How do you tell that you and your partner still love each other after YEARS?
How do you compare these two conditions:
- You're still in love because you love that person.
- You're in love because you're used to love that person and it became a "habit".
2007-05-02 08:45:09 · 19 answers · asked by cherrryberry 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I first thought of divorcing my first husband, I had that problem. My best friend asked me to close my eyes and imagine that I WAS divorced, alone and lonely.
Then she asked: Did I miss HIM -- or did I miss just having SOMEONE?
I realized very quickly I just missed having someone, anyone. That was my answer. Thankfully! Now on #2 for 20 years and still going strong! HIM, I'd miss like anything if he was gone.
2007-05-02 08:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok,first i will compare those 2 things.
You cant make love a habit,it'sjust imposible.Than you should be a person with a realy boring love life and just realy it wouldnt even be love anymore.But loving someone because you jsut love someone means that you cant live without them and you cant stop thinking about them.
And partners still love each other after years if they show respect and kindeness and trust to the other partner,for which they have realy feelings and which they truly love.
2007-05-02 08:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Non of this.
Love at first is like the animal passion. It is exciting, it is fantastic, it is naughty, wild, wet and windy... (dreamland!)
But after a while of years, love grows in a more deeper ways. YOu start farting in front of each other may be, but that doesn't mean you don't love each other, it's just that you know each other more, and things and work, and life, children, jobs, you respect and help each other in good and bad times.
But if you give up on life, because it hasn't got the same spark as first day of meeting, then you are expecting more than life is to give you. You may be dreaming too much....
All it is in your hands of your expectations and your pleasures of life. How you want, how you make and how you accept of your own achievements. If you say you haven't, then you are a looser. If you say you have, then you're a winner. What you do, you do it yourself. To no one else.
2007-05-02 08:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when your still inlove with him when your constantly thinking about him. You wonder who he is with and it makes you ill with the thought of him being with another women. Basicly, your constantly wondering - does he think about me? Does he miss me? Why doesn't he make an effort to talk to me or want to stay friends?
You can still love a person after time and not be inlove. For example, I have an ex-boyfriend whom we broke up 7 years ago, that I love but I am not inlove with him and he feels the same way about me. We were together for 5 years and we will always be best friends.
With some people yes they can or think their inlove because that person did become a habit. I have a friend that is going through that.
2007-05-02 09:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by JanLeo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive that you know u still love a person when u know u would put there needs b4 urs. Also when you love someone so much you would die for them. That how I knew I was in love, but unfortunally love sometimes changes. So all I can say is think about what loving that person means to u and then think about the future, if u see nothing then it is not worth it!!! I hope i helped u out... :)
2007-05-02 08:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is never a habit.Each day that passes that bond grows stronger & it becomes sometimes impossible to break when it does break because of what you both have been through it is held together by the mutual respect you have for each other normally? but,it is still never a habit.
2007-05-02 08:52:36 · answer #6 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scientifically, of course. By using the "love formula."
Add up the number of times you think about your partner each day. Subtract the number of times you think of yourself each day. If the result is more partner and less you, then you're still in love.
2007-05-02 09:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having a break away from them and see how you cope. Do you feel diffrent when you look at other guys? Do you enjoy being with this person? Write the things you experienced and loved about this person when you first met them and see what still applies. Could you live with out this person. Is there some kind of routine to your relationship or is it new everyday. Is there still a chemistry there? Do they still get you excited. Do they make you feel secure and warm inside. Does it make you happy to think about them? Do you think of them oftern? Do they make you feel special? Erm dunno if this is helping but it's all I can think of at the second. =]
2007-05-02 08:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love doesn't become a "habit" you can call love that. love is the most powerful feeling that you can feel towards a person, and it is impossible not to know if you love someone, if you do you KNOW, without a doubt. it's indescribable really, but you will know if you still love someone or not. i believe once you fall in love, it's impossible to stop loving someone, even if you hide your feelings completely and trick your mind, you will never be able to trick your heart.
2007-05-02 08:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know but the whole habit thing makes sense. i use to be that way where your heart is not in love anymore but your head is still saying that you love them.... but ask your self these questions......... can you not wait until they get home from work and when they do r u the happiest girl ever? do they still make you laugh???..........if yes then ya u are in love still but if no then think what you can do to help out the situation....good luck
2007-05-02 08:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋