How can i tell someone i self harm?

Question

I self harm i started when i was 7/8 (i'm 15) to cope with being bullied & the stress from my dancing i managed to stop for a while as people began to notice that i was becoming more accident prone as i broke my arms & fingers. I started again about 3 1/2 years ago, people have seen me at scool banging my head against the desk repeateadly but they just think i'm weird i know i need to tell someone but i don't know who i can trust or how to tell anyone. I recently found out one of my friends used to cuit & i've been talking with her about her peoplems & getting her to talk to someone. I want to do the same but i don;t know who to tell, I don't want to talk to my friend because she's already going through a lot at the moment. It's been getting worse i've felt suicidal recently & talked to an online councellor who helped me get through it. My friend knows i've been suicidal about 2 years ago. I want to talk to someone who will understand me and not think i'm attention seeking.

Answer 1

Your parents
Aunts/Uncles
Grandparents
School guidance counselor

It won't be as bad as you think. They will help you.

Answer 2

Ok, for starters I think you should go get proffessional advice. If you cant afford that then you really need to get some books on your situation. Get a hobby! Find something you really enjoy doing(besides harming yourself) and stick to that. Devote your time to something positive. Start trying to think more porsitively. Instead of thinking crap im going to be late...think I will be on time...like that. The busier you keep yourself the less you will do silly things to yourself. For instance...go join a sports team, or chess club, or whatever your good at join something that you enjoy. Suicide is the easy way out to crappy situations. If you dont like your situation take the time to get out of it. You always have control of making your own bed and lying in it. There is a movie called the secret. I want you to rent/buy it and watch it all the way through. It will help you out. good luck
Kinsey

Answer 3

I know it's incredibly hard to talk to someone about something this awful, even with people you trust, but please don't be afraid to try! Talk to your parents about how you are feeling, and make it clear to them that you are being completely serious. Once they see that you badly need their support, they will do what they can to help - don't be afraid that they will think you are attention seeking. Someone who was just looking for attention wouldn't go so far as to break body parts. If you can get your parents to support you, then I'm sure that they will be able to find you medical help or therapy to make you feel better. Maybe you can find a group of people with similar problems - these people will definitely understand what you are going through. No matter how hard it is, make the effort, please! i don't know if this will help at all, but I'm sure you're a great person who doesn't deserve this kind of pain. It's horrible that you were bullied as a child, and you need to talk to someone you love and who loves you. I understand why you don't want to burden your friend, and that's heroic of you to feel that way. Maybe once she starts recovering, you can go to her for help - she of all people will understand, and want to help. If it helps you to speak to online counselors, continue doing that until you can find someone to talk to. I hope you find the help you need soon.

Answer 4

Hi, I wanted to let you know that everything will be okay ;)
I strongly urge you to seek professional advice from a counselor. If you feel as though you can't tell your parents please try talking with your school guidance counselor. I went through similar things as you only I didn't ask for help until I was in my 20's, asking for help really made a difference in me. Now I'm going to be 31 and I am a much healthier person because I took charge of my life and said something. Believe me it is good to tell someone and allow them to help you. Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

Talk to your parents or an adult family member, school counselor or teacher you can trust. If you can't find the courage to tell them directly, send an email or write a letter. You're less likely to chicken out that way, and will have more time to put it the way you want it.

Mainly, get help!!!

Also, do some research on self harm/cutting to send to them, especially family members, they may not know what it is or understand it (I didn't until my neice admitted to it).

Answer 6

that's really sad, and it's too bad you're doing this to yourself. go and talk to one of your parents, your school counselor, an older sibling, or teacher you trust. either that, or go talk to your doctor. having an older persons point of view for you who knows you well will help you get through this. you may be depressed (in fact most likely are) and they can give you ways to get through this. always talk to someone. and if you're committing suicide, just remember that by committing suicide you're hurting the people you loved just as much as you were hurting yourself, and it's not the way to go.

Answer 7

Well, if you don't trust your parents, when I went through depression the first person I went to was my school counselor. She was free and very nice. She just let me talk to her and she didn't try to change my mind like tell me that I was stupid or make me feel bad about myself, she just tried understanding how I felt and tried finding solutions to the way I felt and other ways to deal with my pain and grief. If you want to talk to me you can email me, my email address is [e-mail]. I am almost 23.

Answer 8

Psychiatrist Paul Meier would say that people self-harm because they carry too much guilt for things that happened in the past.

Such persons should know, more than whose fault the things were, that they happened, and that they may have put them in trouble, but they are in the past.

You may have a lot to forgive to yourself or other people.

Answer 9

Talk to any adult family members, if you trust them. Your school should have counselors available. Talk to one of them. If you don't want to tell them too much, have them get you a referral for an outside counselor.

If you're feeling suicidal right now, please get help immediately! If no one else is around, call 911, they can help you.

Depression sucks. I'm going through it right now too, but you can get through it. I know you can.

Answer 10

Go to http://suicidehotlines.com/ for a state listing of help lines for you to call. The suicidal thoughts and the self harm are symptoms--not problems. If you don't feel you can trust any one close to you, please call one of these hotlines rather than give up. I'll be praying for you!

Answer 11

Since you are so young, I would suggest you talk with your parents or your doctor, someone that can get you the professional help you need to deal with whatever problems you maybe facing, do so soon.