My fiance and i have everything we need for our house we have both been living on our own for a while now...anyways when our family and friends CALL and ASK us what we want for our wedding. I was told i was rude for asking for money like i was beggin or something which i am not i am simply answering their question. Is this rude of my guests to ask us what we want?
2007-05-02 13:07:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Also we are getting married in another province and plan to fly to the east coast after the reception is over.
2007-05-02 13:11:01 · update #1
my guests are not f*ckin weirdos! they just know how damn picky me and my fiance are and that we have pretty much everything.
2007-05-02 13:11:54 · update #2
meg3f that is a wonderful suggestion! thanks
2007-05-02 13:18:25 · update #3
It depends on how you say it. Mostly I don't think it is rude. Just explain that you have everything you need, but that a gift card to (insert the name of your favorite store) would be nice. Its a little less crass then saying money. In my opinion.
2007-05-02 13:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by meg3f 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be flexible. Say, whatever catches your eye! Or something like that. It is kind of rude to just straight up ask for money. Money isn't really a wedding gift. Say a gift card, or a certificate somewhere where we can have a romantic dinner, or buy things for the house!
2007-05-02 20:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually it is a matter of courtesy but really when people ask that they just want you to say "'whatever you want anything is fine with me''. It is rude to answer honestly according to books but the RIGHT thing you know cuz there are like imaginary rules and written rules is to answer honestly. So truthfully you should just say ''im okay with whatever you give me''
2007-05-02 20:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guests appear to be more concerned about your needs, then rude. Make a list of expendable items, like towels and sheets, and tell them that you are in need of them. You could also register somewhere, and tell them where you are registered, and let them make some choices.
2007-05-02 20:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was not rude of you at all. If your friends and family don't like what you have to say then quit asking and buy you something on their own
2007-05-02 20:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Sawman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they are going to ask you what you want---and you prefer cash----and you tell them this, you are just giving an honest answer. I don't think it's rude of your guests to ask you what you want, and I don't think it's rude of you to tell them you'd prefer money. If they don't like your answer, that's their problem.
2007-05-02 21:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that was rude, I mean you answered honestly, and why would they give you something you don't need? right? But you shouldn't be rude too, if they bring something else after you asked them for money.
2007-05-02 20:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by Little-one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way it is, I would have said If I had everything. It is not necessary to give anything, just your presence will be enough, but if you feel you should, such and such a thing would be nice. or anything you pick I am sure will be nice.
2007-05-02 20:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by sientje8 s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude for them to ask, and it's not rude for you to answer honestly.
2007-05-02 20:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
wow... your guests are f*ckin B*tches seriously... what weirdos
2007-05-02 20:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋