im in love with a man who has feelings for me, he says staying friends is best that way no one will get hurt, im married and would leave him tommorrow for this man . why does he say this ? im really upset about it.
2007-05-02 06:52:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he's just too good a person to be responsible for breaking up a marriage.
2007-05-02 06:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by wizjp 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
maybe he does not want to be the reason your marriage broke up, he is doing the decent thing an not getting involved with a married women. maybe if u had been single things would of been different respect his decision try an work your marriage out if u cant then leave i don't think u love your husband, or u would not be so quick to say u would leave him. but don't try an make this man the reason your marriage ended
2007-05-02 08:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by lizjess2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the way he feels about it, so he says no. Why are you going to destroy your marriage for a guy who sees you as a good friend? I know you're in love with him, but maybe if you work on your marriage as much as you put feelings into this issue your marriage will not end in such a bad way.
What about your husband? It's not what you want only in this thing, you have a man you promised him commitment, and yet you are ready to get rid of him the time the other guy says he loves you?
I don't think getting involved with this man and getting divorced is a solution here. What does such an action say about you and your personality?
Please re-think twice.
2007-05-02 07:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but your just another divorce statistic waiting to happen. May be put the same energy into making your marriage work instead of acting like a little sleeze bag.
If I were the guy I wouldnt want you if you would leave your husband for me.....Because after the exitment and new wears off the odds of you finding a greener pasture again would be very high.
2007-05-02 07:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by mike093068 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Like he says, if you stay as just friends, then there's no divorce, and the man won't feel guilty for having wrecked a marriage. Maybe he feels that's the right thing to do.
You also should consider that maybe his feelings for you are not as strong as the feelings you have for him. If that's the case, it would be rash to leave your husband. Things might not work out just the way you hope they will, huh...
2007-05-02 07:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Buzzard 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he actually tell you he has feelings for you? Or did you tell him you like him and he's trying to be nice by saying you should just be friends? Either way this guy obviously has more morals than you if he doesn't want to be the one who breaks up a marriage. You can't think much of your husband if you'd leave him so fast to be with someone else so do him a favour and break it off just now and let him get on with his life while you look for someone else.
2007-05-02 07:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by CUTEY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, sweetie, here is the reason why, he wants to stay friends because he knows you are married and he knows your husband will not only want to kick his A**, but also, are you willing to lose everything you have in your marriage for this guy, your husband can take you for everything you are worth.
I would say this guy you are willing to have an affair with is smart. Being friends is fine, being more than that while you are married is called a "sin".
2007-05-02 07:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He obviously respects the fact that you are a married woman. And he probably doesn't wish to be labelled as a marriage wrecker. Perhaps his feelings for you are not as strong? Best stay friends. Unless you are absolutely sure this is what you want.
2007-05-02 07:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by beausbreeches 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't have the same morals as you. He feels dating or sleeping with a married woman is wrong and does not want to destroy a family. If you hate your husband so much, leave for yourself, not for another man.
2007-05-02 06:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because he really loves you. You have a really good friend there, treasure him. And stick with your man. Your friend will help you bear it.
"Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained." CS Lewis
2007-05-02 07:08:51 · answer #10 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he say it?He might have two reason for that.1-he knows you're married already.2-he doesn't love you so much as you do love him...sorry but I had to say that...when he started to have an affrair with you,he already knew you're married.So..what is the problem now?
2007-05-02 07:17:43 · answer #11 · answered by **Diana** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋