It all started about a year ago when i was still in middle school. I went to public school and everyday at school was hell for me. I was failing most of my classes i was being bullied and i suffered threw a very long and painful anxiety and depression. It got to the point where i wanted to die and thats when my mom finally pulled me out and started homeschooling me. The problem is even today every time i think about about the past and how bad i was feeling it brings tears to my eyes and i feel like im going to have a panic attack. I enjoy homeschooling now, its just i have this scare on heart of what has happend to me in the past. I hope im making scense... I just want to know what i should do to help me move on with my life.
~Thanks
2007-05-02 08:48:27 · 5 answers · asked by Krissa D 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Different people heal at different rates. Some people may be able to move past the trauma you have suffered in a month or two, for others it may take years and years. Give yourself a break. If you're not ready to completely move on, don't kick yourself for it.
You probably hate people telling you that "You're young, when you're older, you'll forget all about it," but in a sense, that's true. Other things will happen as you mature that will help you put your middle school years in perspective. You will see that they helped to make you who you are, perhaps made you a wiser, more sensitive, and compassionate human being. Other hurts will occur (sorry, they will - that's just life!) and they will help you realize that the trauma you were hanging on to wasn't as big anymore as you once thought it was. The only way to make this happen is through time.
For now, whenever you find yourself thinking about how bad you were feeling, try to find something positive in it to give yourself something to focus on besides the panic. Like, what did you take away from the experience? Did you learn anything helpful? Even if the only positive you can find in it is that you learned how you DON'T like to be treated, or that you now know what kinds of situations tend to make you feel panicky. Or maybe something like as bad as you felt last year, you feel better now, and that's something to hang on to if you ever feel that bad again - the knowledge that it WON'T last forever. Whatever bright spot, no matter how tiny, you can find - at least it won't be a *total* negative anymore. There is something to that saying about looking for the silver lining...
Slowly but surely, you will get better. The ability for this last year to impact your thoughts and feelings will get smaller and smaller the more distance you gain from it, both literally in terms of time, and figuratively in terms of replacing it in your life with good things, things that make you happy and bring you joy.
Give yourself a while for these things to sink in and start working. Then, re-evaluate. If you still aren't feeling any better, ask your mom to take you to see a psychologist, psychiatrist, and/or a social worker. Sometimes, a traumatic event can upset our body chemistry to the point where it can't balance itself out on its own, and we can't feel better until we get some help putting our chemistry back on an even pace with the help of some type of anti-depressant. It may also help to have an impartial third party/professional opinion for you to talk to and bounce things off of, until you are feeling strong enough to put your past in perspective and it doesn't get the better of you anymore.
The teen years were hell on most of us, dear. Hang in there and keep your chin up. It will get better, I promise. If you need a pep talk or a shoulder to cry on, please e-mail me through my profile - I will listen.
Hope this helps - good luck!
2007-05-02 09:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Poopy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, one thing to think about that might ease your mind is that the past is exactly where it is: in the past! You can't change it or go back in time, you can only learn from the pain and suffering that you so unfortunately experienced. Remind yourself that you made it thru that ordeal in one piece, at least physically, but it's a start. The simple fact is that you're still you and no one but you can change that! Not even your parents!
When you start thinking of the things you went thru, you've gotta start thinking about whatever that particular situation was from start to finish. After that, take a good look at yourself now and realize just how strong you've become b/c you survived it! You can't ignore that it happened, but you can acknowledge that you are going to look forward and work towards your future goals, whatever they may be. Remember the saying, "Whatever doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger,"? Well, you're stronger now even tho' you may not feel it.
Bullies only pick on others b/c they have their own insecurities and need to feel that power of domination over another human being. If you ask anyone who's been out of high school for a good 10 yrs or more, I bet they'll tell you that they regret picking on so-and-so and wishes they could find that person and apologize. I picked on a few people and I wish I could say "I'm sorry," but I have no way of finding those people, so I've had to give my regret up to God and pray that he heal those that I may have hurt.
I hope that helps you and if nothing else, give you some angles to look at what you've experienced. If all else fails, seek professional help w/ a counselor. Tell your parents how you're feeling and they'll help you find someone. Good luck!
2007-05-02 09:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by sweet libra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resolve the issue? You went to this school where they treated you like Hades and damaged you. Now you are better off being home schooled, so 'prove' it to the bullies. Straight A's reckon you can get that is your exams? Perhaps be the best Student in USA with Honors in one subject? Now if you do that, expect the Media to come a calling, picture in the local paper, a local Hero! Bet the bullies will suddenly realize what they did harmed them, more than you! The past is just that, the past you cannot change it. However you can take negative issues from the past and turn them into positive ones, so as they say 'go for it' because if anyone can do it, you can!
2007-05-02 09:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by gillianprowe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.stresscenter.com
that is all you need. try the program, it changes lives. I promise.
also, try enrolling in a small private school, like a, independant or catholic school. small class sizes can help overcome many issues and you will get more attention from teachers and staff.
2007-05-02 08:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by glazeddonut27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww...
poor you...
to move on, never look back
things happen all the time, but don't hold grudges
forget it
bullying is a thing that is in the past for you, so why get hung up about it?
2007-05-02 09:10:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋