TORN between TWO Lovers, Feeling Like a Fool... Loving both of them is breaking all the rules...?

Question

ok, im starting to sing that Mauren McGovern song..
i have a dilemna, i am currently working in England where i met this guy. he's independent just like me, had drugs problem b4, but had a strong connection with. after a year of being lovers i met someone from Colorado through match.com, & began calling each other.. we've seen each other 3 times already when i went the states & when he went to visit me here.
he's the sensitive type, loving but kinda clingy.
right now i love them both... but the guy in America want me 2 be with him this year, im kinda pressured to leave my job to start anew in the States... i felt more loved by him on the way he wants me or seems to need me.. should i leave my job & my lover here in England.
Help pls... my decision will change my life forever.

Answer 1

Yea but your ignorance has always been there and it will hurt you no matter which one you pick. The fact is you love them, but your not in love with ether one. Really kind of cold. Your sitting here on your high-horse comparing two individuals to each other, when in fact if you truely loved ether one you'd feel totally guilty about that. Really your showing classic signs of not connecting with people on a geniunely emotional level. If you had you'd see that ever individual is unique (well the ones that actual take the time to know thy self) and that treating them like this isn't fair. But you think your justified in belittle your relationship with these people to nothing more then a black or white descion. Might be why I'm the only one that answered, I'm brutal. So let them both go and figure yourself out and what you want, and espacially what your purpose in life is, then hopfully this stuff will flow for you. Instead of making selfish descioions about just wants good for you, right now your stringing both along because you don't even know yourself.... sad.... happens all the time thou, its your life, so make all the mistakes you want....