Ok, this guy and I have been wanting to move in together for a while now. All total, we have known each other for 2 yrs. But my mom thinks living together without a legal marriage is a sin. I dont. I think all you need is a commitment, and a plan. His mom is really excited for us, though. She even told me she loved me, because i'm the only girl that has ever truly cared about her son. Just this past week, though, he's been missing. Not even his mom or grandparents or any of his friends have heard from him, including me. His mom allowed me to give the police the address I had of where he was supposed to be. They went and talked to his dad, and all he would tell them was "he's ok". 15 mins later, his stepmom calls and curses at me. Calls me a psycho. Threatens me. Says i'm obsessed. There's still been no word from him. But he had promised me in the past, that if i hear no different, to assume that everything he's told me is still true. And that we would always try to work out problems.
2007-05-02 07:34:55 · 9 answers · asked by pocketful_of_sunshine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is everyone a pessimist? I have never known this guy to not tell someone if he had a problem with them. Plus, his mom says that she does not believe he is doing this to me personally, because she hasnt even heard from him! And there were no signs before that he wanted to get away from me. Everyone who's around him says he talks about me all the time, and it's always in a good way. He defends me if they say anything bad about me. And I have done nothing but be there for him whenever he needed. I truly care about him. and he's told me he truly cares about me. He's even cried in front of me. And if i cry around him, he comforts me. He has never wanted or tried to hurt anyone, even though alot of people have hurt him. I just pray that he is safe and that God will watch over him. And I hope you all do the same. I hope you all pray that this situation is not as bad as it appears on the surface.
2007-05-02 07:54:25 · update #1
well if i was in ur shoes id wait n c wat happenes gud luck i hope everything works oyt take care
2007-05-02 07:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not only callous but down right stupid of him. He's in a committed relationship with you, you're planning on moving in together and he disappear's and doesn't bother to contact you all this time? Does he know the emotional stress he is putting on you? Worrying if he is ok, if he's been hurt, if he's god forbid dead. And then because you contact the police after not hearing from him his step-mother curses you out and calls you psycho, I'm sorry that term totally applies to him. If it was my boyfriend he better have one amazing frickin reason for doing this to me, i.e. he's a CIA or FBI agent, or involved in some hush hush military operation and could not let me know about it for my safety, but if he came back with some BS excuse about how he needed alone time please he would be so gone from my life. Bottom line you don't do things like this to people that you love.
2007-05-02 07:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by kittin67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going missing for one week and worrying you is completely unacceptable behavior. Unless he has a dark side or secret other life, there's no excuse. Don't you feel you deserve better from someone who claims to love you? That situation is crazy, especially his step mom calling you and cursing you out. You are not obsessed, she is! Time to call it quits. He has a serious problem if he thinks treating you that way is something acceptable in a relationship. Better that you found out now than later after you were married and committed. Now although it may hurt, it's a painful yet inexpensive lesson for you. I'm sorry for your heartache, but please, move on and something better will come your way in time. Good luck!
2007-05-02 07:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mum is right, just from your letter someting sounds wrong. Don't go chasing him and wait until he comes looking for you. It seems very strange that he would go missing for a week and not tell you.
Listen to your mum more she knows the full story and has the benefit of lifes experiences.
I know alot of people will disagree but I think nothing says committment like marriage, when you are serious about marriage go to pre marriage classes I don't know if they have them where you are I know churches usually run them.
Listen to your mum.
2007-05-02 07:47:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like there could be all kindas of problems, and just something to think about, mabey the reason the divorse rate is over 50% is becase more and more people are living together before they are married.
2007-05-02 07:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by firesplat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you need to MOVE ON. He wasn't man enough to marry you, and he wasn't man enough to talk to you. he sounds like a total jerk for going "missing"-- how could you ever trust him? He's either a total moron, or mentally imbalanced!
Your mom was right.
2007-05-02 07:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So much for that plan and a commitment idea. Maybe this is why your mom is on about marriage first.
2007-05-02 07:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has not contacted you??? ---- this is very strange --- you really need to talk and find out what is going on
ignore the stepmom --- you had good reason to be worried
best wishes
2007-05-02 07:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm sounds a bit confusing n he sounds a bit strange to just run off!!!! I'd wait for him and see what happens
2007-05-02 07:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by x..sarah..x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋