2007-05-02 05:30:09 · 18 answers · asked by tuggie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I am so sorry to hear that! That's horrible!
You really should stay with her as long as possible. Let her be alone if she wants, but help her take care of things around the house.
Sorry for your loss.
2007-05-02 05:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry; my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
As the other posters have said, being the best sister you can be and just offering your support (and a shoulder to cry on if she needs!) is probably the best thing you can do for her and her family right now.
I would call or go by just to see how she is doing, and just offer to help out. When you're in the middle of the grieving process it can overwhelm the daily necessities of life that you normally tend to, so if you can, doing little things like offering to bring by dinner to the house so she and her family don't have to cook, offering to watch her other children (if she has any) so she can get things done like funeral arrangements, picking up or dropping off her other kids at activities for her, coming by to do laundry, etc. can be monumentally helpful to someone who is trying to get through a difficult time. If she wants to talk and grieve with you, definitely be there for her, but I wouldn't pressure her into doing it, either. You can just call her and say, "I thought I'd come by and help clean the house and do some laundry, just to take one more thing off your mind. Let me know a good time for me to drop by. This is something I can do to help and want to do for you if that's OK." Then when you're there, if she feels like grieving with you, you can be there to support her, but if she just needs time to herself, you can offer that, too. The main point is just to offer yourself to her and her family for whatever they need.
Good luck to you during this difficult time and god bless you and your family!
2007-05-02 06:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by TNTMA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For those people that answered with get off here and go be with her I bet you have sad lives and not many friends, how educated.
Im sorry to hear your nephew passed away, and so very sad for your sister. The pain shes going though cant be fixed. Try to be with her so shes not alone doing the day, clean up around the house just here and there. Try to get her to see a counselor or join a support group of people that have gone throw this. Theres nothing you can say or do to make it better. People say things and I dont think they think before their open their mouth. People will say things like you have your other child or you can have more kids. Encourage people not to say nothing if they open their mouth and say something stupid the first time. Give her lots of hugs cry with her talk about the child and the good times. When he said or did something funny. People will try to avoid talking about her child thinking it will make her sad or make her cry. Fact is shes going to be sad and cry talking about her baby doing the good times will help her to laugh and remember him with joy. Please just be there to listen to her dont try to fix it you cant. Tell her you dont know how bad she feels but that you love both of them and youre there if she wants to talk day or night.
2007-05-02 05:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think this is a parents worst nightmare i am very sorry the best thing you could do is just be there for her and talk to her when she want to talk. The most important facts are how old was he, was it sudden, and how it happend. Those all have to do with how your sister is going to react the only thing is be there for her and don't let her be by herself. Help her clean her house do the things for her she needs to do daily so she doesn't have to worry about it I'll pray for your family
2007-05-02 05:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by angelintown2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with her, hold her and just let her vent, cry scream what ever she needs. You may wanna stay at her house for a couple of nights, she cant be doing to good right now. Im so sorry for your loss. Make sure you care for your feelings too, you must be a wreck as well, i know i would be if i ever lost my little niece. Im praying for your family.
2007-05-02 05:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by marinewife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry.you should just be with her.you really cant do anything to help her.this pain can be cured only by the time.i think it would be good for her if she took up philanthropy or something like that.show her that life goes on but dont tell her.show this to her.help her find a meaning in her life.
2007-05-02 08:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by greentea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer your help to her. Tell her anything at all from cleaning to going out to a movie. Tell her you don't understand how she feels but want to be their for her and that you love her and if she wants to talk you will drop everything for her (comparing her feelings to what you have experienced, unless you have also lost a child, will only make her feel angry). The best thing to do is to be there for her. You know her best.
2007-05-02 05:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i'm so sorry for her loss...i can't imagine what she is going through.
just being at her side will help in the healing process. lend her your shoulder to cry on. offering to cook meals, clean house and do laundry will be a big help. go with her to make the funeral arrangements, nobody should do that alone.
2007-05-02 08:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by menotyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her cry on your shoulder. Do anything and everything she needs. This must be a very difficult time for her...do anything it takes to make her feel better. Insist that she gets some rest.
2007-05-02 05:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of 4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg, that's horrible. I would just be with her. She is going to need close family around her to help her get through this. Cook and clean for her.
I am so sorry for her loss. I hope you and her can get throguh this okay.
2007-05-02 05:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Spilamilah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋