i have been with my bf for 2years and some odd months now and the whole time we been together he has been jealous and wont let me do anything and alot of times he can be mean how do i convince him to let me have friends and do stuff i want to i mean nothing of the stuff i wanna do is bad and he wont let me wear shorts or skirts or tank tops plaese help me convince him to let me imean i love him to death but i want everything to go good
2007-05-02 14:25:52 · 13 answers · asked by jenna_and_josh_love_their_pits 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i love him i dont think i could ever leave him he has been there for me threw everything i dont know what to do hes just controlling and i hate it so much i try telling him the way i feel but he just gets made and says go ahead and wear the W h 0r 3 clothes but they arent lol and i dont wear them cause i dont wanna make him mad
2007-05-02 14:48:29 · update #1
Wow girl 2 years congratulations... being in a relationship is an amazing thing but you always have to work at it to make it work.. communication with your boyfriend is a major thing.. you should always be able to talk to him and tell him if something doesn't feel right with you or if you just need someone to talk to.. You aren't married ..(yet) so he cannot make you stop wearing clothes that perhaps you like to wear.. He just doesn't have that power. Lots of boys are jealous but when they stop you from being your self then you have to put your foot down.. Have a talk with him tell him that just because you wear different clothes it doesn't mean that you will still not like him.... He needs to give you the freedom to do your own things.. You have your own mind and you should be able to use it.. You don' t have to break up iwht him jsut tell him what is bothering you and have a long talk with him.. If he is unwilling to budge on the situation remind him that you chose to go out with him and that you will still love him as much as you did before but you feel that you need him to stop being so jealous with you...
Good luck and i hope that this helps you with your situation..
p.s. i was in the same boat with my bf but now its all good.. ANd i love my skirts!!!
2007-05-02 14:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by *~*Volleyball player*~* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out....even if you do love him...
he is controling, and up to what point do you think he will be controling...it's like a drug and he will just want more and more
the control makes him feel good....so what one day you are married and he doesnt let you leave the house, he locks you in all day with out a phone?
you are at fault as well for letting him control you
the thing is, he probably doesnt have much control for anything, so controling you is best fullfillment he can get
guys like that dont change, no matter how much they say they will....
any guy you are with should let you be you
why shouldnt you be allowed to were shorts or skirts or tank tops....thats worse than parents
friends are what make life, you need them
jealouse guys are the worst
and nothing will go good at this rate, so as much as you hate to, leave him now....otherwise it just gets harder and harder and you become more of a prisoner than a girlfriend
good luck
2007-05-02 21:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by zero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm....sounds like a possible "control freak." I almost got too involved in a similar situation. It's fairly common though. Especially the "no friends" part. Mainly, that says he wants all your time and no one else can have any.(it's a form of love, but a selfish one.) The whole clothing thing usually means "I don't want other guys looking at/lusting over your body. It's mine!" that's typically an overreacted selfish love signal too. He needs to listen to how you feel about this. A clear and precise talk is in order. It's not against the law to have friends and do things you like to do. He's not being fair to you. Believe me, if you don't talk to him right away about this, if you ever get married, you might end up in a muzzel on a really short leash and put in a kennel when he's not around.
2007-05-02 21:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by spock777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i have boyfriend somewhat like that, but maybe a little less liek that. if it bothers you alot talk to him about it, ask why and all kinds of things. Maybe he thinks you are going to leave him soon, or you are being with other people. It usually has to do with a fear of losing you. Especially if it is so sudden. But really I think you should ask him. I mean what can it do, if he doesnt give you an answer then he shouldnt be telling you what to do.
2007-05-02 21:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by xxitzana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He is no longer respecting you and your freedoms. He will not change since you've let him control you so far. You are a person that should be living as such--don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Tell him your feelings and if he doesn't agree, then you've been shown a clear indication of how much he cares for you.
2007-05-02 21:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don´t think that you will ever convince him to let you wear this or that or have friends... he is so manipulating you and cutting off your life for real stupid reasons... i think the best you can do is just leave him and move on... i know you must love him and such but do you see the rest of your life living with someone that will always be telling you who to talk or not to talk to and what to wear? what will come next? i´ve seen a lot of this manipulative guys and how they treated close friends of mine, promised them they will change and they actually did change for a couple of months but at the end they will go back to acting stupid with them...
2007-05-02 21:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie F 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i have to give up our relationship or i mean in 2 years he never trusted you, how did you take it?...he is only your boyfriend he doesn't have any right to control your life and i guess your not a robot to be moved by a remote control...be realistic coz the two of you is a different person besides before he came to your life you can do what you want or i mean you moved comfortable...and always remember this...NEVER CHANGE BECAUSE OF OTHERS BUT CHANGE BECAUSE YOU WANT IT AND IT IS FOR THE BETTER...
2007-05-02 21:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by cutieperl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him somethign like you realize he is looking out for, but you want to be yourself. Let him know you understnad and love him, but you need your friends to, or else you guys may end up fighting. If he still doesn't understand its probably not worth it, but keep at it, because i know it's hard to loose someoen you have loved for so long.
2007-05-02 21:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by music fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f is obsessive. He wants to own you because he thinks you're his and only his and shouldn't look good but only for him.
Tell him the way you dress or the friends you hang out with are none of his business, if he likes it he likes it, if he doesn't say goodbye to him because he isn't worth spending time with him.
2007-05-02 21:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by peachy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is let him go. Let him know that if he can't exist without controlling your life, you won't be a part of his.
2007-05-02 21:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by Theophilus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋