what do u think about interracial relationships?

Question

my dad hates the fact i only like black men....but i dont feel its something i can help...

Answer 1

Hey if you're happy he should learn to be happy too. I'm asian dating a white southafrican and my mother took months to accept it and here I am 2 years later still with him :)

Answer 2

I see no problem w/ those kind of relationships. You can't help who you fall for.....it's not like you can tell your heart "like that person" or "NO!! don't like them!".

One of my friends dated a black man for 5 years & I dated a half-mexican guy for a little while. As long as the guy treats you well then there shouldn't be any problem. Your dad most likely grew up in a time when interracial was unheard of & people considered it taboo & just plain wrong. I know my dad did & I don't think he was too thrilled w/ the mexican guy until he got to know him a little better.

Answer 3

Interracial relationships are great... but the fact that you like "only" black man is a bit racist, and kinda demeans the value of your interracial relationship. You're basically saying that men of other races couldn't ever interest you... and you're basing that decision purely on their race. So while your dad is being racist by saying "black men are bad", you're being racist in return by saying "everyone who is NOT black is unacceptable."

and yes it IS something you can help. You may have a *preference* for a certain type, and that's fine, but to deliberately refuse men based on their race, to only pursue or surround yourself with people of a certain color, BASED on their color, is a deliberate choice. So choose to choose differently. Choose to ignore your father's prejudices, and look beyond people's color to find out what is interesting and wonderful about them individually.

Answer 4

I think too many people interracially date for the wrong reasons. When you only date someone for the color of their skin and not because you found they are a good catch, it's just as bad as ruling them out because of their skin color.
It's hard to find love in the world today period, so if it comes along and just so happens to be from someone who has a different skin color, so be it. But your just a big fool if the only reason you are dating that unemployed, 9 children by 10 different women, living with his mom, no car, no future, no respect having, not able to speak proper English guy....because you think it's trendy to be in an interracial relationship.

Answer 5

I think it has less to do with the interracial part and more to do with cutural differences. I would feel the same way about people in relationships raised in different areas of certain countries. Unless your core values are the same, it is difficult to make a relationship work.
I've never met a non-white man that I had anything in common with. So, I've never met one with which I wanted a relationship. I have one friend who dated a black guy. Her parents were MAD. He cheated on her and had baby with the woman, took her money and wrecked her car.

Answer 6

The only difference physiologically between you two is that he was born with more melanin in his skin, making him darker. Both of you are human beings so I do not understand the issue of disliking someone just because of their skin tone.

If you're dad stands by his argument that he doesn't like you dating interracially then there is something inherently racist about him. People do not dislike someone for just their skin color--they dislike the underlying lifestyle stereotype. I recommend talking to your dad about this and really seeing how he feels on the issue and maybe talk some sense into him. You cannot help who you are attracted to and he will see this over time.

Good luck

Answer 7

I don't have a problem at all with interracial relationships.
However you chose to like black men "type" is nothing but a way for us to justify who we chose, yes CHOSE, to be with. If it makes you happy go for it, but don't be with someone just because they embody the physical characteristics that you think is your type. After all, the most interesting fact is how our "type" changes as we age and mature. Physical Characterists seems to take a back seat to things that actually last and matter, things like intelligence, sense of humor, personality, etc. So regardless if you think your man embodies things you respect out of a mate then go for it, either you're dad realizes he was wrong or it's his loss for being a bigot.

Answer 8

Not to disrespectful but screw your dad! He isnt the one in the relationship! If you are happy then he should be happy for you! That's what parents do! My mom is white and just married a man that she has been in love with since she was 11 and he is black! I would rather call him dad anyday then refer to the man that rasied me as dad! My mom and her husband have only been together for goin on 7 yrs now and her husband has done more for me in that short time then my real father or the man that raised me! So again I say SCREW YOUR DAD!

Answer 9

I don't condemn you for wanting to date black men. But I can't understand why anyone would restrict themselves to dating ONLY men, or women, of a certain ethnicity. There are so many nice people of every ethnicity. I would be willing to say that you're racially discriminating if you're only willing to date African American males, and racial discrimination is a stepping stone to racism.
But give your dad a chance. Bring home a nice, respectful, successful man that will put at ease any concerns your dad might have. Every father wants his daughter to be happy and every father wants his daugter to have security.

Answer 10

My dad is black and my mom is white. They have been maried for going on 30 years. It's not the color of their skin it's what in their hearts. My grandmother disowned my mom when she married my dad. But afterwards(few months) she came around and says my dad is the best thing that every happen to my mom.

Answer 11

Do what makes you happy. maybe your dad will come around. Remember you have to live your life, even if things don't work out, you can change whatever you need to. You'll find what you're looking for soon enough. Dad should be cool if you are happy.