Yesterday I told him that I am a Muslim, and now he refuses to talk to me. I haven't done anything except tell him about my faith, but he reacted really angrily, he said I had betrayed him... that I have been lying to him and he can't trust me... but I think that since my personal choice of faith does not involve him he shouldn't be so angy at me, it's not like I'm going around telling him he's going to Hell or even trying to make him into a Muslim. Anyway, should I try to fix our friendship, or should I just cut my losses and say goodbye to my best friend?
2007-05-02 11:50:36 · 22 answers · asked by Murtaz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is no friend. He never was, he never will be. Move on.
2007-05-02 11:52:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's your best friend then you should try to fix the friendship. Chances are if you both work to understand the others position, you'll both realize why each of you reacted the way you did. Chances are he's trying to tell you that he feels lied to, like you don't trust him and he wonders if he can really trust you. You did not feel it necessary to state your religion since it something you practice privately. Let him know why you told him your religious beliefs. Why did you want him to know? Was it because you realized he should know...since he's your best friend? And reassure your friend that you trust him and that that was not the reason you did not tell him that you are a Muslim.
Chances are that if you both sit down and talk it over you'll both remember why you are best friends in the first place and how much trust and care you have for each other. Just try to understand his position, why he feels angry, and try to reassure him that you weren't being deceptive and that you do trust him. Afterall, trust is a key factor in a friendship.
I am sure everything will work out okay if you just talk it over.
Peace be with you both.
2007-05-02 20:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by gabriel_zachary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are closed minded when it comes to people different than them. Many of those people assume that their friends have the same beliefs as them and lash out and feel 'betrayed'.
You didn't do anything wrong. And don't think it's because you're Muslim - chances are he'd have that reaction if you told him you were an Atheist or a Deist or a Pagan or anything else.
He might come around but he might not. If he doesn't then he's not a real friend and it's better to let the friendship dissolve. It might hurt now but in the long run you don't need 'friends' like that.
2007-05-02 18:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by Zimmia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this a personal friend or an Internet relationship?
If this is a real life friendship, then how could he not know you are Muslim? If he didn't know it, then it seems to me you hid it from him face to face during the span of your friendship. If you knew he didn't like Muslims and hid it, then he is justified.
If this is an Internet relationship then you probably should have been up front about who you are. But you should not really care that he is bigoted toward your religion.
2007-05-02 19:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Truth7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how he feels. It's a shock to find out that a friend you liked and trusted has such a deep personality disorder, and I imagine he's feeling hurt and confused. Can he trust you ever again?
You should apologise for being so gullible and damaged, and promise to educate yourself about reality as soon as you can. Ask for your friend's help in ridding yourself of this dangerous delusion before it's too late.
CD
2007-05-02 19:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends. How long have you known him??? Have you both decided on a close relationship??? Have you misled him about your religious beliefs? If you are completely innocent in this, after a while may he will calm down and get over the shocking revelation. If he doesn't if your belief in Allah is strong then you will have to tell him aufwiedersehn. Ta, Ta arrividerch, hasta la vista, baby!!!!!
2007-05-02 19:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by magpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your best friend and he did not know what religion you were?
(there seems to be more to the picture or less to the picture)
If he means a lot to you then try to work it out. Most best friends mean a lot to the person calling one a best friend.
2007-05-02 19:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by Clark H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on you.
I don't understand how he figures it's a betrayal in any way.
If he's your best friend, and you love him, you'll have to forgive his anger.
You can work on helping him to get past obvious prejudices he has about your faith. Or you can cut your losses.
I come here to build bridges. To help people with misunderstandings. So my choice would be to help him understand what it means to be Muslim.
2007-05-02 18:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he's very stereotypical. You deserve better than that (coming from a Christian). I'm not predjuced against muslims, we just have different beliefs. We think each other is wrong, but we're also both people with feelings.
2007-05-02 18:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by spiritdragon92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could listen to him to find out why,if he'll talk to you.But I wouldn't push it past that.People have a choice.My faith is mine.As should yours be yours.If he doesn't understand and see you as the same person.I'd move on .He wasn't really a friend to begin with.Pray for guidance.
Bless you.
You still have the rest of us as friends :)
2007-05-02 18:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by Christal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend would accept you for who you are. I'm sorry, it's hard to lose someone you consider a friend, but you're better off without someone like that in your life. A friend is someone you can count on.
2007-05-02 19:01:59 · answer #11 · answered by QaHearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋