I have a friend that has a baby. Her son is 2 years old. The baby has seen his father two times when he was born. Mother was forced to take her son for a paternity test. The test proved that he was the father. Should she tell her baby that his father does not want him or be in his life. Or what should she do. They had to file papers in court for custody and the biological father says that his dna papers prove that he is not the father. Case was closed.
2007-05-02 09:22:17 · 12 answers · asked by beenie 21 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
False paternity tests can easily be discredited. All she has to do is get the proper credentials from the doctor she had the test done with, and take that to her case worker.
At two years old, her baby's main concern is to be taken care of. When he's old enough to understand, then she's the one that needs to sit down and talk to him. I'd suggest only talking about it once he's old enough to ask why he doesn't have a dad.
If she's married or has a boyfriend by then, who accepts this child as his own, the child may never be as concerned about "no daddy" as one might with a single parent.
She should definitely tell him though, but only when she feels is right.
2007-05-02 09:31:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your story is very confusing. There were 2 DNA tests?? one proved he was one proved he was NOT?? Something is not right. Besides the courts do not take anyones word for it, they need proof. She should not talk crap to her baby about the father, WHEN the baby starts asking just tell him daddy is far away, eventually when the kid gets older she can tell him that the dad was not interested.
2007-05-02 09:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she shouldn't tell her son that he was "unwanted" by anyone. It wasn't the baby's fault the daddy left and to say otherwise would hurt him very deeply and damage his self-esteem. She needs to say something like, "Your father wasn't ready to handle the responsibility of parenthood" or "your father and I couldn't stay friends anymore" or something along those lines that does not put any blame (imagined or not) on the boy. I don't think that conversation will come up for awhile though. There are many single parents out there nowadays so he won't necessarily notice the difference right away.
2007-05-02 09:32:30 · answer #3 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has a while before she needs to address this. Meanwhile I would be sure paternity was established and child support was forthcoming.
The biological father's dna stuff differed from your friends? Easy, have a lawyer request it in the childs name. Then go for the support.
2007-05-02 09:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok let me get this straight.....the Paternity test says he IS the Father? He says his DNA papers say he is not the Father and the case was closed? What about the paternity test saying he was? Something is not right here.
2007-05-02 09:27:05 · answer #5 · answered by Momma P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think one parent should badmouth the other to a child, regardless of the situation. Right now, the child is too young to understand what's going on. Hopefully, by the time he is old enough, Mom will be able to explain without making Dadsound like a jerk. This has a tendency to backfire. Even more hopefully, Dad will come around and stop BEING a jerk.
2007-05-02 09:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Alice K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very confused was he or was he not the father? Tell the child the truth when he is old enough to ask, but try not to paint him too black if he is the boy's dad. It can cause self-esteem issues for the child.
2007-05-02 09:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt the court just took his word on whether or not he was the father.
She doesn't have to tell him anything until the child starts asking.
I would probably make something up.
2007-05-02 09:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by Waiting and Wishing 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think while the kid is yong dont tell him. Tell him when he is an grown up and understands what happens. I say they shouldnt know when there kids.
2007-05-02 09:27:34 · answer #9 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must contact the real faher, right ?
2007-05-02 09:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by cabridog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋