Would like to start dating, I'm 5'9 tall,thin,long legs and all those good things, but I'm shy and somewhat an introvert.I would like to start dating, but I don't like getting rejected and I think men can smell my inexperience a mile off.
I was okay with it really,but I'm feeling quite odd to say the least with the big 24 approaching soon
Any words of wisdom?
I have a good job in a reputable firm, and everything I ever wanted so far.but....
2007-05-02 14:24:05 · 19 answers · asked by wound_thight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people have said dating sites. do NOT do this. now there are a couple of ways about going about this... first and foremost get a group of friends (fun ones) and go out somewhere...either a bar or club or heck even bowling...just get out and about so you can meet people. Now since you are with friends you will be relaxed and social im hoping, if not just try to relax and not care what people think (this is hard, I know) once you have this down people will be attracted to your fun loving high spirit and come and talk to you or at least take notice. it will also make conversation flow easier if you are relaxed. If you can't seem to relax a little something to drink will help (do NOT get drunk...tipsy is comfortabley social, drunk will repel girls and attract gutter sluts) im assuming you are a very dedicated worker and so were writing essays all of HS, or you just went to one like mine where there were no worthy girls...hopefully college will be better for me...but anyway, if you see a girl you like who is near by, eavsdrop on the convo a little and if you hear something that perks your interest politely butt in and say you over heard her say such and such and start a convo....you may hate rejection but experience is the best medicine in this case...you gonna get a little rejection here and there but its worth it....happy hunting haha
2007-05-02 14:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Remedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's easier said than done, but you can't be afraid of rejection. If you get rejected, so what? If I told you that if you asked a 100 girls and only one WILL accept you, wouldn't you start asking out girls right NOW? I tell you, getting rejected by all 100 girls is NOT easy. Chances favor you. So don't be afraid. The worst thing they can say is "no" (ok, so maybe it's laughing at your face and telling the whole world, but that won't happen). So, I'm telling you to go out and ask a 100 girls out (you'll more likely find one before you reach 100). Look for opportunities and make opportunities for yourself. Go out with friends, social functions. You have to be more social, that's the catch. Have someone set up a friend for you. You can also use the internet, but there are a lot of weirdos out there, so be aware. Good luck!
2007-05-02 21:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you live in a big city there are a lot of interesting and worthwhile things that a young woman can get into. find out where some of the hot spots are in your area by talking to young outgoing women that you associate with. maybe you can form a single girls night out and with the other women around (and a couple of drinks in your system) you may find the confidence(which is key) to approach a hot guy that you will most certainly spot that evening and who knows what's next. don't worry about rejection cause you're a catch right? well if he let's you slip away then it's on him. just be yourself quirks and all and you will click with the guy that's for you. have fun
2007-05-02 21:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you're just so beautiful that mere mortal men wonder if they could possibly ever perform enough heroic feats to make themselves good enough for the goddess. Get used to walking up to guys and starting conversations with them. Identify common interests. If he rejects you, that's his loss. Really, a good guy wouldn't concern himself about your inexperience, nor would it bother him if a woman were experienced, for that matter.
2007-05-02 21:52:03 · answer #4 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same position pretty much so i'm not sure if i can be of any help...but here goes....
get out there and meet a nice guy, not one that is looking for just the one thing.
be confident
try to go out and make guy friends, pretty soon one of them will be more than friend material....always take baby steps and never rush things.....
find common ground and grow from that
dont wait too long, cuz if you want to get married and have kinds and stuff, you need to at least start dating cuz it'll take time to find the right guy and settle down with him and make a family
.....i think i need the same kind of advice....
good luck
2007-05-02 21:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would probably ask a co-worker or a single best friend..don't be offended if they don't say yes to your invention its hard no without hurting someones feelings. Ask them to do something simple on a first date like go out to coffee or go see a movie.On the first couple of dates don't say bad qualities about yourself.Say them one date at a time and when you know each-other better.Don't eat like a slop but don't act perfectly proper people like people that are laid back but no over the edge (couch potato). i hope i have helped a bit and other people can help support my answer!
2007-05-02 21:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Think that you just turned 18 and you are going to start dating.
2. Rejection is a part of this game. You decide in your mind that Yes comes only after 10 "NO" s. So each time you are rejected you should think that you are one step closer to a "YES" answer.
Good luck !
2007-05-02 21:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
23 and never EVER dated? WHY? may i ask , why?You give a shi*? you a virgin too? All i can say is get out there and get some experience, some men might like a virginal girl like you but hey its all up to you, why dont you meet men at work or out? good luck
2007-05-02 21:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost every relationship started by talking to the person online. They went to my school or lived around me, but it always just started talking online. I'm shy too, and once I got to know their personality I was always eager to meet them and hang out. IF you're as shy as I was get to know someone first before you start dating them. Then you'll know they like you back.
2007-05-02 21:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by Randy S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
23, now this will be hard for you but you should start talking to people on the internet that live close to you, get to know them and get comfortable talking to them, then after a month or two or however you want to wait, see the one you feel as if it could work out and get to know him in person.....its should be easier to date that way
2007-05-02 21:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋