Mother in law from H**l?

Question

A couple of weeks ago my mother in law said to my stepkids that my husband needs to watch my spending and should put a stop to it and they told me. I was mad and I told her not to come back to my house. 3 years ago when I met my hubby she accused me of stealing money off my hubbys sister and his sister found it and she apligized. My hubby has 1 son and 2 stepdaughters from a previous marriage and when we talked about having a baby she said it would be best if my husband dosent have any more kids. she said she dosent want to be a grandma again. I have a 2 month old. She apoligized for saying the money issues. She said the kids were lying. There 15, 12 & 8 and they all made up the same story. I forgot it and 2 days later I was talking about going back to school in front of his family and she said You'll never do it. Its been a while since you finished high school. My husband yelled at her and she said we'll 12 months is a long time What is she gonna do take care of the baby and stay up

till 3 in the morning studying and I got really mad and lost my cool and told her I was sick of her shi*. That nothing and no one was going to stop me from my goals. It was in front of his family and I feel bad cause they seen me act like that. Should I apoligize to her. i kinda feel good for standing up for myself. im pretty much at the point where I could care less if she came around me or my daughter. Why does she hate me?

Answer 1

Well, I believe the reason she acts this way is because she may be trying to get back her sons attention. She is afraid that you stole it. She seems to be getting too involved in your marriage and that isn't right. No In-law should be involved in the marriage. I think it was right of you to tell her off and you should stick to your guns. It's good you are going back to school. I have two kids of my own and I would love to go back to school. I think your mother-in-law is a nut case and she should stay out of your marriage.

Answer 2

Wow you have a much better temper than I do. She needs to understand that her son married you and that its your family now. I think you did the right thing. I think if you apoligize then she will think she can treat you the same way. You should try to talk to her. Ask her why she hates you. Also tell her you are not going to take it anymore. And that if she keeps acting the same way that you think it would be best if she stayed away from you and your daughter.
Maybe she hates you because shes jealous of your relationship with your husband or maybe shes just a *****!!

Answer 3

First you should be proud of your husband for standing up for you and you should be proud of yourself also. Your husband needs to lay down the law to his mother - no more trash talk about your marriage, his wife or his life to anyone anytime or she can forget she has a son and his family. This should be done between just the two of the (or if he wants your support - the three of you) but not in front of other family members or the children. Good luck and God Bless.
P.S. Many people go back to school and/or accomplish lifelong dreams in their later years even so she has no right to say you'll never do it, it's not her dream or her timeframe. It sounds as if she is a miserable frustrated woman who doesn't have anymore dreams so she wants everyone else's to fail so they will be miserable like her.

Answer 4

What does your husband say when she is saying all these all full things . He's the ONLY one that can stop her mouth. She seems to not know what to say! She should not be talking to the kids about YOU! and it wasn't her decision to make about you have a child.

I do think and Yes.... I have a mother in law... I took time to get were I am with her , my husband is the baby . You should not have put her out or told her not to return,

Your husband does need to put her on band from you guys home for a minute. This needs to be addressed ASAP!

Maybe you can have all go to counseling . Speak to your pastor

Answer 5

she sounds a little obnoxious to me. someone who needs to be involved in her kids lives cause she hasn't got one of her own. could it be that she really liked the first wife and is angry that she's not around anymore? not that it matters but, it could explain some of her issues. there are many that would say you never should have gone off on her like that but, i'd have to disagree with them. when you've put up with as much as you possibly can, sometimes there's no other way. it's none of her buisness what you do with your life and she had no right to put in her two cents. i'd have done the same thing you did. i don't know if i would apologize. she may come back and give you even more grief.

Answer 6

If your husband is taking up for you when she says something bad, that is a VERY good thing. She sounds like a total biotch. I think it's good that you stood up to her. Next time, tell her off without cussing (even though cussing makes it extra fun...). Also, there is no age limit in furthering your education. Don't ever stop learning because you think you are too old.

Answer 7

She did have a valid point about you going back to school.Your first priorities at this point is NOT a career but your kids.Wait until theyre grown enough to all be in school then go part time.Believe it or not being mommy is the most important job you will ever have.After all, will you be able to stay up all night studying and taking care of a newborn?Be realistic, you have to sleep sometime.

Answer 8

This got here approximately to me additionally, and he concept he could desire to maintain stalling, yet while it got here right down to it, HE became into the father. He had a great invoice from toddler help he ended up having to pay, and that i've got been given his tax returns for a on a similar time as additionally. He does make alot of money, and my toddler help funds could desire to be greater then what i'm getting, yet I in undemanding terms have him pay the daycare invoice. i don't use the money for something, different than the youngster we made at the same time and he left me with on my own. i come across it offensive that i'm getting placed right into a team of "woman residing off of youngster help" I even have continuously labored and that i held up my ingredient as quickly as we made this toddler, it became right into a tragic day as quickly as I relized that my childs father became into not in a position to do his area in our kinfolk. It does not "make my toddler greater proper" to have a father who isn't area of his existence. If all he can do is pay some funds, through fact the regulation make him, then I thank the youngster help device for helping me get it.

Answer 9

What's wrong with your husband/ boyfriend??? She's just a b*tch, but why is he allowing this?! You need to tell him to say something to her, and stop worrying about why she hates you!