REPOST: Need some help here ppl!?

Question

I like this guy, but does he like me only as a friend or more?
I have known this guy for about 4 years now. Just recently we have begun to talk to eachother again. A friend of mine has told me clearly that she 'knows' he has a crush perhaps on me because of something that has happened recently. Last weekend I had come back from the club and my 'guy friend' called me to ask if I was still coming over to his house. (Earlier I had called him to tell him I would be coming to his house) I told him that I was already home and had changed my clothes He said "ok well I was going to say i have a car, but nevermind." I physically slapped my forehead for being so naive, so I persuaded him to come pick me up and he did. He came to my house to pick me up at 2 AM. We were at his house and we watched a DVD but at the corner of my eye I noticeed that he would glance at me for a long period of time and then turn away. Also, he playfully slapped my thigh like 5 times. Oh and I gave him a scratch on his arm and he asked me to make it feel better- a kiss on his arm.

my guy friend and I started making out in his room yesterday....all of a sudden he started whispering in my ear, and asking "tell me what you want"....then things got hot and heavy. The next thing I know, he's rubbing up and down my thighs....then my bra comes off and I'm urging him to continue. We didn't have sex....nothing was messed with in the lower regions....just my upper body parts. He told me he wouldn't go that far unless I wanted to..... Is he into me or is this his way of getting a quickie? was it just lust...does he like me? or something more? oh and before anyone assumes I'm not old enough....I am, we are both 20 yrs old

I notice that I'm the one who has to call him all the time. Why is this? Is he just use to the fact that I will call? what can't he call me for once? I do notice though, that if I call and he doesn't answer....he will call back and talk to me for a while even if its just for 3 minutes to say "whats up?"

Answer 1

Well, based on that last remark regarding him not calling you back, then he is not interested in you. Being a guy myself, and although I have grown much from doing these stupid things, if we don't call you back, then we are only interested in one thing.

Also, its the oldest trick in the book. If a guy wisphers in your ear and asks you if he should keep going, thats just our way of making you feel as if you do have power and that we really do care for you. Its stupid, yes, but we do that. Remember the fundamental things to a relationship that keep them going; if you really enjoy and have feelings for someone, then you will want to speak with them, and won't be able to wait for them to call you back.

My advice, just don't call him back again. If he wants to hang out, then ask him out to dinner, or to the park, or places where you and him wont have that privacy form the world; and if he is enjoying himself rather than wanting to hurry to the next empty home, then its good.

Good luck.

Answer 2

hon, there's not a lot of info here to KNOW whether he likes you or just wants a quickie. however, since you're both young, odds are he likes you but alsoooooo really likes sex. if he can get just the sex, he may not need to keep hanging out. a sure sign that may be the case is that you are always the one to call. when a guy likes you he calls you cause he misses you. calling you back right away may only mean he doesn't want to miss the chance for some nookie. if you're concerned he may disappear if you go far with him, then don't go there. wait til you've hung out more and you have a better idea what this dude's about.

Answer 3

This is coming from an older man, but guys don't normally stop things if they are looking for "just a quickie". The fact that he respected you enough to have you call the shots, and the pace, tell me that he may truely like you. One way you may be able to tell is to notice how he acts the next time you are together. If he's "handsy" and is pushing the issue, it may not be real, but if you have to initiate things again, then he's nervous...and nervous equals genuine feelings. Good luck!

Answer 4

Sounds like he's just a little slow on the draw. He likes you, he's just afraid to make a wrong move. It's a good sign that you guys didn't actually have sex; that he's not just trying to get something from you and then forget you. I think he's just a little bit of a slow mover. He may be intimidated at the thought of actually having a serious thing w/you. Just take it slow, & maybe eventually things will take off.

Answer 5

Hard to say, but a guy at 20 is always looking for a quickie my dear.

Answer 6

He is just using you. It seems like that is OK with you. If that is all you want to be in life maybe you should ask for a little money and make it official.

Answer 7

It sounds like this guy does like you and to respect you enough not to push to go further is very rare. Keep on to him and respect him. You don't want him going to another woman do you? Take things slow.

Answer 8

He likes you and if he doesnt then hes using you just straight up and ask him out on a "date" and see how things go. I wish you the best

Answer 9

well, that is a hard question. i had the same experience i mean the call. Also, i think you guys are doing it tooo quick. He never actually said he wanted to be your bf. So, i would ask him staight out.

Answer 10

It sounds like he wants one thing from you... and what he wants isn't a long and lasting relationship full of love, trust, and responsibility toward each other.