Ok my daughter use to love my new husband, but latley she just don't like him and she wants me to leave him. He use to to so great to me and to her - BUT
Once he called the cops and had me arrested on assualt (no charges were ever filed)
She has seen him throw a 27 inch tv at me, throw the house phone at me, they both missed - they both are now broke.
She has seen countless bruises on me and she just knows they are from him. He told her that I was a slut and a whore
It has only been these last few weeks that he has been this way- a mix of persciption drugs and alcohol
I would love to stay with my hubby - but my daughter and him just dont get along, what can I do?
He really don't understand why she don't like him, I myself don't blame her - how do I explain this to him?
2007-05-02 06:57:11 · 23 answers · asked by Rosie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know why my daughter don't like him and as I said, I don't blame her for not
2007-05-02 07:27:49 · update #1
my daughter don't live with me, she lives with her b/f and has for a while, she moved in with him because she wanted to live with him and he signed a lease so they can't live with us
2007-05-02 08:55:08 · update #2
Takes two to tango.
You can't leave a guy just because your young daughter doesn't like him. She used to, now she doesn't....
Frankly, if you don't love him then leave him. Nothing can fix the lack of love. I'm sorry you're going through this. I really am. Change it. That's all you can do.
2007-05-02 10:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by brassinpocket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, your daughter is a real idiot isnt she?I mean she only saw some bruises on you, seen him throw a 27" tv at you and a phone.For crying out loud whats wrong with that/Other than that he is just soooo perfect!I think you should send her to her dad's to live.I mean she obviously is the ONLY one in the house with a lick of sense1You on the other hand are acting like a desperate little 13 yr old afraid to lose such a wonderfull man who abuses you physically and verbally.If I had my way and knew where you were, my wife and I would take your daughter in to get her out of that hell hole you have her in .If you have HALF abrain in your head kick his sorry @ out yesterday and tell him NEVER to come back, it is because of his BEHAVIOR you are doing this.THAT my dear is how to explain this to him and if he doesnt understand then tell him to go home to his mommy and she can explain it to him.
2007-05-02 07:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you staying with him? Is he planning on doing something about the anger/alcohol/drugs problem?
It seems like a simple enough thing to explain to him, though. Just say what you said here. It looks pretty obvious & I don't know how he could claim to not understand it.
What are you doing for your daughter, to help *her* understand all of this? That seems to be more important to me. If you can't start taking responsibility for yourself & being a good example for her - showing her what she should do when someone is abusive to her, maybe she should go stay with someone else for a while.
2007-05-02 07:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand why you are with him.
Dear, he is going to kill you if you don't leave his abusive butt! Call the police EVERY TIME he hurts you! Every time you do nothing, that gives him permission to do it again and do it worse! You and your daughter are both in grave danger! I don't care if he's been this way for years or if it just started happening yesterday. What he is doing is illegal. The more you procrastinate calling the authorities on him, the more power you are giving abusers EVERYWHERE to hurt people! You need to help all victims by calling the cops and sending the message that abusers need to beware!
Don't tell me you love him or need him. You are doing him NO FAVORS by condoning his actions! You are simply feeding his sickness.
Save your daughter and yourself. It would appear that your daughter has a better head on her shoulders that you do. It's time to act like the adult and protect the child.
2007-05-02 07:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an abuser - of course she doesn't like him. Staying in the relationship is only going to show her that it's ok if a guy hits you. Either he gets help NOW or you leave. What a horrible situation to put your daughter in. Why haven't you called the cops on HIM?
2007-05-02 07:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i might want to be as straightforward as a probability along with her as you may want to be with a three year previous. i'm speaking from being in fix for 10 yrs (i develop into 15 the perfect time I used cocaine ), from being a drug counciler, and from now being a mom. you could tell her, "Hunny, Daddy is unwell, that is not like the way you or mommy fall unwell, it really is a particular type of unwell that you'll understand once you become old. Daddy loves you very a lot and he cares for you lots yet each from time to time Daddy is merely not waiting to be there and it does not recommend he would not love you or does not recommend he would not opt to be there, it merely skill he won't be able to be there." As she receives older she will be in a position of worth your honesty and continuously comprehend mom is someone she will believe. Plus she wont sense like she did something incorrect or that she's unloved, regardless of each little thing that is not her fault daddy is unwell. for this reason she wont continually assume issues from him he can not and could not do for her. the great thing about it really is that she will be in a position of not imagine all adult males are like him, then move those emotions later on in existence to different adult males in her existence and performance a foul relationship with all of them. She'll now "daddy develop into unwell, yet not all adult males are." might want to God bless you all and that i wish he's waiting to get his existence mutually for them. Hugs.
2016-12-05 05:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by headlee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs rehab and quick!
Otherwise why would you stay in an abusive relationship - regardless of the "reasons" - and continue to expose your daughter to this. She's worried about you, and herself, and she obviously knows this is wrong.
If you choose to stay with a man that hurts you, you are basically sending the message to your daughter that his hateful and abusive behavior is not only okay and acceptable but that's it more important than your relationship with her. Remember that you are worth way more than what you are getting. Either he goes to rehab or you get out while you still can - and take your daughter with you.
2007-05-02 07:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by libqueen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was going to answer right away but decide to read others first. They all have given you the same advice. I say 11 answers so far and they all say leave his weary a** alone and leave for the sake of your daughter, if not for yourself. Sounds like SOUND advice. You, yes you, are worthy of better than this! PLEASE seek help. A local church will help you descreetly. He is Not going to quit the battering now, and most likely not the drugs. So leave while you still can.
2007-05-02 07:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by SALSA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every response is right on the head get out now! My mom was in this kind of relationship don't know how old your daughter is but I was 5 when they started dating called him dad and all. He raped me at 13 and I ran away 6 months later. If you love your kid get him away from him now!! You should have love for yourself not to let any one treat you that way also.
2007-05-02 07:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Cora * 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to stay with someone who throws something as big as a tv at you? If you don't do something to get him help you could end up severely injured or dead, which would leave your daughter without her mother. You need to talk to your husband's doctor or a medical professional and if he isn't receptive to help you need to leave the situation for your daughter's sake. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-05-02 07:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋