My son is 2 years old and he has his own bedroom. He sleeps in a regular full size bed (I guess because he likes it better than his transitional bed) that's in his room. He goes to bed fine and all but he ALWAYS gets up between 3am and 5am, comes in our room, and goes to sleep on a spot on the floor that I set up for him by our bed. He doesn't come in crying or anything like that but it's like a routine now. I'm worried now because we have another baby coming in June and I don't know what to do about this. My husband and I don't need everyone piled up in our room, lol!!! I don't mind it but I just don't understand why he's doing this.
Could my son be sleep walking? Should I stop him from doing this or will he stop on his own? I'm scared that he might get a little jealous if he's sees that his sister is sleeping in our room but he's not.
2007-05-02 09:03:59 · 20 answers · asked by bobsmydad 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son used to do this, he just turned 2 in February. He used to come into our room around 3-4 every morning and crawl in bed with us. We never put him back in his bed (even though, from what I've read, we should have). It lasted for a few months but he now sleeps through the night in his bed. He just stopped on his own.
2007-05-02 10:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a routine now, because that's what you let it become, the first time he every came into your room, you were suppose to comfort him and go with him back in his room until he went to sleep. But you should not wonder why he keep doing this, if you made a spot for him on the floor by your bed, he only a baby and thinks this is OK to do since you made it so convenient for him, and yes he will be very jealous when the new baby come, he is not going to know how to take it, it will seem like rejection, Now you are going to have to try and break him before the new baby come,Take up the spot on the floor and the next time he comes into the room take him by his little hand and lead him back into his room and stay with him until he goes to sleep, he will soon get use to it.Let him know that this is were he belongs, this is his room and his bed, and that what big boys want.
2007-05-02 09:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by I am women 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter did the same thing. She is 2 and a half and what we did is put a safety gate across the doorway so she could not get out of her room. It worked wonders! We actually only had to use ot for about 6 months and now she doesnt even need it. It got her into the routine of staying in bed all night and got me back in the routine of sleeping all night!
2007-05-02 09:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent! Be empowered to make changes. 1st. Remove the "spot" for him. Inform him that he is no longer going to be able to come in to sleep with you. If you do not do this, plan on a 13-14 year old waking up at your feet each morning.
He will cry and throw a temper tantrum but do not give in. YOU ARE IN CHARGE! After one week of doing this, he should be out of the pattern. If he continues at this point, it is time for more discipline (Spanking if he does not follow directions--This is disobedience, or time outs, or removal of the toys etc.). Do not give in under ANY circumstances, once you give in, you loose all authority and you now have to gain your position back as parent and still have to go through this process. YOU must do this.
Great book to read: The new dare to discipline by James Dobson.
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2007-05-02 09:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by eversafe2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not sleep walking and you should stop him pretty quick or you will have everyone piled up in your room
use the super nanny jo frost method:
remove the "spot" for him==it's an invitation and you are basically telling him it's ok without saying a word, it's implied
when he gets up, take him back, and keep taking him back until he stops. the first time you tell him no, he needs to sleep in his own bed. anytime after that, you don't say anything and just take him back. i hope you're up for a challenge because it might take a few nights.
go to abc.com and select super nanny. she has tips and methods on there for just about everything. you can even watch full episodes.
her methods work and you don't have to be mean, just firm and consistent
2007-05-02 09:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think is is very nice for you to have a spot set up for him.
I dont have the answer to your question.. I just wanted to tell you that my girl just turned three does EXACTLY the same thing. I also have a sleeping bag set up for her.
My oldest two did this somewhat. They stopped about 3- 3 1/2
I think that there may be a little sadness when he sees the new baby sleeping in your room but that is to be expected. Just help transition easily and it will be over quickly.
I did this by laying the baby down to sleep first and then laying down next to the older sibling and telling them a story and talking to them. Then after they went to sleep I just got up very gently.
Good Luck!
2007-05-02 09:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by Carla R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His little sister should not be sleeping in your room, even in her own bed. Put her bed in another room of the house. It will be hard for a while, but you will be glad you did. When my 3 were little that is what we did. As for your 2 yr. old, lock your bedroom door so he can't get in at night. Eventually he stay in his own room. Again, it is hard, but most everything about parenting is. but it is SO rewarding!
2007-05-02 09:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by pammap 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't worry about it so much.
You are obviously building a family, and if they all want to 'pile in' with mommy and daddy, so be it.
Why create a conflict for him? He's a nice boy and doing well. It's not at all unusual for small children to need to be close to their family, and all he has is you since he hasn't got any older brothers and sisters to go snuggle up with. I had my own room as a kid, but usually went and slept in one of the rooms of any of my four older sisters at some point during the night.
It's good that he's not in the bed with you. You will have your privacy back when they're all big and confident people.
2007-05-02 09:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
The first time he does it say," Bed-time" and grab him by the hand and take him back to the room
The next time just say Bed and take him back to the room.
The next time don't say anything. Just take him back.
Repeat until it works.
2007-05-02 09:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you set up a spot for him, why wouldn't he come into your room? Dismantle that spot and take him back to his bed every time he comes into your room. He'll get the message.
2007-05-02 09:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by Alice K 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋