My step-mom today called me at school and said that she couldnt bring me food for my game but to tell my dad she did so she could keep the money. I told her that i wasnt going to do that and sheh got mad so we started fighting and she told me that It wa sprobally my fault that my mom died because i am such a little brat. The dean of students at my highschool saw me crying afterwards and asked me what was wrong i told him that i didnt want to talk about it should i have told him what went on and also why would my step-mom say it was my fault that my mom died?
2007-05-02 06:32:37 · 26 answers · asked by vermontangel90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your step mom sounds like she isnt a very plesent person. It makes me upset to hear that someone would say that to a kid. Not to mention get you involved with secrets from your father.
2007-05-02 06:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by Jill knows best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, not all step-moms are like that. I know of some that are blessings to the family. I am sorry that you apparently have a rotten one.
Have you tried talking to your father about the trash she pulls? I get the impression that this is not the first time she has verbally abused you. If he doesn't believe you or simply won't bother to help you, talk to a trusted teacher or a school counselor about this.
Unfortunately, being a jerk and a verbal abuser is not against the law, but with the help of some adults on your side, your dad will be forced to face this situation and your step-mom would soon know that her words WILL come back to bite her.
Good luck. Your mom would have been proud of the stand you are going to make for yourself.
2007-05-02 06:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was awful and extremely immature. It sounds like something a child would do. You need to tell somebody about what happened (preferably your dad). It's no little thing when someone in your family fails to come through for you (and doesn't care), wants to be rewarded for it, and not suffer the consequences.
After you tell your dad it would be nice of you to also tell the dean what happened so that he doesn't worry about it (because he really DID care).
Why would your step-mom say that? It's hard to say. I had an incident with my step-mom a few years ago that's hard to forget. I was college age and visiting my dad for the weekend. I had slept over and the first morning there she attacked me verbally. She took personal shots at me that made me want to cry (and I'm a guy). I decided to leave and started packing up my things and my loving dad who didn't want to see me go convinced me to stay and talk about it. We ended up making up but it was so weird because she ended up crying and we talked mostly about how she felt hurt at the time.
Right now I'm not sure what caused it. Perhaps it was some hormonal change at her age. Or maybe some stress she had put on herself at the time. Whatever it was makes no difference to our relationship now. She's a very loving and caring person--almost like another mom.
Your relationship with your step-mom may not be good now, but that doesn't mean that you can't have a good relationship with her in the near future.
2007-05-03 15:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not a requirement that Step Mom's are stupid...but it sounds like you have gotten a real raw deal. I'd have a talk with Dad in front of her....Don't let her know that you are going to bring it up in advance....just do it and let her try to worm her way out of it. Yes...from now on tell the dean so he will have a record of the things she does to you ; it may help you out in the future. Don't worry Honey...you are NOT the cause of your mother's death and 16 pitchforks from HADES to that woman for saying that you were. Take care ...soon you'll be grown and out on your own. HUGS !
2007-05-02 06:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your step mother is a very confused adult who knew better than to strike out like that just because she was mad at you and she also is an adult and knew better than to ask you to lie to your father for her. You are the one in the right when you said you would lie for her. And yes you should have told the dean about what was bothering you. I'm sure you know that you did nothing to cause your mom's death and that was just plain nasty and mean of your step mom to say something like that. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-05-02 06:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...maybe you should tell your dad what a manipulating, childish, lying skank of a wife he has. Don't hesitate to use that episode at school to your advantage. Confront the step-mom with your dad. Then, in regards to your mother, tell her that was tasteless, and you hope no one ever speaks of her deceased loveds ones that way. And you hope no one ever makes her feel, the way she made you feel by saying that because no one deserves that.
I'm not against step-moms here, As a matter of fact I am so close with my father's second wife, that I call her mom. I still call her Mom, even though they have been divorced for like 10 years now. And yes my real mother is still alive.
2007-05-02 06:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was upset dont lisen to her it is not ur fallt and she has some nerve just ignor her and im telling u that she will come up 2 u in like a copel of days and say she did not mean it and u will think ya ok but just tell her how much that hert u and good 4 u to say no and not let here keep the mouny that is stelling
well good luck
im with u girle be strong
nicole age 14 toronto ont canada
2007-05-02 06:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should talk to someone about that. She is probably jealous of you for some reason. I am also so sorry about your mom. Stay strong, and go and talk to someone. I am a stepmom but I believe the stepchildren should be treated just like our own flesh and blood. She needs help if she is trying to make you miserable.
2007-05-02 07:20:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a real b! I'm sorry that she put you through that,birth moms can be like that too unfortunetly. She's jealous of you and doesnt want to share your father. She probrably doesnt have as much charisma as you have and cant stand it! I would say to retaliate and treat her as rotten as she treats you but two wrongs dont make a right. Kill her with kindness and if that dont work, kill her, LOL, just playin.I dont want to read about this in the news!
2007-05-02 06:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by BlkBeauty24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she is an evil cu nt who is jealous of you and your deceased mother.
the first thing you do when you get home is tell your dad that she didnt bring you any food and what she said to you about your mother. if he doesnt believe you have the dean call him and tell him what he saw (you crying)
you can always go back to talk to the dean about what is wrong.
2007-05-02 06:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by Tissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋