im seventeen but i really want a baby....?

Question

im seventeen i work with children everyday...i have six brothers and sisters...ive always been told i have the mother instinct...its like a piece of me is missing...im prepared for everything...names to what furniture and toys...to labor and doctor check ups....should i have a baby?

Answer 1

Im 16 and just had my first child on april 5th. Pregnancy and being a mother is hard but with the right support system its very possible to make it work just as if you were "of age". I do very well with my daughter and my boyfriend. We support ourselves NO ONES TAXES DO thank you very much. Not all young moms are condemn to fail. Im doing just fine still in high school getting good grades. Just make sure you think it threw before you make any final decisions. goodluck

Answer 2

You may be ready but that doesn't mean you should have a baby.

Consider your living situation, finances, relationships, etc.

Do you have a stable job with above minimum wage pay? Will they allow maternity leave for delivery and a few months with the baby? Could you afford childcare to return to work? Would your bf/fiancee/husband/crush/etc. want this? Would you be missing out on schooling, partying, friends, travel, etc. for this baby? Now to some extent when you have a baby no matter where you are in life you will miss out on things. But if you have the choice wait if you know there are things you really want to do that a baby would keep you from doing. You do not have to answer my questions but consider this:

I was ready at 17. My fiancee never married me, cheated on 4 times, broke up with me constantly, did drugs, etc. all after the fact that I wanted to have a baby. It takes two to make a baby. If he's not ready you should wait. I waited (not lieing I didn't wait intentionally but I was lucky to have not gotten pregnant with my ex) and I now have a wonderful husband, a beautiful healthy son, I'm pregnant again and I'm only 20. Three years may sound like a lot but it's really not. Having a child speeds up time to a point you want it to stop. Don't do that to yourself at 17. You will need so much help if you are planning to be a single mom and just in general it is so hard to raise a family if you are not sure. If you have to ask if you should have a baby that shows you know it would not be best right now.

By all means have a baby when you are ready and have someone you love that is ready and willing too. But please at least try to wait til you have the finances to do it as well. My husband and I are happy but we are struggling financially. Establish credit and make all your payments on time. If you have trouble talk tot the company about it before it is late. They will usually work something out with you. Find someone you want to have children with and get a house together. Then is when you should try.
Megan, Aiden(6months), and bun in the oven

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel and honestly I tried so many years to do just that! But really you need to wait. First of all you are only 17...physically your body is absolutely not ready! You want the best possible future for your child! Wait till you know you are with the right man. My son doesn't have a father because I didn't wait for the right man. I can only imagine the heart ache he will have growing up. Are you financially ready? It is so hard to raise a baby on 75 dollars a week...or whatever you make babysitting. That's what I am doing....literally! I do not ever regret my child! I love him soooo very much, but I should have waited. I feel so selfish when I look at him and realize I did it just because I wanted a baby...wanting a baby does not make you a great mother.

Answer 4

Not unless you have a trust fund behind you. Babies are sweet, but they cost much, much more than most people expect. You should know this if you've researched car seats, strollers, cribs, mattresses, diapers, etc. Are you at a job that could support a child and that you can enjoy for a long time or do you plan to attend night/online schooling? Who would take care of the baby during those times or in times of illness? Do you have medical insurance, a doctor you trust, and have you read what you should expect during a pregnancy? What about a father? I think you should definitely think some more on this. You'll probably find that you can wait a little.

Answer 5

I know that you want a baby, but you're still a child yourself (at 17 years old). You still haven't even finish high school and your body hasn't even finish developing. At your age, I wanted the same thing; I wanted a baby of my own. I would list baby names and look in the baby deptments at stores. What I didn't realize then was I really couldn't afford $10,000+ hospital bills that come with giving birth in a hospital. I didn't realize I couldn't afford to raise a child and give it all it needs. Babies are very expensive even for married couples who have good jobs. Please hold off until your body has time to finish developing and find a wonderful husband who will love and support you as well as the children that will come along. It cost me over $500 for baby furniture (and I still don't have everything I need) that was Wal-Mart's price (I'm married and trying to conceive.). Do you have your own health insurance (not insurance from parents) to cover prenatal care? Do you have your own place to live at (not your parent's house)? Are you married? Do you have a high school diploma? Do you have a job that (at least) pays $20,000 a year? If you can't answer "yes" to any of these questions, you are not ready to have a child. You still have plenty of time to have kids. You are "only" young once...don't waste it by getting pregnant young.

Answer 6

Enjoy your young life. You are to young to become a mother. You sound like a very mature young lady but there is more to raising a child than just names,furniture, toys, labor and doctor checkups. How are you going to support yourself and the baby and pay bills and put food on the table. No, Sweetie, get your education and wait a few more years. I know when the time comes you are going to make an awesome Mom but wait for awhile.

Answer 7

hey hun im around children all the time and i know what you mean i have the mother instict too :) hehe..but honestly you are way too young i think you should wait to have kids. Its better if You first finish school and get a well paid job to take care of baby :) and its also a good thing to choose the right guy that will be there for you and baby. Take advantage right now that youre young to have fun, do good in school and enjoy life. Youre only young once so dont rush on things :)

Answer 8

First off remember babies do not give love they suck it up like sponges. Second what kind of life can you as a 17 year old offer the child when they grow up. How will you shelter, feed and cloth them? When the child wants to go to space camp or college will have the money to allow them to grow and explore or will they be stuck a statistic at poverty level. Statistics prove that a child in a 2 parent home succeed where as single parent households have a much harder time. Part of having a baby is preparing a place in the world for them and giving them best oppurtunity to succeed. You are young and you have time so why don't you first learn how to take care of yourself, then prepare a place for your child, then pursue having a child.

Answer 9

Do the child and yourself a favor and wait until you are older. You should make sure you finish school, have fun and enjoy being young first, then find a husband, and then have a baby. It will make your life better and the child's. I thought I wanted to have a baby as soon as possible when I was your age and now I am glad I waited. I feel like I would be missing out on a lot of things now if I had a child. I am only 22 and I am finishing my college right now and enjoying myself while doing it.

Answer 10

No,I think you should wait until you graduate from high school and get a good paying job and you know for sure your in love with the guy and he's really in love with you then get married and a year or so after and you both feel it's time then have that baby you want. Believe me I had my first baby when I was 15 I missed out on my prom ,graduation with my friends and hanging out with my friends I got on home studies but never took the three test I had to do Graduate because I was 8 months pregnant with my second baby( which I got pregnant on birth control ) and didn't want to be the only one up there pregnant,then I went back to school when I was 23 and got my diploma and now I'm 25 married to someone other then my children's dad cause he decide to get on drugs and cheat on me and their dad isn't in there lives and he doesn't call them and he doesn't even know how to pay child support.So please wait until your older and really ready.