Last I went out woth some buddies and met a girl. We liked each other right away and one thing lead to another and we ended up spending the night together. My gf and I have been together for 7 months and things are going good. I know I screwed up bad but should I tell her I I never do it again... Help!
2007-05-02 05:27:15 · 53 answers · asked by David 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should and hopefully you haven't give her any diseases you could have caught from your careless romp! Shame on you!
2007-05-03 08:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want it to work and you never plan on seeing the other girl again ( and there is no possiblity of her finding out) then no don't tell her... it will only hurt her. But at the same time you must think....why did you cheat? What is your relationship lacking? I have cheated and it was because there was an munderlying problem with my current relationship...when you meet the person you really want to spend forever with...cheating never comes to mind. So whats the real problem here.
2007-05-02 05:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by noname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop lying to her and most of all stop lying to yourself. You got away with it once, and, given another opportunity, you will do it again. You are weak and you are addicted to sexually having a woman.
Do your girlfriend a favor. Tell her the truth and then tell her that you don't deserve someone like her. If you both are strong, you will go your separate ways until you can develop the strength and integrity to be faithful to her. I would guess that you are both weak enough and needy enough that you will somehow justify staying together and you'll just end up in this miserable position again in the near future.
2007-05-02 05:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were u , i wouldn't tell her ... i f u love this girl don't ever ever do that again... u r telling us here that u have a good relation with her so u must appreciate that cause those relations are so hard to get... by telling her that the trust will be gone for ever and i dont think she will forget that... dude dont ever do that again... if u just wanna be w some other girls just let her go... but dont tell her what u did ... u will hurt her a lot...take care my friend...
2007-05-02 05:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by ALeJaNdRO A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets put it this way, would you rather she hears from you or on the street? You need to tell her, she will find out either way, believe me. If she leaves you then lesson learned, if she stays then you know you have a great girl and a strong relationship that can last. The other thing you need to do is figure out if you really want to settle down, why did you cheat? I have heard the one thing led to another line before and believe me, women dont buy it. good luck
2007-05-02 05:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a realationship is....TRUST. and if she can trust you enough that you wont do it again it's worth it, but if she is closed minded and doesnt want to hear it then i cant help you out. most girls doesnt want to be cheated on but it happens. we are all human, you have to explain that it's all lust that even though you cheated it was just lust. Explain to her every man likes to be curious... just because your with her it does not mean you cant look, your a human being. hey talk to her and be like lets try a 3 sum once a week? that keeps a relationship on for a long time. what man does not want a girlfriend who enjoys doing 3 sums with her friend or stranger with her boyfriend? p.s im a chick and im telling you this. im just a open minded chick, love yourself before anyone else and you'll see how free i feel!
2007-05-02 05:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by medinagotit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son kept it a secret for months and believe me when it came out his girlfriend was devastated. You have to come clean if you ever want to have an honest relationship. Please be man enough to do this. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot. You will probably lose her at first but if you prove to her that you have become a better person then maybe she will forgive you. Do the right thing.
2007-05-02 05:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by jeannie f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll never do it again please they all say that if you do it once you'll do it again and you cant love your gf that much if you'll go with someone just out the blue like that obviously you don't want tour gf or that other girl you found hotter..well yes tell her cause what if she did it to you you would want to know wouldn't you...?? yea you would so tell her she might not trust you or get her back well at lest she know
2007-05-02 05:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to burst your bubble, but things aren't going good anymore. You cheated. You screwed up royally. How could you do that? And don't say it's b/c of the alcohol. You knew what you were doing. You are scum and I feel so bad for your girlfriend. Sit down with her tonight, confess what you did and expect a lot of hatred out of her. You just broke her to pieces. You should feel ashamed. Consider yourself lucky if she forgives you, but don't expect her to remain loyal to you later. What goes around comes around, buddy.
2007-05-02 05:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well....I wouldn't tell her. but then I would tell her.
If you are telling her to make yourself feel less guilty, then don't tell her.
If you are telling her to be honest and see where the relationship will stand after she knows, then tell her.
Sometimes an indescretion early in a relationship, and honestly 7 months is early in a relationship, is not paramount enough to bring up.
But she may found out on her own anyway too.
2007-05-02 05:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should tell her, number one because if you are sleeping with your g-friend you could put her at risk of getting an STD. Even if you use condoms you can still get some STD's. I really can't undestand if you are happy in your relationship why you would do this to her, I mean what is one night of sex with a stranger... is it worth losing the one you love? I don't think so.
2007-05-02 05:31:45 · answer #11 · answered by Dee S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋