What do you feel damaged you the most in your childhood? Do you resent yr parents for anything?

Question

Do you feel your parents let you down in any aspect and how has this affected you in adulthood? Or if not your parents, did anything else from your childhood hugely affect you as an adult? Have you gotten over this and how?

Please note I am not asking this question because it relates to me personally, I am just interested in what other people have gone through and what shapes a human being. My heart goes out to some of the people who have answered so far xx

Answer 1

growing up with out a father and yes i resent my father for not being there . but ill never resent my mother she did what she could for me with out any support from the donor.

Answer 2

I was sexually abused as child, and I don't think I'm really over that. Whenever I see a child with an older man, I feel like running over and separating them even if there is no real danger to that child from the man. It's crazy!

Anyway, i've also witnessed a lot of fights between my parents. Sometimes I have these lightening flashes of the scene or the words spoken, and those shock me even now. My parents are still together and have reached a more understanding level, but I still resent my father for putting my mum through so much trouble. I'm almost that age now, and I would have died if my man cheated on me like that.

How has all these affected me? Well, apart from not trusting some men with a children or visualizing past incidents, I also avoid commitments with men. I have had lots of men want to be with me, but I keep rejecting all 'cos I'm afraid of being cheated. I tell myself that I'm a lot more knowledgeable and prepared than my mum was, but the fear still remains.

Answer 3

As a child, I was frequently locked in my room. Oftentimes it was for something as simple as my room needed to be cleaned. During these times, I was only allowed out of my room to eat, use the bathroom and to go to school. I'd sometimes get in trouble for things my brother did. He'd stand outside my door and just laugh.

I'd suppressed these memories until the summer before I started college. I mentioned it to my mother and to this day, she claims to not remember. But you look on the outside of the door to my room at my childhood home and you still see the holes from where the lock was.

This probably contributed to the depression I've fought with over the years and my trust issues. I've also had another personality surface over the years (though she doesn't show up too often anymore).

I do my best to live a normal life now. I don't know if I've forgiven my parents yet. I don't resent them. I've just let it go. I'm actually friends with my parents at this stage in my life.

Answer 4

i replaced into sexually abused as baby, and that i do no longer think of i'm fairly over that. on each and every occasion I see a baby with an older guy, i've got confidence like working over and keeping apart them whether there is no genuine danger to that youngster from the guy. it is loopy! besides, i've got additionally witnessed particularly some fights between my mom and dad. each and every from time to time I certainly have those lightening flashes of the scene or the words spoken, and those ask your self me even now. My mom and dad are nonetheless jointly and have reached a greater be conscious of-how point, yet I nonetheless resent my father for putting my mum by plenty hassle. i'm basically approximately that age now, and that i might have died if my guy cheated on me like that. How has a number of those affected me? properly, different than for no longer trusting some adult adult males with a infants or visualizing previous incidents, I additionally steer away from commitments with adult adult males. I certainly have had a lot of adult adult males elect to be with me, yet I save rejecting all 'cos i'm petrified of being cheated. I tell myself that i'm so plenty greater knowledgeable and arranged than my mum replaced into, however the phobia nonetheless maintains to be.

Answer 5

I was left in the back seat of the car when I was an infant and was really upset when I woke up and discovered I was all alone. My mom tells me I was only 6 months old, but I still remember it. I think I still have a mild fear of abandonment because of this.

I don't resent my parents now that I've grown up and raised a family of my own. You realize that parents are people too, and they were dealing with problems of their own. To resent your parents actions is pretty one-sided until you raise kids yourself. Try it and see.

Answer 6

I think everyone probably has issues with their parents in some way or another. The trick is to realize that they did the best they could at the time and that it is in the past. Try to move beyond it and be the best person you can be.

Good luck! :)

Answer 7

I fell my mother could have been a better mum and I fell that it set me way back but I got away and found independance and live my own live and do very well I am also a law abiding citizen.
I don't fell as close to my mum as she would like but that is life, we deal with what we are given and move on.
That is why my motto is, " Life is 10% what you get and 90% how you take it."

Answer 8

Hi, well my mom nor dad was there for me or any of my siblings but I am an adult now and I have only learned from their mistakes and **** ups because I would never, ever turn my back on my children.

Chow.

Answer 9

When I was a toddler I was spanked every time I wet myself. This gave me a fear of being dirty and of toilets. So I am afraid every time I use a toilet I am not familiar with, even if it is at the home of a person I know.

Answer 10

The constant moving around, sometimes between two countries, hindered my ability to connect with people. I went to approximately 11 schools between kindergarten and the university. Thanks, pops.
Mine is a minor issue, compared to the others here, but it did shape my life.