my fiance and i are very fed up of his family interfering in our relationship they make our lives a misery me and my fiance get along great but i am 13 years older than him and he is a bit disabled his family treat him like a disabled 5 year old even though he is 28, we want to move away from them all and live our own lives and be happy, but we dont know how to tell them this, any ideas. please no silly answers.
2007-05-02 06:34:18 · 5 answers · asked by judrop111 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your are both consenting adults, that do not need permission or approval from your families to do anything. If this is the relationship that you both want, and you want to move away, then by all means, do it.
You could both sit down, and make a video tape and relay all your feelings to them and the reason you want to move out of their influence. Tell them how you feel and that you both love them all, but it's time that you get on with your lives. You've made the decision that you want to be together, and they will just have to accept it, or you will lose touch with them. Tell them that it's their choice whether or not you all keep in touch.
I am 9 years older than my husband, and we lived together for 14 years, and got married 6 years ago, which makes 20 years that we have been together. If it's the age difference that's causing the problem with the family, tell them to get over it...age is merely a number. My mom died when I was 21, and my father waited 5 years before seeing anyone. When he started seeing someone, finally, it was the daughter of his best friend . She is 5 months YOUNGER than me, and they have been married for 27 years now. Age difference should not come between families. Happiness is all that should matter. LIFE IS TOO DAMN SHORT!!!!
2007-05-02 06:49:11 · answer #1 · answered by porkchop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
provided he isn't mentally disabled and therefore can't think for himself, i say just do it. trying to ease them into the idea would only give them cause to argue him out of his decision. he is old enough to decide his own life. time for him to stand up to his family. everyone has to do it sometime. it may be a scary idea for him but he'll feel so much better once he's done it. good luck
2007-05-02 14:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't owe them any explanation. I would just tell them you are moving and roll. It's none of their business in the first place. If you don't want family in your business, don't share your personal business with them. Just tell them the basics, and leave it at that. They won't like it at first, but when they realize you're no pushover, they'll back off. You have to set this tone early in your marriage because it can cause problems. I set this tone upfront with my in-laws and they respect it now.
2007-05-02 13:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by J Dubble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would just be honest and tell them. your boyfriend needs to tell them that he is capable of living and managing his own life and if they dont allow him to do this that he is prepared to move somewhere that he can live his own life.
2007-05-02 13:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them straight up. It's your life.
They will get over it, if not they're not bothering you anymore
Don't worry be happy
2007-05-02 13:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by golfengineer3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋