How do i get out of this mess?scared and alone.?

Question

I had unprotected sex 7 days ago with an ex.bf(my first everything also the only guy i have ever had sex with)who i am having a fling with(he has a gf) currently i am worried because i am not sure if i was ovulating my last period was april 11th ish.The fling was supposed to have been payback for my bf cheating on me because i wanted to wait to have sex with him(we never had sex)and on my ex.bf's gf who i suspect he left me for.Tons of my friends have used sex as a revenge tool i dont understand why is it blowing up in my face!Its never happened to any of my friends who did this? How do i fix this?

Answer 1

YOU TAKE THIS AS A LIFE LESSON AND PRAY YOUR NOT PREGNANT...GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

Have you been to see a doctor yet? Sounds like you're pretty young, so if you're afraid to talk to your parents, go to Planned Parenthood and have them check you out. Sounds like you're probably panicking over nothing, though. Your last period was only 3 weeks ago. Unless you always get your periods like clockwork, they're bound to be a little erratic once in a while. In any case, go see a gyn and have yourself examined and tell them your concerns. If you are pregnant, there's no way to "fix" it now. It's too late for the Plan B pill so now it'll be about hard decisions. Once you know what the situation is for sure, talk to your mom or to a counselor.

And this should really go without saying but I guess it needs to be said: Having sex for revenge is dumb and dangerous. And having unprotected sex is dumb, dangerous, and life-threatening. If you feel you're mature enough to have sex, than you should be mature enough to use protection and to be much more discerning about why you're doing it and who you're doing it with. It's really a no-brainer that this was going to blow up in your face in one way or another--if not at the expense of your health and physical well-being, than at the expense of your self-respect. If your bf is cheating on you, sleeping with an ex who clearly doesn't care about you won't make you feel better, and probably won't even have the desired "revenge" effect you wanted. It just means you've been used. Sorry. I hope you learn from this and move on.

Answer 3

because cheating is cheating and karma is a *****. having sex to get back at someone is NEVER the answer. maybe it hasn't caught up with your friends yet, but trust me it will. Go get a pregnancy test and then try to use some impulse control before you decide to do something stupid again. If you're pregnant then there is always adoption or abortion. But hehe what if.... what if he gave you more of a little present than you think. What if you now have an std? i know for a fact there are a few out there that are incurable and just keep on giving. Live herpes, venereal warts, AIDS, and if you don't catch it in time syphilis can keep a tyter and you will always have to explain that one to doctors who give you blood tests. Grow the hell up already and quit trying to hurt people with sex.

Answer 4

Its never a good thing to use sex, especially unprotected sex, as a revenge tool at all, because first off its not safe, and second off you are not only messing around with your feelings, but also his feelings. Its a good thing that you wanted to wait to have sex with your current bf, but if he cheated on you because you wouldn't sleep with him than he needs to go. I would call your doctor or the health department and tell them what happened, i know they have a morning after pill, but that has to be within 72 hours i believe. They might tell you to wait and see if you get your period. Are there still feelings for the ex bf? Would you ever get back together with him? Those are questions you need to ask yourself.

Answer 5

first of all, today is only the second of may so u have time. second of all its possible but really rare to get pregnant from the first time (by first time ur losing ur virginity i mean)
seven days are not too late. there are free pill that works up to 7 days, or a shot that is free (like i said) for minours in many countries, and is anonymous. u can reach out to the nearest sexual health and awareness centre . it is anonymous so u dont have to be afraid of others knowing. u can even call them. usually its a free hotline. u can search numbers for medical infos that are 100% sure.
stress and worrying can delay ur period. try to relax. if ur pregnant ur pregnant and u'll be thinking about keeping the child or abortion and u worrying would be the last thing u want now.. u save it for later when things get serious.
right now, try to relax. take a pregnancy test if u miss ur period for like 6 weeks.
u can have abortion if u do it in the early stages of pregnancy that is not more than generally, 12 weeks in many countries.

having unprotected sex is a serious issue. u risk ur life for HIV and many sexually transmitted diseases. now i dont care how u choose to revenge even though i find it a very childish and silly way to do it, but when u have it without a condom u r putting urself at risk that will make u look more like revenging of urself!
take care of ur body.. u got only one.

Answer 6

I don't understand why giving him what he wanted was payback. What you should do is stay calm until you know if you are pregnant or not. Make sure you get checked for diseases. If you have anything or are pregnant and want to keep it then you can tell him. If you are pregnant and don't want to keep it then take care of it and do not speak to him again.
The only way to really get back at him is to show him what he's missing out on & not take him back no matter what the circumstances. If he cheated on you and you know this for sure - he is not a good guy to stay with.

Answer 7

Honey, the next time you want to get revenge, make sure you don't hurt yourself in the process!!! Since it was 7 days ago it is too late for the morning after pill. Basically, all you can do now is wait until you get your period...and think about how you could've played it smarter.

Answer 8

Like many things in life, sex can be used to serve power (revenge) or love. When used to serve power sex is creating Karma. There is no way out, you'll need to pay the Karma one way or another, so might as well stop avoiding it and pay the piper.

Answer 9

"using" sex for anything has the potential to blow up in anyone's face. I'm not sure I understand your question. Are you worried that you are pregnant? Think about how you might handle it if you are, then find out. Hopefully, you'll know better next time. Good luck

Answer 10

you need to grow up and start being responsible for you own actions. Your friends did it before?? wow you need to find some new friends. Do you actually sit down and think about what you do before you do it, if not you need to. Just because your friends did it and got away with it, doesn't mean you will also. Like the saying goes "if you play with fire eventually you will get burned". I pray that you are pregnant, it'll make you grow up real quick.

Answer 11

just be calm and go to planned parenthood and ask them what you should do...but for future references go to planned parenthood beforeyou have sex or if you have to go after make sure its no more than 5 days after because u can take the day after pill and everything will be ok...but since its been 7 days then you should go to the professionals for help, but if you dont feel pregnant or if he didnt let off inside you then you should be fine because my friend has had alot of scares you could call her a hor she kinda is but i love her but anyways just make sure that you get help if you think youre pregnant dont wait to tell someone it could become a huge mess believe me i have friends who have had this happen to them and its not pretty