You are in reality just showing that you believe in Him. Just keep on living and you can be assured He will bless you and you will be more thankful than you can imagine. I've been there and it may be a short time or a long time , but it will happen and you will understand. Just keep the faith.
2007-05-02 16:47:53 · answer #11 · answered by expertless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋