I don't know how to say "thank you."?

Question

I recently got married, and there are 2 couples who were at the wedding and gave us cards, but I have no gifts matched up with them. (Someone else was writing the gifts down, and I just can't remember) We have one gift that had no name on it. That means, 1 of the 2 couples gave it to us, and the other 1 didn't give a gift at all, or possibly they gave a cash gift that was missed. How do I find out politely? I don't just want to give a generic "thanks for the gift," but I also don't want to just thank themn for coming to the wedding if they indeed gave a gift. Ahh!

Answer 1

how close are you to these two couples? if they're like your parents friends or something like that, you could probably find out through your parents, or if they're a friend of a friend you could probably find out through your friend. worse comes to worse, you're probably just going to have to be generic and say "thanks"

Answer 2

I had that happen at the shower. I had my grandmother call (it was her friend) and ask her directly what she got me. Not as in I didn't know but just as conversation--you know..."I had a good time at the shower. She had so many gifts. I loved that monogammed afgan. Who got her that? It was gorgeous! What did you get her?"

Then my grandmother called and told me.

I actually ended up with one gift that had a card in the bag with it (they had obviously gotten it wrapped at the store) and they dropped off the wrapped present in the bag with the card--but they didn't SIGN the card!

I had about 7 people who didn't get me anything--one was a cousin so I just called him and asked him flat out if he got me anything. Turned out he sent his girlfriend in to buy the card. Dumb lil chit licked and sealed the envelope so he assumed she had *signed* it first.

The other couples who were not credited for a gift were too distant to just call and ask them (as I didn't want to make them feel guilty if they didnt get us anything) got generic "Thank you for coming. It was great to see you. Everything turned out so perfectly. I'm so pleased you could share with us on this joyous day."

As you only have 2 couples it shouldn't be that difficult. If you could have someone else call them and have a conversation with them about the wedding, thats the easiest way. If they aren't that close, a generic card is fine. After all, most of the card is a thank you for coming anyway.

They probably won't even notice that you didnt mention what kind of gift it was.

Answer 3

Don't assume that either couple gave the no-name gift. It could be another gift from another guest who didn't think they needed to put their name on it since they put their name on the other one, and of course it's obvious that the two go together (sarcasm).

You can't politely find out who gave what or anything. You're going to have to thank them for celebrating their special day, and really pad it with mushy stuff about how much they mean to you.

Answer 4

Thank you for your thoughtful gift, and the kind words of your card. Husband & I really enjoyed seeing you at the wedding. It was so much fun when -________. We hope to see you again soon.

Put the focus on seeing them, rather than the gift itself. ALso depending on where you are registered, the store may be able to give you a print out of who bought what.

Answer 5

Hm, okay here's what I would do. Call the couples to see if they drop any hints about what they may have given you. For example, say oh wow everyone gave us so many wonderful things, any maybe they'll say something like did you like the so and so we gave you? Or say I got so many great things that day that I can't even remember what everyone gave me, and maybe they'll say something then. Then you'll have your answer! If that doesn't work, just call some other people that were there that day and see if they can remember, or have them call the couple and ask them what they got ya'll.

Answer 6

I'd just give a generic card. You don't want to assume they gave you a gift if they didn't and make them feel uncomfortable.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Thank you so much for your thoughful gift, It sure came in handy and it's greatly appretiated. Your presence at our wedding meant a lot to us. Your company is the greatest gift of all.

-That would be appropiate for ANY- gift

Good luck

Answer 9

Call them, say a few cards were found loose in a pile, and I just want to make sure we thank the right people...? Leave it open-ended and they will probably just tell you what they gave you.

Answer 10

Short of asking them outright (and embarrassing the one who may not have given you anything but a card), you have to write the thank you simply thanking them:

"Just want to thank you for your thoughtfulness. You will never know how much we appreciate your thinking of us and for wanting to share in our celebration of our marriage. We are truly lucky to have friends/family like you."