ok so me and my girlfriend have been going out now for over a year and honestly things are going really well. we love and care about eachother alot and know almost everything about eachother. so after a while i asked her what she thought when she masturbates and she wouldnt tell me. i didnt press the issue because its not to important to me or anything. but today she decided to tell me. as it turns out she thinks about me cheating on her, like having sex with other people. im not quite sure what to make of this. she says she likes the pain that i causes. she also just said "pain is love. i need chaos." i dont know what to think or say or anything. she feels like she is so messed up. its not a big deal it dosent bother me and frankly i am just glad that she thinks about me at all and not her ex girlfriend like i thought she might. i dont want her to think these things but i dont know what to do or say or antyhing, any help is greatly appriciated.
2007-05-02 06:48:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But Dude, she's thinking about you. :-)
She likes the fire of YOU being caught by her.
It's just her fantasy. You are in it.
Don't make it true,
or she will truly know pain.
I like watching the " TV Show Cheaters ".
I just can't understand the dumbness of some
people.
2007-05-02 07:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by elliebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, well, you have to give it time. She will eventually call, if she doesn't than she probably doesn't care about you. This means you should move on until you find someone who actually cares. There is hope. It is still not clear how she feels now. She probably feels a bit shocked. I mean I would feel kind of weird if my friend says he likes me. You don't need to rush to find someone you like. Take your time. Yeah, it's probably good that you told her.
2016-05-18 23:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is sexually stimulated by emotional pain. That's definately not a healthy response. Pain is not love. I can't tell you how to feel about her admission but remember that if something feels weird or wrong then it probably is. Keep an eye on her.
2007-05-02 06:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by nykki0882 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs some help! How can you get happiness out of thinking about some one cheating on you. That is a moment for BOTH of you to be your best. It would bother me if I was in your shoes, that is just the wrong way to feel. As for me when I do that my partner is involved fron start to finsh. I sure don't think neg. thoughts. That would bring me down and of course out of the mood. Get her some help.
2007-05-02 06:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by codasuau5 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh snap! haha well man that can mean a number of things. one, that she is a bit twisted in tha head. or two, that she thinks like a guy and would have no problem watching. either way you might havea problem on your hands. just as long as she doesnt try to get other people in bed. cuz after that point you'll lose her.
2007-05-02 06:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, your saying that your girlfriend masturbates to the thought of other people ?? Men, women or both ??
I can tell you right now that this relationship is probably not going to last..... I mean, unless you are into swinging with other people and such.
It doesn't seems like she's ready to commit.
2007-05-02 06:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by M.O. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow...ummm. Leave it alone. Don't make a big deal out of it. Everyone has their own sex fantacies. The fact that she even told you a thought so private to her, let's me know that the two of you have a good relationship.
2007-05-02 06:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by BumbleBee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hmm i think its just her sex fantasy.... fantasy arent real thats why we get wild and crazy... some crazy stuff turns me on to... everyone is different... i wouldnt worry she was honest about it with you .... and dont make a big deal she trust you enough to tell you and i bet it was hard for her to admit that to... but its just a fantasy and some people are very kinky but i think there is worse things out there than what she said.... at least she didnt say kiddie porn or something totally horrible ya know....
2007-05-02 06:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by JebbieCakes 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What's the big deal? Let her fantasize about what she wants... it's the whole point of it. It's a little weird, but hey- that's probably less weird than a lot of other people out there. Why stress about it?
2007-05-02 06:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by marc c 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is a little nutty, but we all have our hangups. If she isn't acting out in some other way, like hurting herself or asking you to cheat on her in front of her, then it's just kinky. No harm, no foul.
2007-05-02 06:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋