I am a 21-year-old woman with feelings for my college professor. He is also young and single. We have been out for coffee, with my sister included, and have a pretty good friendship. Last semester he taught me a class for free.
I am no longer his student (and will no longer be attending this college), and tomorrow I plan on telling him I am attracted to him, even if he doesn't feel the same way. And no, I will not use the word "love", it's too strong and would scare someone away.
What would you do? Any advice? Yes, I am emotionally prepared for a let-down.
PS...PLEASE LEAVE YOUR AGE.
2007-05-02 07:47:51 · 16 answers · asked by jillvaughn000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are no longer his student,I think it is ok to tell him that you like him.
2007-05-02 07:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tesco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you could ruin a perfectly good friendship, or you could gain an amazing relationship. If it were me, hey, I would tell him how I felt about him. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. And how do you know he doesn't feel the same, but was afraid to say anything because of the student/teacher relationship. But then again, he might not feel the same.
What the heck, roll the dice and take a gamble. You'll never know unless you tell him.
Kindest regards,
Karen (oh yeah, 48, but shhhhh don't tell anyone okay? They all think I am 29 and holding, at least that's what I tell them) ;o)
2007-05-02 14:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sr. Mary Holywater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! If you are no longer his student then it would be fine for the two of you to get together. I would tell him how I feel & leave the rest up to him. Don't push him. If its mutual, he'll respond positively. Either way, it's best to let him know how you feel, that way even if he doesn't feel the same way, at least you will have tried. You won't have to wonder if things could have worked out.
Good Luck with everything!!! Hope it works out!!
PS by the way, im 20 yrs.
2007-05-02 14:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You are setting yourself up for some sticky situations later and it's just not worth it. There are so many other available guys out there.
I'm not saying this is what's going on at your campus, but when I went to college, there was a student-teacher situation. Both of them were made fun of and talked about behind their backs for so many different reasons. The professor ended up calling it off because he was embarrassed. Luckily, no school administrators knew about it otherwise his job could have been in jeopardy.
Ask yourself if you want him to risk losing his job? Are you prepared for him to dump you later when he starts to feel the pressure from some supervisor?
Are you making a mistake - no, you're not. But it's more trouble than it's worth.
2007-05-02 14:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by bitsonews 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not just approach him by saying you are attracted to him.Invite him to lunch or for coffee and see what his reaction is.Get a conversation going and take it from there.You will know if telling him is the right thing to do.
He may just want to be friends but you need to find out.Good you waited till he was no longer your professor and until you no longer attend this college.Very wise of you.
I wish you good luck and hope all goes well.
P.S. I am old enough to be your grandmother but I remember what it's like to be young.
2007-05-02 14:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. . .me too! I'm about to turn 21. . .and I am/was deeply attracted to my teacher. But I wasn't as lucky of you to have coffee with him. . .I wasn't "in love" but the feelings were quite strong. . .perhaps because it was 5hr credit course. . .but I was used to having his presence around me. I didn't know much about him. All i knew was that he made me smile =)
Soo if I were you, and especially since ya already established a good friendship. . .I would let him know. Because if I didn't, I know I would be kicking myself in the *** everyday. After the semester is over, visit him in his office. . .tell him how you enjoyed his class and perhaps ask him for dinner or a movie. . .and hopefully something will progress from there.
2007-05-02 14:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to TELL him. Why don't you buy tickets for something really fun that lasts all day and invite him to go along? Then maybe you could share an ice cream cone or something. You will know how he feels by the end of the day. Good Luck!
2007-05-02 14:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by QuantumB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 21 and no longer his student .. so go for it. He may feel the same for you, but it would not have been a good thing for him to get involved with a student.. which you are no longer.
I'm 46.
2007-05-02 14:52:38 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are no longer his student so go for it. But keep your guard up just in case he don't feel the same.
2007-05-02 14:54:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 21.
it sounds like you have all the bases covered. i think it would be ok to follow through with your plan. specially if he is only 25 or under. but even if he is not, it still wouldn't be a bad idea
2007-05-02 14:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by killa' fo' real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do that!!
I think u should wait for him to say sth. Go on with ur friendship and if he feels that way to u too, he should open up, not u...
Good luck ~~
2007-05-02 15:04:39 · answer #11 · answered by Thal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋