how can i tell my boyfriend that i have been raped???????

Question

how can i tell my bf i have been raped with out him thing i was out cheating on him becuz i love him and i am a fraid tohave sex now since i was raped i do not want to go through life with my bf thing i am some slut that cheats i am only 15 and i need someone to talk to so help me as sooon as possible i need some one to talk with so if yall can give me yall e-mail adddress mine is [e-mail]

Answer 1

Just tell him to his face,I sent u an e-mail of a more detailed solution =]]

And I wish u the best of luck on recovering from being raped....

Answer 2

First of all i'm really sorry to hear that. Second... have you reported this... the longer you take to report this the more it hurt... also telling him may help and may not... does your mother know... talking to a parent or a friend will help a lot. I was raped an the worst thing I ever was to not talk about it.. i thought that it would help but it took years to trust people again. My boyfriend knows... and he has never held it against me. as long as you know you can trust him... and you want to continue your relationship you should tell him. However... if you don't feel confortable telling him then maybe you shouldn't but you need to report... that will be hard but in the end... you can make that person pay for hurting you.

Answer 3

What you need to worry about first is telling your local authorities. If I was your boyfriend and I found out you had been raped, I would not be mad at you in the tiniest bit, nor do I think any other guy in the world would be (except for bat-crazy lunatics). I would be on the way to the guys house with a baseball bat or a loaded gun however. Seeing as that is probably not going to have desirable consequences for your boyfriend the best thing you can do for yourself as well as your boyfriend is to go to the authorities as quickly as possible and get them moving to punishing the guy so your boyfriend doesn't have to do it himself and suffer the consequences.

Answer 4

Well, first I hope you are getting some counceling for yourself. Rape is a crime of violence and not something you can get over fast. Your bf needs to know. It may affect your relationship or it may not. But either way, you need to be honest with him because if you keep this from him and he finds out by someone else or another way, he will then possibly be hurt and feel he can't trust you to be honest with him about important things. I know you are scared you may lose him over this. But not to tell him, IMO, is worst.
I am sorry that you are so young and have to deal with this kind of crime. Hang tough and get help so you can get some healing started and coping skills so that you can have honest and healthy relationships.

Answer 5

First of all i want to say i'm sorry that you had to go through that. Second of all you need to go to the hospital and get a rape test done. And tell people, you need to tell someone what happened. ANd third, just sit down with your b/f and tell him what happened. If he is a true man then he will understand and help you out in anyway he can. Good luck girl. Please tell someone what happened so they can try to find the guy and put him away before he does it to someone else.

Answer 6

I went through the exact same thing, only I told the guy I was with and he left me. It was really hard to go through losing him and that other part of me. But in the mean time, I made a wonderful friend who went through the same thing, and she helped me out a lot. If you want to talk my e-mail address is, [e-mail]

Answer 7

You need to go to the police. Now, since i know you want to tell ur bf, talk to him about it first and if he doesn't take it well you don't love eachother as much as you though, then go to the police, maybe u should have a family member go with u. This wasn't ur fault so don't worry about him this is a bigger problem. You can email me if you want to talk or anything.

Answer 8

First, I just want to say that it is not your fault. You did NOT deserve to be forced, you are not a $lut. My advice to you is to first seek out a support group in your area that can help you deal with what just happened to you, then when you feel comfortable, tell him. But not even a moment before you feel comfortable...If after talking to him, you find that he thinks being forced is the same thing as having loose morals, he is a jerk. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

you have to talk to a professional about this because this is very damaging to you and it wasnt your fault. The boy should understand that you were hurt by this and I think if you really like him then maybe you should trust him enought to tell him. If you feel you cant trust him then there is no relationship but if I were you I would seek out professional help first and ask them for there advice.

Answer 10

You should tell your boyfriend that you were raped. If he doesnt understand then you shouldn't be with him. That shouldn't be counted as cheating if you were raped. U didnt want to have sex with the guy.