My friend recently broke up with her boyfriend of two years, because they are supposedly "unequally yoked". She worships on Saturday and he worships on Sunday. They were planning to get married and, as far as I know, things were going great between them. If they are compatible on other points, including their love for Christ, are they truly unequally yoked?
2007-05-02 14:44:42 · 12 answers · asked by LovablyMe 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is a tough question...but I can see where your friend is coming from, since I also worship on Saturday. The Bible says in Amos 3:3, "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" Think about it. They get married. A couple of kids come along. What are they going to teach their children? Will they worship on Sunday or Saturday? To some, this may not seem like that big of a deal, but to us who believe that Saturday is the Sabbath (and that's a whole another topic), worshiping on Saturday and not Sunday is very important. This could cause discord between the two parents, and create big problems. So yes, in my opinion, they are unequally yoked. This doesn't mean that you have to agree on everything (no two people do), but with something as important as this (again, you can only see the significance of this problem if you understand the way a Sabbath-keeping Christian thinks), they should agree with one another.
2007-05-02 14:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by musicalchik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are referring to St. Paul's words of not being yoked to an unbeliever, the answer is "No." You are both Christians. You may have theological differences, but you are both believers. You do need to think and pray about it, though. Our faith (or lack thereof) shapes our worldview. Marriage is challenging, and having a common outlook makes things much easier, particularly when times are tough. Now, there is a spectrum here. A Pentecostal and a Catholic have *far* more in common than and Christian and a Jew or a Muslim. And any person of faith might have more in common with someone of a different religion than with an atheist. But then, it also depends upon the individual. Some lukewarm "liberal" Catholic might have more in common with an atheist than with a devout "conservative" Catholic. It all depends. You need to talk through a lot of things to see where each other is at. Ask yourself what is flexible and what is non-negotiable, especially when it comes to raising children. (For example, would you be comfortable raising the children Catholic?) These issues should be worked through *before* marriage, not after.
2016-05-19 03:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are unequally yoked. Its not just a belief in the same thing. BUt, they must be on the same page spiritually. If the lady always trys to get him to church on sat,he will resent it, and vice versa. More to quarrell about and God doesnt want that. HE wants us to be on the same page spiritually, so they can be truly as ONE. God doesnt want a mormon to marry a jew, for the same reasons, dont agree on spiritual matters, even if they both claim to believe.
2007-05-02 14:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by full gospel shirley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even tho they are Christians, it sounds if they both follow different religions of Christianity and so their beliefs may have been totally different which would make them unequally yoked.
2007-05-02 14:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Christian or Faith beliefs is not all that counts. although it may be the major area, there are other areas such as - concerning child rearing, financial areas, matters on sex, family/relative interactions, how a home should be kept, who should do the "keep", and there are many more.
some may say all of those are basic things that a couple can work out, but it is those same thing that contribute to separations and divorce is not in sync and thrashed out before the wedding.
2016-05-28 16:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anne-Marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love alone is not a condition for two Christians to be married. There are other things you have to take into consideration before getting married. For example, do you both have the same mission field. If one is called to go be a missionary in South America and the other a missionary in Africa, then it will not work. God will not change His mind about what He has called you to do just because you love someone. If you have different callings the relationship will fall apart because God is not for it. He will withdraw His favor. I met a woman who was highly anointed in the Lord. But the Lord showed me if I married her destruction was going to fall on me, because she was not ready. So I left her alone.
2007-05-02 15:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by super saiyan 3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For awhile they would be good together.But eventually their difference in beliefs would be a contention between them.I would have to say unevenly yoked.
2007-05-02 14:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Mel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is likely a 7th Day Adventist. They are pretty strice from my experience. Ultimately its her decision though. If she feels like they were uequally yoked, then they were.
2007-05-02 14:51:05 · answer #8 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Marriage is a commitment that begins with two wills. In order for the marriage to work, one will has to die. Whereas the two become one!
2007-05-02 14:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by n_007pen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No their not. They simply have a scheduling conflict. Which is easy to compromise on. Even tho they agree on their love for Christ were they from two different religions?
2007-05-02 14:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by lisaandpathailey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋