punishment for my son for demeaning women?

Question

what would be a good idea for a punishment for my son, to teach him how to treat women, and how to respect him, he has been talking to dirty and demeaning to me and his sisters and other girls, he also got caught today lifting up a girls skirt! i was so furious, what is something i can do to really make him understand and think?

he is almost 18

Answer 1

How old is he? If he's over 8 years old, I would contact a local charity (like the women's shelter) and see if there's charity work that he could do (you could all go).

Good luck! :)

Answer 2

18????? Where is the father for this child?
I think your son needs something different then punishment. If he is talking dirty and demeaning to women he has learned this from somewhere! Sit him down and ask him why he thinks it is all right to behave this way. Re-enforce that this is not acceptable behavior in society and ask him how he is going to change his behavior.
If this problem persists or escalates then I would talk to a psychologist about his behavior so they can help you get to the underlying root of the real problem. This is not normal social behavior for an 18 yr old .

Answer 3

Although I am not disrespecting you at all or saying that this does not already happen, but your son needs to see more respect at home from his father to his mother. He may not be around at the time of this happenning, so when he is around give obvious respect to your spouse.

You need to punish your child for lifting up a girl's skirt a grounding for a week or so is sufficient, but you or your spuse needs to sit your son down and have a long talk with him making sure he pays attention about how he should treat women with respect. Let him know that women like men who can respect them better than those who treat them like trash.

Good luck!

Answer 4

If I was his father, I would whup his butt. I don't see anything about his father so I will assume that he is not in this boy's life. How long has he had this behavior? If it is something that just recently developed then you need to discuss this problem with him now. Has he had girlfriends before. Did he just get snubbed by a girl recently. Does he get disciplined at home and if so, by you? This could be just him being an obnoxious teenager who doesn't know any better or the beginning of a serious problem requiring professional help.
Might be as something simple as needing the dominant female in his life (you) teaching him what happens when you wrong someone of the fairer sex-bet he wouldn't like getting a whuppin from the female parent, especially at his age.

Answer 5

Punishing is not demeaning your son so Matthew O the liberal up above needs to get a clue.

There's the obvious things, take away TV, video games, etc..

But there are also some good books out there that you should have him read. Read them with him and make him talk about what he thinks about them.

If it's a sexual problem he has try the Every Young Man's Battle book.

Answer 6

I am with the idea get him to volunteer. Even at a pet shelter. Take away all the wrap crap and video ideas that add visuals to his thoughtless patterns. You may need some anger management help. I never had my own but have seen enough to know this may last well into his adulthood. He may be arrested at some point. Tuff love, try and be a part of all of it. Listen. If he will start a journal. Talk to the teachers also. His crowd? What motivates him. It sounds like you care alot about him and the rebel is surfacing. Professional advice better than us on a cyber site. God Bless.

Answer 7

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Boys don't usually treat their moms and sister any different than what they see at home, so if things aren't good there, no amount of punishment will change what he sees going on. At eighteen he is what you've made him, changing him now is going to be the states problem, bail is going to be yours.
You should have asked this question ten years ago.
Hes too old to be doing this, he may be a pervert and as such need serious psychological evaluation and help.

Please, you don't send a nearly grown man into a situation with women who have already been taken advantage of by men, don't push this manchild off on unsuspecting women and girls, just to see if he responds in some human way. You don't set a fox in the henhouse, and no group dealing with rape crisis or battered women would take him in as a social experiment.
And Red Hat Ladies wouldn't welcome him at all.

Answer 8

At 18, your son is past the days when you have control over his moral development. These behaviors he has are because of things he learned a long time ago.

Young men who behave this way will only learn the hard way. He'll face charges for harrassment, or lose a job, or get arrested because he lacks self control and respect.

Sorry -- it's sad, I know -- but honestly, by the time kids are finishing middle school, they know what they've been taught by example, environment, and peers, and then it's a matter of them living what they have learned.

Answer 9

Well what do you want him to learn? My opinion is let the punishment fit the crime. Make him do charity work that benefits women. Or make him write you a research paper on a women's related issue that's important to you. I don't think at this age a grounding is going to do much. You're going to have to get creative, and really TEACH him what you need him to understand about women.

Best of luck with this!

Answer 10

are you speaking of a young man with diminished mental capacity, who then would not understand the issues involved?
if not, then at 18 he is fully aware that what he is doing is wrong both morally and legally. he is doing it anyway. that makes him a sexual predator in our end of the world.
shows us all what kind of a 'man' you've raised. its a bit too late for you to play the concerned parent card.
with any luck he will get caught lifting up a girl's skirt and instead of being charged with sexual abuse by the police; her dad, or brother, or boyfriend, or husband, can kick the living crap out of him. perhaps that will make him think twice.
if it doesn't then just shoot the sick son-of-a-witch!

Answer 11

The best thing to do is to try and stop it as soon as possible. I would try enrolling him in volunteer projects at the "abuse" shelter or have him do community service with abuse victims. If all else fails, call the MAURY show. :)

Demeaning women with words normally escalates into violence towards women. The quicker you can break the habit, the better.

Best of luck.