The first time my bf saw my breast he said...?

Question

how small they where. He didn't say if it was a good or bad thing to him. Now I feel SUPER insecure. Even more than i was before. I am only an A. What can I do to be less insecure? I weigh like 105, so I can't help being small.

Should I consider implants (not for him but to make me feel better)?

I work out and have a good body besides this.

He isn't a horrible person & he loves me even with small breasts. I just feel insecure now. When I asked him if that was bad he just said no, but I think he had to say that.

Answer 1

Awww Sweetie, dont you dare to a thing to those beautiful breasts of yours, there are so beautiful, Guys love small breasts, they are nicely rounded have small beautiful nipples, dont need bras,

Beautiful breasts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Don't try to become different. Love yourself for who you are. Unless you have some sort of deformity leave it alone.

I know plenty of men that like small breasts. It takes all types.

We are each beautiful in our own way. If you are dating someone mature enough to realize this it will be no big deal at all.

Mostly it is not your boyfriends perception you need to change but your own. Try affirming to yourself that you are perky and sexy instead of something negative.

If you shift the perception even within yourself and express it so you will be amazed at how many people will follow suit.

I liken this to how dogs often act with people. If people see the dog as a threat the dog picks up on this fear and becomes more aggressive. But if you immediately say, "Hi there sweety and pet him or her on the head etc, most dogs will mirror this love and more.

Just believe in yourself and your boyfriend will be more likely believe in you too.

Take Care You Sexy, Beautiful, & Peppy Thang ; )

Answer 3

Tell me why you were baring your breasts to him in the first place? I'm sure he had already noticed you were small chested....unless you were wearing cheaters? Don't worry about it. You put on weight, they'll grow.

What can you do to feel less insecure? You need to love who you ARE! Not what others think you should be. Not what Hollywood & the fashion industry says you should be. Start loving YOU first. I'm sure your boyfriend likes you because you're fun to be around, you're energetic, you probably make him laugh, you're inteligent....guys may not SAY that's what they like, but they won't hang around too long if it's only about your body & sex.

If you want someone who's in it for the long haul, you need someone who likes your personality more than your body, because, let's face it......you're going to grow old, and your body will start to fall apart.

Try finding some books about self esteem. Once you love yourself, it won't matter what size your body is.

Answer 4

Well, maybe it's the size that suits you the best. You're small, thin... most likely very feminine. You probably have other great features (legs, butt, face, hair, smile). And I'm sure your BF noticed something about you, because breasts alone don't make you an attracitve woman. I have a lot of small chested friends who get tons of attention from guys, much more than me (I have medium sized breasts). They have gorgeous faces. Don't base your beauty just on breasts, though being a woman myself, I know how hard it is to give up on insecurities.

However, your BF shouldn't be so surprised. He, when he first saw you most likely realized you had a smaller bust. He decided to be with you and love you. But before he even saw them, he probably knew. He couldn't have been expecting big breasts right? Guys notice that, even when you're fully clothed (unless you were wearing a padded bra). But still, he loves you. His comment was certainly rude, or at least, to blunt. You should explain how it made you feel, that it makes you feel less confident and sexy. Explain so that he'd see himself in your situation; tell him how he'd feel if you made a remark like that about his body. Guys can just say things sometimes, but don't realize how they make us feel. They're not very empathetic. Plus, tell him it's all about proportion, and that big breasts in a small frame don't look that well.

But anyway, I'm sure there are lot of things beyond breast size about you that attracted your BF to you in the first place (and no, I'm not talking just inner beauty or personality here, my BF told me when I had an insecurity attack that men ALWAYS find their GFs phisically attractive for something... and if you think about it, dating is about the conservation of the species, and people select their mates firstly based on phisycal attractiveness. It's how it's been for the entire history of humanity. It's instincts.). Now, if your BF really can't see beyond your small chest, then he's not worth it. And there ARE LOTS of guys who don't care about breast size or that are really into small breasts. I think an A cup is really hot on small women, it's more like that athletic look that girls like me don't have (I'm an hourglass girl...). So feel good about it, you probably look great anyway ;)

However, if YOU feel bad about having small breasts, and you feel that breast implants would make YOU feel better (even if not in a relationship, to feel good about you, not a bf) then I'd say go for it... but really, wait until your in your twenties or so to get them, because maybe you're still developing. And try to see yourself as a whole, you probably have a reat shape for being small. If you're NOT sure about breast implants yet, then you're not ready. When you're 100% sure it'll make yourself happier, then, go for it. :)

(I sure write a lot... sorry)

Answer 5

Don't feel insecure. I weigh 110, I know where you're coming from.

Small is good. Why?

Easily portable
Fits well in the hand
Won't get all saggy and all that.

To be blunt, if you have mammary glands a guy will like them. Even if he has a vague personal preference for a certain size, the fact that it's your body will override that.

Answer 6

If you thought he didn't like your face, would you change it?

The solution to being insecure is not modification of your body. It is accepting who and what you are.

Your body does not exist for his amusement. It exists so that you may live and learn and be happy and share love with others.

The health of your body is all you need worry about.

Consider, what happens if your boyfriend decides to dump you, for whatever reason? You have modified your body for him, and after he leaves, you are left with whatever changes you've made.

What if, ten years from now, you discover the implants are faulty and you face major health problems as a result? This just happened a couple of years ago to a lot of women. Will amusing your current boyfriend be worth that kind of agony?

Think of yourself as a piece of a puzzle. Your true love will be the one who fits who and what you are, just as two pieces of a puzzle intended to fit together are designed so that they do.

If you feel a need to change yourself to fit in with your boyfriend, he's not the piece of the puzzle that best fits with you.

Just be yourself. Everything else will work out.

Answer 7

If he's your boyfriend he's probably ok with them. But then again he did comment on them. Tell him you feel insecure when he comments on your breasts (if he has trouble understanding you, tell him it's the same thing as telling him he has a small penis).
To be honest though, most guys have a breast size preference. But when it comes down to it, they just want breasts period.

Answer 8

Don't feel insecure! If you are happy with them, that's all that matters, don't read into comments that aren't meant to mean anything. You will save yourself so much worry and anxiety in your life if you genuinely take that on board...do not read into every thing. Don't take things personally like that. I assume this guy likes you. Look at it this way, it obviously didn't bother him, and if it does, f**k him. Or don't! If he does have a problem, he is a fool, keep strong.

Answer 9

Why are you insecure? There's nothing wrong with you, and you can't really control this (without surgery, that is). If he can't accept you for who you are and how you look, that's his problem, not yours. If he's that hung up on it, you should hang up on him. Tell him how much that hurt - put it in terms he can understand...for instance, how would he have felt if you had made a comment about something being small when he unzipped?

Answer 10

Don't feel insecure! I think small boobs are great b/c you can wear any type of low cut shirt and look sexy instead of slutty. I have 36 C's and wish they were smaller.
However, I think your bf was wrong to say that. He should be telling you how beautiful you are. Ask him what he meant!

Answer 11

Please don't fret over your small breasts. A Cups are incredibly sexy and erotic and a perfect size. You have nothing to be embarrassed about.

I am hopeful that my next gf has very small breasts because they are so erotic and sexy.

There are many famous celebrities with smaller breasts. They include:
Kristen Kreuk (Lana Lang in Smallville) http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v515/bloodylamer/bastardly-photos/0505/album31/kristin-kreuk-08130603.jpg
Calista Flockhart (Ally McBeal) http://kr.img.blog.yahoo.com/ybi/1/0f/e4/sk_y2k/folder/25657/img_25657_51408?20031129184922.jpg
http://www.palmbeachpost.com/shared-blogs/palmbeach/thompson/media/Calista.jpg
Nicole Kidman http://www.smh.com.au/ffximage/2006/03/09/kidman_narrowweb__300x454,0.jpg
Liv Tyler http://www.saranair.com/gallery/gallery/liv/thumb/24.jpg
and Cameron Diaz http://gfx.download-by.net/screen/166/166796-cameron-diaz-screen-saver.jpg

The bottom line is that any man who really loves you will love your breasts as well - and especially your nipples.

You also will not have to worry about sagging breasts as you get older.

I wish you happiness and I wish you all the best!