let's say eventhough you don't want to...
or it's your first time or whatsoever...
What makes you give in to the pressure?
*or no pressure at all*
2007-05-02 06:25:52 · 58 answers · asked by Jimmy the Cricket 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love the person and you are ready to have sex then that is what makes you give in...you should never pressure someone into sex and you should never feel pressured into giving it.
2007-05-02 06:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Often it's youth and/or peer pressure that will "tip the scales" and cause a person to ignore their better judgement and "give in". This is never a good choice.
Sexual intimacy is such a turning point in a person's life that it should never be coerced, forced, or taken if the person has not chosen it for the right reasons.
Unfortunately, our culture has put out so many confusing images, between advertising and movie/tv portrayals, that make it look like "everyone is having sex", and that you're not "cool" unless you are, too.
The most important thing to remember is that you only get ONE first time- and to throw that away having meaningless sex with someone when you're not 100% sure that it's the right thing for BOTH of you is always a mistake. You can't take it back to "regift" it when you DO meet the person to whom you want to give that gift- and, as corny as that may sound, when you really come to love someone, you will wish that you could have your first sexual experience with THEM. I'm speaking to you from experience and from my heart, and I promise that this is true.
The bottom line is: If you have ANY doubt, just WAIT. If the other person truly cares for you, they'll understand and appreciate that choice.
2007-05-02 06:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by jazz_lark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave in when I thought that I was in control. I thought that I could withstand the temptation to give in, and I had no expressed intent of having sex. Before I knew it, we were both naked and all the equipment was in the right place - it happened by itself :)
If a guy tells a girl that he doesn't want to have sex, but he just wants to go skinny dipping, or get naked and make out, but not do anything, the girl will tend to let her guard down, and sex will be over before either of them realized that it started.
I hope you don't use this to manipulate anyone or take advantage of anyone.
This is why it's important for people to develop their own personal hard standards that are non-negotiable. And the line needs to be drawn WAY before you're lying in bed together naked.
2007-05-02 07:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by Vincent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u love somebody deeply, then there is no give in to the pressure. U love somebody so much that both of u develop an understanding, both understand each other's need and act according to the situation, because true love is all about giving not about getting.
2007-05-02 06:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by saloni s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kissing my neck and rubbing me.
also, i didnt want to satisfy my husband anymore because i fell out of love and i stopped caring for it. I stopped having sex with him for over a year, then divorced him. Now i am the happiest, i thought we had great sex until i got with my new boyfriend. wow, what a difference. More loving and new things all the time.
Now i am with someone else who i love very much and i want sex all the time. the sex is much better than my 13 year marriage. i will never trade that for anything. He does everything i like and want even more of. My ex did a few things that i didnt perticerly like but he kept making me. Also, it was the same position everytime. It began to become a chore rather than feeling great thats why i stopped. my new boyfriend tosses me around like a rag doll, i love it.
2007-05-02 06:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by Buff Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there shouldnt be any pressure but if you really have that connection then you wont have to be coerced into it. but if you want to know what makes a woman want to be with a man its how he approaches her how he talks to her. some men just have a way with words and i dont mean the yo baby words either. a man should realize that the seduction takes place for a woman wayyy before you go to the bedroom it begins for her in the mind. so start with the mind and go from there.
2007-05-02 06:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by music73ey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like this. A couple were discussing how to let each other know wether they want to have sex or not without actually saying the word, to spare each other from embaressment.
The woman says: ok, if you want to have sex, just squeeze my right boob once. If you don't want sex squeesze the left one.
the guy thinks for a second and says ok, if you want sex just yank on my penis once. If you don't want sex, then yank on it 50 times. get it??
2007-05-02 06:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by I Told You SO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because you want your partner to know how much you love him. For me its not sex when I do it with my partner, its true love. I dont think there is a time that I dont want to. If its your first time, make sure you are ready for it and you will know. Never be pressured because you will regret it.
2007-05-02 06:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have "give in" it's not the best time to have sex with someone. Any guy or gal who has to pressure someone else into having sex are only thinking of themselves.
It's best to wait until you are married in a committed relationship.
2007-05-02 06:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I remember when I did it for the first time. I was in love but I wasn't ready. My problem was more like "peer pressure". I don't regret it, but I wish I would have felt ready when I did it.
2007-05-02 06:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by true love 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋