So I got all smooth and silky, put on my best looking b and p set...heels and went to go surprise my man...it was about 1am. About half way there I called n told him what I was doing, what I wanted and what I was wearing... He was too sleep to be up to it...he said I could come anyways and he would hold me but I just turned around and went back home...
What should I have done differently for a better outcome? And if its my timing what do you suggest would be a better time?
Is it silly that my feelings were hurt? and if not, how do I tell him they were?
2007-05-02 06:14:57 · 10 answers · asked by hny_rstd 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whenever a woman asserts herself sexually and she's rebuffed, it's not illogical that her feelings are hurt, whether or not it's the guy's fault. But really, you're rolling the dice when you try to initiate sex at 1 a.m. unless you know the guy (a) is regularly awake and ready at 1 a.m. and (b) doesn't have to be up the next day.
For a better outcome, first know your guy. Timing -- the average time for sex in the U.S., I believe, is something like 10:25... and if you want him to really go at it, earlier is better!
The other thing you can do is tease him throughout the day. Tell him what you're thinking about, and when you want to see him... let him stew over it for a few hours, knowing your coming over , getting turned on, expecting you.
If you do the surprise thing, it can be very fun, exciting, and erotic, but you have to accept the fact that there's a good chance that it might not go as planned.
(P.S. I would love it if my woman did that btw.)
2007-05-02 06:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little silly that your feelings were hurt, but that is what feelings are is silly. Now just tell him and know that it is silly but you get to be silly. Also 1am is kinda late.
2007-05-02 13:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1am for a start!!! If he works he needs to sleep, go at a more reasonable hour, and you could have just gone there anyway, once you were there you never know what might have happened.
2007-05-02 13:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too sleepy??? Is this guy crazy? I would have jumped out of bed and watched for you to arrive!
It is not silly to feel hurt. Just tell him how you feel. Let him know that you were trying to do something for him and you feel hurt.
2007-05-02 13:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by Scott O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not silly your feeling were hurt, you were ready to go and excited and he rather sleep lol...next time dont call before you go over to his place, put on that sexy outfit with a robe to cover it ring the doorbell and when he opens the door open the robe so he can see i garentee he wont want to sleep and just "hold" you lol
2007-05-02 13:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you, my feelings would be hurt too. I don't know if I would have called him to let you know that you were coming. Just surprise him next time...
2007-05-02 13:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You showed your hand too early. You should have called him from the doorstep and told him to answer the door and then reveal your suprise.
2007-05-02 13:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was not rejecting you. he was being at a place in the relationship where he was honest. he was honestly tierd but wanted to please you by caring for you emotions by holding you. don't be upset. wait until its earlier or hold off ont he suprises until you are more comfortable
2007-05-02 13:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not the one who should have done things differently, it's thhat idiot boyfriend of yours who needs a readjustment!
2007-05-02 13:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him --- he should already know and be apologising to you --- its not you at fault its him he should have been more sensitive to you --- best wishes
2007-05-02 13:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋