How does your God break up marriages for that?
2007-05-02 16:21:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I'm not talking about cheating.
2007-05-02 16:25:43 · update #1
If sex IS marriage does that mean a rapist is married to his victim?
2007-05-02 16:30:24 · update #2
There is a chance that waiting until marriage can cause divorce. There are cases of where being sexualy incompatible can cause other problems in the relationship.
Sex before marriage does not cause divorce. Not loving each other enough (or at all), lack of communication, money problems, kid problems and so many other things can cause divorce.
And thats nonsense about someone sinning before marriage will cause them to sin aftwerwards. If they are having sex with YOU (and you consent) how is that a bad thing? If t hey are cheating, that is entirely different. I can't believe how black and white some people see things.
Also, do not get married just because you want to have sex. Thats stupid and thats what makes marriages miserable or fail.
And hey some people live there WHOLE lives together without getting married. Do they love each other any less? No. They just don't need a piece of paper to prove their love to each other.
Also, I agree. Marriage causes divorce hehe.
2007-05-02 16:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by J R 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well I had pre-marital sex and I got pregnant and after my daughter was born we got married, we had a horrible time at first, fights almost every night. but 3 years later we have been fine. God does not approve of pre-marital sex but i don't think he would ruin a marriage for that because God doesn't like divorce either..go read the marriage vows
2007-05-02 16:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe there are several reasons.
1. If a premarital relationship turns sexual too quickly, the relationship will tend to focus too much on the physical part of the relationship and the process of getting to know a person down deep is cut short.
2. Assuming more than one partner is involved, the sexual relationship loses some of it's intimacy and the sexual relationship with your spouse is not as special.
3. If there were other partners, you may compare your spouse to them and develop dissatisfaction with your spouse.
4. If a pregnancy occurs and you get married, there may be bitterness and regret. You may be pushed into a marriage before one (or both) of you are ready.
5. God told us not too because he knows us, knows how we react, and knows how to make a marriage work. He wants the best for us and knows that premarital sex will hurt it.
6. Usually premarital sex occurs for mostly selfish reasons. Successful spouses NEED to be unselfish.
etc., etc.
Blessings
2007-05-02 16:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have sex with a woman you consummate the marriage. Everyone you have sex with other than her makes you an adulterer. A preacher can bless the union but you are married as far a God is concerned. Divorce is not Gods will except in cases of an adulterating spouse. There is forgiveness and restitution for the sincerely repentant. God doesn't break up marriages. He made a special woman for every man to complete him. God wants you to be fruitful and multiply.
2007-05-02 16:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by copperhead89 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
God doesn't break up marriages. Where did you get that one? Who have you been listening to? Better question their knowledge of the Bible.
People break up marriages for all sorts of reasons, premarital sex is not exempt from being one of them. But God didn't make up the list.
2007-05-02 16:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by howdigethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pre-marital sex doesn't cause divorces, you have to actually be married to get a divorce. Pre-marital sex prevents marriage.
2007-05-02 16:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by flow_mj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a couple is not committed enough to each other to wait until marriage to have sex, it's a safe bet that they'll take other shortcuts in their relationship to make things easy rather than to make their relationship stronger. Premarital sex doesn't necessarily CAUSE divorces, but it points to a lack of commitment to each other. If the couple is really committed to each other, why not get married in the first place? That lack of commitment will damage the relationship. Premarital sex is just one symptom of a lack of commitment.
2007-05-02 16:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by Pastor Chad from JesusFreak.com 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think premarital sex causes divorce. Incompatability, selfishness, lack of communication skills, finances, family interference, etc all contribute to divorce.
If I had sex before I married my ex-husband I probably would not have married him in the first place.
2007-05-02 16:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Linda R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God doesnt break up marriages...humans do..its your choice to get married its your choice to end it...pre-marital sex.there are a few sayings that are useful in this debate....why buy the cow when you get the milk for free...which is basically why get married in the first place..and two..would you buy a pair of shoes without trying them on.....i wouldnt..
2007-05-02 16:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by bailie28 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I never heard that.If anything,I'd think having sex after marriage would cause a divorce,because the sex just might not be good.
2007-05-02 16:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by °Tr!n!ty° 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋