OK, My husband lost his job and now going through a depression and soo hes been acting kinda stupid. I got a call a week ago from my father in law saying that my husband been arrested for a warrent, I was soo worried calling the jail and seeing whats going on and just in a mess plus pregenant on our third kid. Anyways my father in law said that hes not comming out til monday. But I found out he got out that night my father in law was still assisting that hes still in jail and this whole time I found out that my husband was at my father in laws. I got so hurt and angry I told him off I feel it was right for me to tell him off he know i was worried thinking my man is out in the streets waiting for me to pick him up I was looking for him all day and to find out my husband was there this whole time.. How would you reacted?? I know you are going to blame my husband and yes he should have called in the first place but this is about my father in law He should have told me where he was.......
2007-05-02 08:08:53 · 18 answers · asked by flaca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get away from this misfit family and get a real man. One who isn't in trouble with the law and can hold a job and who isn't a "mama's boy still"
QUIT knocking out kids so fast too until you know who you're with and if they are stable.
2007-05-02 08:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your father-in-law was any kind of a father in the first place, he would have told his son to go home to his family since that's what a married man is supposed to do. Your father-in-law and your husband should have been honest about the whereabouts in the beginning, so I understand how you feel.
I think that parents become too involved in their children's lives even after the children are grown and have their own families. Your husband needs to come out of his father's wings and face the fact that he's a father himself. The first thing he should have done was come straight home to you, his pregnant wife, and kids once he bailed out. There's no excuse for his behavior.
Please be sure to have a long talk with your husband about priorities, and inform him that it bothers you that his father still has this hold on him. The two of you then need to sit down and talk with his father about boundaries, and how his interference is causing problems in your homelife with your husband. It's natural for a parent to still be involved in an adult child's life, but when that adult child has his own family, the parent needs to back off a little bit.
I hope that everything works out with you and your family. Try and take it easy. You don't need any unneccessary trips to the hospital.
2007-05-02 08:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever think your husband asked your father in law NOT to tell you where he was?Maybe he was too ashamed to tell you?Maybe your father in law wanted a little time to talk to his son and help him get the right perspective on things like that he has a wife and kids and doesnt need to be doing stupid crap to go to jail for?Instead of being mad at your father in law be mad at your husband he is an adult but is acting like a teenage hoodlum.He shouldnt have went to jail in the first place,by the way what are the warrants for? He should have been looking for a job.Im betting he has a drug problem.Are you going to blame the father in law for that?Its time for him to grow up and be a man and for you to tell him that.
2007-05-02 08:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something is going on with your husband. Your father in law is his DAD so he's gonna do what his son wants. If it were me, I would write a letter to the FIL and tell him how scared I was about my husband (the father of my children!) and how hurt I am by his involvement.
I would tell the hubby that we need to go to counseling right now or he's out the door. He can go spend as much time with his daddy as he wants!
Get your life straight now with or without him! Do it for your kids' sakes!
Good luck! :)
2007-05-02 08:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, I agree. Your husband is not really at fault here. Sometimes when people are going through a depression they put things off or just don't do them. NO offense but your father in law sounds like a real ***hole! Do you know if he doesn't like you or something? well...you should find out and confront him about it.
2007-05-02 08:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No It's not about your Father In Law.
It's about your husband not wanting to face you! Most likely he is embarrassed about being arrested and afraid of your reaction.
Don't you think he Knew his father was telling you he was still in jail? He most likely asked his dad to tell you that.
2007-05-02 08:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They both were wrong, but your husband is your husband and he is the one who should have called you immediately upon his release. What the heck was he doing for 3 days with his father? Something smells funny in Denmark and I'm guessing your husband is right smack in the middle of s**t. If you would put you thru that while you are pregnant with your 3rd child, he is a no good selfish SOB. Don't let him back in the house. If you do you deserve what you've got, a lying sneaky bastard. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-05-02 08:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your father-in-law has some issues to deal with. I can't believe he did that to his daughter-in-law who is pregnant.
Anyway, be patient. Your husband is already having a rough time, and you won't want to mess things up more for him. But, do be careful about his father. I don't think you should trust him anymore.
2007-05-02 08:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by Crusty 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a winner of a family all around.
I am guessing your husband told your father-in-law not to tell you. He is going to do his son's wishes before he worries about you.
By the way... it was ok to be mad.
2007-05-02 08:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by PJ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is putting his father in a nasty spot. I sure hope he knows what he's doing. You are pregnant according to your post so, is it possible that dad is trying to talk some sense into him or do you think he's making matters worse?
2007-05-02 08:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋