We met about 7 years ago, there was always something between us, but to start with we were just friends. To cut a long story short i've been sleeping with him on and off for about 4-5 years. When I had a long term boyfriend I didnt sleep with him, but when we broke up, I ran to him, don't think i've have gotten through it without him. Basically he's cheated on every girlfriend he's ever had with me since we met. I'm not proud of our friendship/relationship but it just happens, I can't help it. I'm not sure I would ever trust him if we were a couple becasue I know he's cheated on all of his ex's. Now he's single and leaving. I hate the thought of him not being there, but is that because I love him or just because he's always been there? I don't know if i love him or if its just sex?
2007-05-02 14:32:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just think you've gotten use to him being your "comfort" person. You've known him for quite awhile & regardless of what took place throughout the yrs. he's always been there. You've mentioned his cheating, which of course doesn't nor would it make anyone happy. IF you truly loved someone you wouldn't have to ask, you'd know! I really believe it's just a time thing between you two & the fact you've bounced back & forth a couple times. Do you honestly want to get tied up w/someone you know for a fact has a record of cheating? Do you want to set yourself up to be hurt or disapointed? I'd honestly say to move on & find someone completely new who you can start over with, someone who you can trust & w/be true to you. Why asked to be hurt time after time. AND, you know yourself you'll never be able to trust him. That's no way to have a loving relationship. Think of you, be good to you, you won't regret it. Go forward, not backward!
2007-05-02 14:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask people you don't know if you love him then you don't. the best way to plot the course of a relationship's future is to take a long hard look at it's past. if he has cheated on former girlfriends even if it was with you, he will do the same to you.anyway, it seems like you're his side dish and never the main course since he's always coming to you, yet someone else has the title as girlfriend. doesn't that strike you as odd? if he wants you for real, make him work a little harder and stop being so accessible. you said yourself you can't trust him so if you got with him how would it ever work. it's time wasted keep it moving boo boo.
2007-05-02 21:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a relationship like this. He was always there for me and I thought we had a strong friendship aside from the sex. When I finally got over him, he continued to try to have sex with me and once even became physically aggressive. I confronted him about it and he now wants nothing to do with me. Once I removed the sex from the relationship, I found out my 7 year friendship never really was. Try taking the sex out of the equation and find out what's left. That's probably the only way you are going to know.
2007-05-02 21:50:15 · answer #3 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask whether or not you love him then there is your answer. I say stay far away and get yourself out of that unhealthy relationship- becasue in the end one of you will get hurt- even if there are no strings attatched= and after you have already been in this disoriented realtionship it will be VERY hard to create any other kind of relationship off of it. It's not love and it's not sex. You have slept with a man who has given you no commitment- you are attatched in your own way- and the best remedy is to cut your loses.
2007-05-02 21:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to honestly ask that question then the answer is clearly NO. He's cheated on every girlfriend he's ever had and you're messing around with him? You're asking to get hurt. It's best you walk away now while you haven't got alot invested.
2007-05-02 21:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by boxman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had the kinda same thing goin on with me... cept with a girl... she had cheated on all of her boyfriends she had while we were "seein each other" with me... and then time comes to where she was single and i was too... but i didn't want to go out with her... so in my experiences it's not love it's just the sex and the fact that he has always been there for you... so... like i said in my experiences it's just the sex =)
~haloguitarist
2007-05-02 21:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by Haloguitarist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. sometimes we just want want we can't have. if he's leaving you have to ask: why, if he loves you? whatever the feelings really are, you two clearly have some sort of special bond. who's to say that to be in love you have to be faithful? love does not always equate to fidelity, no matter what some idealistic, unworldly folk tell you
2007-05-02 21:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, if you don't know if you love him, how will we?
Sounds like he's more convenient than anything. I'd let him go and wait six months. If you think about him daily and can't exist, then it could be love. Or obsession.
2007-05-02 21:36:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. is he all you think about? is he the one you know you can fall back on, and he can catch you everytime? have you talked to him about this? does he feel the same way?
whether you love him or not, only you can answer these questions.
good luck
2007-05-02 21:38:59 · answer #9 · answered by Erin Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do think that you love him and it is not matter of sex, give him a chance !
2007-05-02 21:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋