My boyfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me around a month ago. So I'm just in the process of moving out of our place. We are on good terms and had a great relationship. Like he said, he wouldn't have changed a thing. He's just not ready for what I"m ready for and doesn't want to drag me along because he doesn't know if he'll ever be ready to make the "next step". Anyways, the thing is, I went to our place to pick up some things I had forgotten and I found porn dvd's. We never had porn in the house before this - when we moved into together he got rid of his magazines because he said that he didn't need them anymore because he has me. Now that we are broken up, I find this and I'm rather bothered by it. Why is he now watching this...? We had a very active and great sex life so I don't understand how I can be so quickly replaced with this...? Any insight would be great. I can't get it off my mind.
2007-05-02 05:29:46 · 33 answers · asked by Worried and Wondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really doesn't matter now. He's your EX...
2007-05-02 05:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, as a guy my guess is he might have liked watching that stuff before you got together and either knew you didn't like it or didn't want it in the relationship.
I'm 50 and married. Most of the porn I've seen is designed for middle aged men who seemed to have left any memory of good sex at home or never had it to begin with. That's where the problem is.
2007-05-02 05:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Stephen W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has been watching it all along without your knowledge of it.
It is wrong thinking on your part that he has replaced you with porn...you are a living thing...porn is just a make believe or fantasy movie...not real and raises expectations in real life if watched long enough.
Maybe he has been watching it all along (it is an addiction) and that is why he can not commit to you or anyone else...as his expectations are too high from watching the junk.
You still should not think of yourself being replaced by this.
You should move on and find someone who truly cares about you.
be cool...
2007-05-02 05:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to start from the premise that he didn't watch it while you were together even though that's doubtful. He isn't replacing you with porn. That's not the way guys see porn. Guys have girlfriends. Guys have porn. It's seperate. That's why we have no problem watching it when we have girlfriends.
Now that's he's unattached, he's doing all the things guys do. It isn't about replacing you. He'll probably hit the clubs and do some drinking too.
2007-05-02 05:40:24 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You two dated for quite a while, so I'm sure that he in no way is trying to replace you with porn. That's just crazy. He loved you, and that porn is just a quick fix for a man that is lonely and horny. You said that your sex life was great....well, that makes it even harder because not only does he miss you, he misses the great sex, too. Good luck to you!
2007-05-02 05:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by flowerbug26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be serious. This question actually made me laugh.
Guys always think about sex, they always need it, they always want it.
Let's run through the chain of events.
>He had porn before you and him hooked up
>He was doing you so he didnt need porn
>He isn't doing you anymore so.......................................................
>HE HAS PORN AGAIN. DUH!!!
Actually I really think that he had it all along and you just happened to find it now. It doesn't mean that a guy likes the porn better than you, it just means they got to do a naughty no no while no one was looking. And that turns them on soooooo bad.
2007-05-02 05:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer should be blatantly obvious he's still a man with needs. And your not with him anymore. I think this means that you haven't been easily replaced because he didn't have a woman in your place. He probably has not fully come to terms but he still gets horny. I wouldn't take it personal unless you still put out. lol.. good luck
2007-05-02 05:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jai 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex boyfriend told me he had no interest in porno at all, but i found a type that recorded from the paid tv. After we broke up, he registered the porno site to buy minutes to watch porno.
When he was with me, he watched less.
What i wanna say is, every man loves it. Don't trust them at all. Even women love to watch it.
2007-05-02 06:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by maryjoyce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't take this as an insult to yourself at all. Men have needs, we all know that. Since he doesn't have you he has turned to another source for his needs. Be greatful he has replaced you with movies and not another girl.
2007-05-02 05:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got extremely tired of looking at you. Why else do you think you broke up in the first place? So he decided to look at someting that doesn't post questions online about PORN. You freaking retard.
2007-05-02 05:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by overdrive4825 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummm, first he has the porn, then you come along and he gets rid of the porn, then you break up and he brings the porn back. Don't you see the pattern?
2007-05-02 05:33:18 · answer #11 · answered by Dallas 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋