My child's father has been threatening me to get cusotdy of our baby so that he won't have to pay much child support. I live in Minnesota. The waiting list for court is a year and I don't have money for a lawyer and he's rich. I don't want him to have any custody, AT ALL! What should I do??? I'd rather go without child suport than have him get any custody. I cry myself to sleep every night!! He's not on the birth certificate and keeps demanding a paternity test so he can have her. What are the chances that an ummarried couple would get shared custody if the mother doesn't want it??
2007-05-02 09:26:15 · 5 answers · asked by Lovemydaughter07 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If he thinks he is the father, he has a right to a paternity test. I don't care what anyone says, fathers do have rights.
If the biological father has a steady job, no dependancy on drugs or alcohol, and shows he is a loving parent, there's a 99% chance the court could order a shared custody. If he's a fit parent, I don't see anything wrong with that.
Honestly, think about this child as your own, and consider what it would be like for someone trying to keep her from you.
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2007-05-02 09:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father of your baby is making threats that he can not legally follow through with at this time. He is trying to rattle you and he is doing a good job of it. As the baby's mother, you have the most parental rights as long as you are taking good care of her. If you are not currently receiving child support payments from him for your daughter and you are fine with that, then let him make all the threats he wants. However, if he has been paying support, then he may be given parental rights depending on his demands. However, full custody is rarely taken from the custodial parent and given to a non-custodial parent without supporting evidence of abuse or neglect. Child support and child custody hearings are on different court dockets and are not legally able to take a year to resolve. Lawyers are indeed expensive but there are organizations who will help pay legal fees for those who can not afford it and some lawyers will accept rates based on a client"s income. If he is not listed on your daughter's birth certificate, you merely have to say you are not sure who the father is and he will have to take the steps necessary to secure a court ordered paternity test. He can demand a paternity test, but he has to be the one to petition the court. Do not give in to his demands to be allowed a paternity test without the court order. Where we live in Michigan, we have a Friend of the Court Bureau that helps people mauever through the court system, especially when child custody and child support is involved. Do a search in your Minnesota court system to see if you have such a bureau available. If your daughter's father involves the court system, you will want to be connected to resources that can give you the facts and help you with your specific needs. Several people close to me have been involved in difficult custody battles and the person who does the most research and asks the most questions definetly has the advantage.
2007-05-02 17:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My mother and sister both work in family court in CA and out here the father's have 50% rights if both parents are fit and he desires it - No if, and, or buts about it. It's 2007 fathers have rights. It is a shame you are going through this but if it's a years wait I wouldn't be that paranoid just yet. It sounds like he gets off on making you upset because if he was worried about the money and you aren't asking for any then it is just a control issue, so don't let him. "He" has to file if he wants to fight for it and then he has to take the tests and then have a judge rule. So enjoy your baby and don't stress until that time actually comes, if it ever does.
2007-05-02 18:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by i gET bORED eNTATAIN mEH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh; if he's the father, he has a right to at least a shared custody unless you can present a legal reason that he shouldn't. FAir or not, many times these things are decided by a good lawyer and money pays for one of those. I'd say he has a good chance of getting at least a partial if he really is the father; and legally he should.
2007-05-02 16:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by wizjp 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The same thing happened to my brother. His GF and him were not married. In most states it goes to the Mothers, because the fathers don't really have rights. I am sorry that you can't aford to get an atterney. Money can't always buy out everything. Just tell him is not his..You don't have to do a DNA test!
2007-05-02 16:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by ~Cinthya Paola~ 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋