I don't think I have any place in the church?

Question

I enjoy sinning too much. Everything I find fun, christians tell me is a sin. Premaridal sex, drinking, partying all day, strip clubs, bars, brothels, the whole bit. Christians are against all that. I couldn't give any of that up even if I wanted to.

Answer 1

God is so much better than all that. If you had God, you wouldn't be able to give Him up. I'm not talking about just believing in Him, but just being a part of Him and His presence. You should try it.

Answer 2

I bet you don't have much money by the end of the month.

Bible is big against adultery. But in the old testament, if you get a woman pregnant, you had to pay the father a dowry and take the girl as your wife. This comes out of Exodus. So, use a condom. Women Chrisitans may give me a thumbs down for this.

But even the porn stars will tell you off camera that there is a point where you can have too much of a good thing and not feel anything or desire for a woman at all and where sex becomes more routine and less enjoyable. And that is depressing and awful. There is a proverb that says: Moderation in all things.

When you are ready for something else, come back to church. That is up to you. But death comes like a thief in the night and you do not know when you are going, so don't stay away for too long. If you die before you are born again, you will be screwed for eternity.

As Christians, we sin all the time but 1 John 1:9 says that we can confess our sins and be forgiven because we believe in God. Whenever you want to confess, God will be there. Just don't do this too late.

Answer 3

Yes, Every single one of those things you listed is a sin...and every single one of them has negative consequences...but that doesn't mean that you don't have a place in the church. The difference is if you have a desire to have a place in the church. Look at who Jesus was associated with back in the day...he hung out with Prostitutes, Thieves, Drunkards, etc...but the difference is once he touched their lives they WANTED to change. He touched their lives and they changed and became followers of Christ...and I guarantee you they were much happier doing that than the lifestyle they had before. God gave each and every human a conscience, and even though most people ignore it, it's still that voice deep inside telling you that this isn't right. Human nature knows what's right and wrong. We just chose to do the things that cause us instant gratification and pleasure and tend to ignore the pain it will bring in the end. Being a Christian doesn't mean that you can't have any fun...if that was the truth then no one would be a Christian...Satan has blinded the world into believing that getting drunk, sleeping around, and anything else is "acceptable" even encouraged...but are you going to take advice from one who's greatest pleasure would be to see you be utterly destroyed? If you have any other questions, please feel free to email me.

Answer 4

Those things are your gods. You worship them. The thing about sin is once it has a hold on you...it increases. You always need a little more to be satisfied. I'm sorry you are controlled by so much evil but I'll pray you turn from this life style and ask God to renew your mind and change the desires of your heart. You are really headed down a destructive road and probably taking some loved ones with you. You say you couldn't stop if you wanted to but that is a lie out of hell. With God's help, you can stop......you just have to want to. In your condition, the best place to be is in the church where people who care about you can help you. Believe me the crowd you're running with will leave you high and dry in the end. God be with you and protect you from yourself.

Answer 5

Before Christ got a hold of me, I was into pre-marital sex, strip clubs, drinking and other whatever else I could find.

Don't think that to go to church, or to "become a Christian" God wants you to first give up that stuff. And don't think that going to church and "saying some prayer" is going to make you a Christian.

Everybody is a sinner - NOBODY is good enough to get into heaven. EVERYBODY deserves to go to hell - yeah, Hitler AND Billy Graham too. God doesn't even want us to "try to be good enough" to deserve heaven. What He does want is this: Think about who He is - He's the perfect Creator of the universe. He made everything and everyone. It is FAIR that He cn make the rules. Being PERFECT, He will not (and should not) be in the presence of sin - so NOBODY deserves to be in His presence.

So what can we do? We want to go to heaven - instead of hell, right? And we realize that we CANNOT be good enough to get to go. He also LOVES us completely. He made a way for us to get to heaven and be with Him again. He sent Jesus, His Son, to pay our penalty - IF we'll accept Him. He's not talking Monopoly's "Get Out Of Jail Free" card. He means trading our "I'm the boss of me" attitude for a new one of "I realize that You make a better boss of me" attitude.

When somebody loves you alot, and gives much of themselves for you, how do you act towards them? Do you kinda ignore what happened, or do you change the way you act around them? Change the way you talk about them to others? Change the things you do that have an effect on your relationship with them?

When I realized what Jesus had done for me, THEN I changed. To often, the message gets presented backwards - "Change how you are, so God will love you".

Where the bible says that faith without works is dead, it means that when you REALLY have a saving faith in Christ, it will be reflected by the works that will naturally flow out of you.

The sins that you do, that I did offend God. When you see His love in your life, they will start to offend you too. You will no longer look at those things the same.

Seek God. Ask Him to guide you. Look for a RELATIONSHIP with Him - not for a "church" to feel comfortable in.

Answer 6

You think that now. But when you give your heart to Jesus, you'll find things are so much better. You won't miss your old way of life. You'll be so thriled with the new. Please change the path you're on before it's too late. God bless and keep you safe from the perils of this world.

I've never been into any of the things you describe. And I don't feel I'm missing a thing. In fact, my life is richer for NOT having done all that.

Answer 7

Why do you want to go to church, then? You're already a hedonist. That's a religion in itself. Do you want something more? It sounds like you might need church when you have burned out from all your fast living. Is there anything missing in your life? Usually people go to church because they want a better life. Do you like who you are? Would you want your son to follow in your footsteps? God is your father,right? He wants what's best for you, right? Do you feel that God doesn't care about you? That seems to be more of an issue than what 'they' don't allow. What would happen if you did give all that up? Would you still like yourself even if you couldn't have everything you want? Are you hoping someone will notice what you're doing and talk you out of it? Are you looking for someone to tell you that God is up there cheering for you? If you're convinced that you are doing what is best for you, what does it matter?

Answer 8

If you wanted to.
Omit the 'if', make it sure you want to quit those 'fun'. Then you will be able to quit, especially if you ask the asistance of Lord Jesus.
But you are not ready to discard the 'if', therefore Lord Jesus is giving you ample times to reconsider.
Even if you think you don't have any place in the church, you actually have a place in Jesus' loving heart! Go and join Him, and you will enjoy an elevated kind of joy and happiness than you've already familiar with.

Answer 9

I would agree with you and if the Church had more sense it would not let people in with that attitude. The Bible says turn them over to their sin that they may have a chance later. If the Church coddles you it becomes a willing participant in your debauchery.

Have fun and when you get an STD or kill some loved one or innocent in a drunken car wreck seek the Church and ultimate healing.

Answer 10

You have to feel empty and alone and looking for answers if you are on R/S. People that live with words like that are looking for the truth and the way. Moral and Legal things are being violated, so we know your choices are wrong. Truth is the 10 commandments and the secret of life and are not wrong. God made it known to all of mankind to love one another and not exploit them and forgive others that sin against us and worship God by keeping his words.

Worshiping evil is wrong and puts another wordily god before God. Violation of laws, both God's and man's law,only leads to trouble and despair.

If you let the evil anvil fall off of you and sink into the sea, you will be able to swim through life. So all things are possible with God and drowning in lust and debauchery are choices I will try to stay away from.

Answer 11

I would hae to agree. If you aren't interested in trying to stop sinning, then why go anyway? If you are interested, than a good church would accept you and help you. We are all sinners, regardless of wht we believe. It's whether or not you believe only God can forgive you that makes the difference.