i met this guy online,we met for a coffee,he says he wanted to date but wanted to date others so i agreed then after 6 months he gives me his key to his appartment we are intimate all the time bu the still says we are freinds with benefits afer 6 months i want a little more than friends what do i do?
2007-05-02 08:56:48 · 34 answers · asked by cookiemonster1721 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a very unusual relationship and I really dont think it's healthy. You shouldnt have to convince your guy to be with only you. And you definitly don't stay with a guy who you know is sleeping around. You're only disrespecting yourself and from the start of this relationship you've basically let him know that you will stick around while he does this. Now he thinks its okay, why would he want to stop now? What was he doing, dating you for 6 months while at the same time looking to see if he could find anyone better? Get rid of this guy, he's no good. Clearly he's not all about you and you don't deserve anything less than that. Time to give him his wake up call now, leave him for your own good. Once you find real love you're gonna look at this and be like "what the hell was I thinking?!?!"... Good Luck.
2007-05-02 09:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by LilMiss143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the difference between being "friends with benefits" and a prostitute? The prostitute is at least smart enough to get paid for it. What the heck are you doing? Don't give it up for a guy who wont even agree to be in a committed relationship with you. You're setting yourself up for heartbreak.
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
2007-05-02 09:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
stop sleeping with him unless he gives you what you want. try not to make it obvious or he will feel manipulated. try to reward him, like if he introduces you to his best friend, make him look great in front of the friend and then give him the best sex of his life. when he just wants to hang out at his place, act distant and tell him you are tired or are on your period. be patient as this might take time.and start dating other men or make him think you are if he continues his rakeish behavior and when he asks you about it make it evident that the reason why you are doing it is because you want a commitment and are willing to do anything to get it.
2007-05-02 09:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is only a friends with benefits things that is all your goona get honey, thats why it is called being friends with benefits because there are no strings attatched.
If you are looking for more then you need to move on and find yourself a guy who wants the same.
2007-05-02 09:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop wasting your time. Men like that won't commit. Clearly he wants all the "benefits" but still wants to get some on the side when he can. Bring it up to him that you want to be more than "friends with benefits" and if he says no, give him his keys back and move on.
2007-05-02 09:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cass M 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience...move on. For guys, once they put you in the friends with benefits zone you are considered nothing more then a booty call. In his mind he has decided that he doesn't want anything more from you then sex. You need to find another guy and don't start it out based on sex. When you start a relationship solely based on sex it usually never progresses to the next level. I'm just telling you because that has been my experience.
2007-05-02 09:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you are wanting. If he just wanting a friendship with perks-then you decide if you can live that way or not. Either walk or away or live in pain knowing he doesn't want more. Too many of us girls want to more than a man can and is willing to give. They for the most part take more time to give into love than we do. They love their freedom from commitment.
2007-05-02 09:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you want but don't be surprised if he isn't into the same thing....after all, he told you at the start that he wanted to date around. That's the hard part about being friends with benefits...you wind up getting attached to some creep who probably isn't worth the s--t on the bottom of your shoe.
2007-05-02 09:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh innocent one I hope you have learned a lesson here because you definitely learned it the hard way!
This game never changes. It is as old as humankind. Males will say absolutely anything to you to get you to have sex with them. They will even tell you that they love you.
If a male truly loves you, you will know it. It will be you alone and he will want to marry you so that no other male can have you.
This male never cared for you. He used you to masturbate himself against and that's all. If you have any pride in yourself at all, if you want a relationship with someone, then remember your lesson and move on.
I'm sorry if that sounds harsh, but that's the truth.
2007-05-02 09:06:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop putting out. This concept amazes me. Why do you think he would EVER want to be more than "friends with benefits" with you? He's looking for a real relationship, I'm sure, but in the meantime, he has you---no need to visit the pros in Vegas, he's all set and it costs him nothing...not even an emotional connection.
You know, this concept of "friends with benefits" isn't new at all. It's been around forever but the names for it haven't been as "polite" as they are now.
2007-05-02 08:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋