2007-05-02 09:55:23 · 8 answers · asked by speedburner77385 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
custody was granted to ex with me having visitation. he's in a uncomfortable situation.
2007-05-02 10:10:55 · update #1
this is a tuff tuff situation, I myself moved from one parents house to the other when I was 12 yrs old. Now please during this remember what this 12 yr old is going through. choosing between parents can seem like an easy decision, but truly it is difficult and can change their life in many ways. Okay, I don't know your situation and please don't feel the need to tell me, but here is the important facts to remember, safety, health, education and finances, okay if the safety, health and education of the child are good in both homes then finances will become an issue if the other parent chooses to fight you for custody. If they will not fight then no lawyer is needed, and you must have some idea how this person will react. So be honest with yourself, and think about if you will need a lawyer, cause you will be able to answer that yourself. If you truly don't know get a free consultation with a lawyer just to be prepared. After that please make sure you talk with this child several times before the next step is taken. And please when the subject is spoke of with the other parent for the first time, you do it, (don't make the child do it) cause the reaction may not be pleasant. speaking from experience, I was the child and I had to tell my mother, I was moving in with my dad, hey it was horrible and I will never forget it. so talk it over with the other parent yourself first. After that sit and talk to your child, and hopefully for them, the rest will be an easy and good change. However, it goes, goodluck and remember make sure the child knows he is loved very much......
2007-05-02 11:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume your are the boy's biological parent. In that case you share custody with the other parent and you don't need any special paper work or court documents to exercise your guardianship over your child.
You will need a copy of his medical and school records so you can get him admitted into school.
I would say that you should get a Power of Attorney from the other parent, but even that is not necessary. If you have to make major decisions then you automatically have that power since he is living under your roof. You can claim him as a tax deduction (after he has lived with you for one full year) and you enjoy all the rights given to a parent.
It seems that you have been apart from the boy and his mother for a while (just a guess here). So you may not be as experienced a parent as you could be. You will have to be his parent, not his friend. Your child will be trying to find his limits so he will be pushing you to do things that may not be right for someone his age. You will have to provide the balance and curb him when he pushes too hard and give him the freedom to be a young teenager when you can. This challenge will only increase, as your son gets older. Good Luck.
2007-05-02 10:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the other parent agrees to it than you wouldnt need a lawyer. If that is not the case you will have to file for physical custody in family court and a lawyer would surely help! If the other parent fights you it could be difficult and it could be a lengthy process and there is no guarentee you would win.
2007-05-02 23:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a lawyer if he's just coming to stay with you and you're the biological parent. If the other parent contests this then you might need to go to court to arrance custody but otherwise, I would just recommend talking with the other parents and making sure everything is in order. Also make sure you get all of your son's medical information including a list of allergies, doctors, medical ID numbers, etc. and probably all school information and a list of emergency numbers i.e. grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.
2007-05-02 10:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a certain age where the child can legally make that decision for themselves. I was 14...I went to visit my dad for a weekend but never came home. My mom called the police and a lawyer and was totally I was the right age to choose for myself legally and she could not win unless she could prove without a doubt harm was being done. It may be different in different states. Fight for your child if you have to.
2007-05-02 12:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lawyer will make things much easier for you. He will petition the court on your behalf to allow the son to come live with you. He will know all the steps to follow.
2007-05-02 10:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by DOT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File a petition in court and yes I reccommend you retain a lawyer it makes the process a lot more smoother
2007-05-02 10:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by mrsknowitall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i there a court order saying that he has to live with someone else? Because then obviously you'd need legal permission to make a change.
Or, was it just a decision perviously made between you and who ever the care-giver is now? If that's the case, then you just need to talk to them and see if you can arange a change.
2007-05-02 10:00:14 · answer #8 · answered by Tex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋