i just broke up with my boyfriend of two years. one of the major reasons it ended was due to our relationship with god. we both feel a very strong calling from a higher being. this is undeniable. our relationship began to go down hill the more we sat on the fence about it. although we both would partake in different vices he began to admittedly REALLY abuse these things in order to block out this strong calling. he has asked me for help. i want to help him but am very confused. i realize our relationship can no longer go on. but how does god feel about 2 scared people using each other as a crutch to come to him? the honest truth is that turning our lives over to Him is going to cause each of us to lose some very special people in our lives and we are scared. due to our current lifestyles there would have to be some MAJOR changes. how do i go about this? should i just break away from my ex and work on me? i'm scared of where he will be if i don't help him.
2007-05-02 05:08:03 · 15 answers · asked by staticpen 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Work on yourself
2007-05-02 05:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That's really powerful. Don't take this the wrong way, but if both of you are searching a deeper relantionship with God then there shouldn't be a problem. That is if you are both following all the Bible truths together. Since there is a problem then one of you is on the wrong path.
There is a quote that I have heard many time.
A family that pray's together stays together. I really believe that. If you are both prayerfully following God's will and not you own there should be no reason that you could not work it out.
2007-05-02 05:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does not want us using any ONE or any THING as a crutch.
Jesus himself says being a Christian is not easy.
You have to work hard on getting rid of the fear. Fear keeps us from really living. Fear keeps us from taking that leap of faith.
It won't be easy. You will have many many days worse than the one you are having right now.
The point is - to trust and turn to God. Which isn't easy. We are tactile by nature. We want arms to hold us and comfort us.
Some would say I am a deeply religous person. Yet, I think I'm a big flake. I love prayer. But in my worst hours do I turn to prayer? No. I reach for a cup of coffee. My "comfort food." Flake city.
St. Francis of Assisi says we have a need for daily conversion. For me, it's often hourly.
Christian or not, we lose people all the time. Life is a constant state of people coming into our lives and leaving our lives.
Put your friend in God's hands. Pray for him constantly.
2007-05-02 05:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Max Marie, OFS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to start with yourself first. If you tried to help him right now it would be the blind leading the blind straight into a ditch. Don't worry about losing your friends. People come and go in our lives. Our friends sometimes change because we change. You sound as though you are worried about yourself changing if you decide to answer this call on your life. First of all, a calling on ones life is a joy. If it brings you fear, depression or any bad feeling then maybe you need to keep searching. A true calling does not bring on feelings of drudgery or of losing yourself. Find your personal path again. It became lost and entwined with his to a point you don't even know who you are right now. This is not a condemnation on you, rather this is a map for you to start to find your way again. I wish you the best and peace upon your troubled mind.
2007-05-02 05:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself. You can't take care of others if you yourself are not well.
Let God worry about where your boyfriend will be if you don't help him.
I'm sure you've heard this prayer before. Well, start living it!
God, give us grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things that should be changed, and the wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.
2007-05-02 05:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by BOOM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a difficult situation. It reminds me of the rich young man in the gospels who comes to Jesus. He knows Jesus is a man of God and asks Him what it takes to inherit eternal life. But in the end, he could not leave his lifestyle, which is what Jesus demands.
I hope that you'll read scripture and come to know who this God is that is drawing you near Him. I think you'll find (if you already haven't) that its Jesus.
But remember that Jesus doesn't just want your faith - He demands that if you are to follow Him, you must abandon your self - your lifestyle, your sins - everything for His sake.
It takes a lot of courage. But you already know that you're not living the right life. Give it to God - you won't regret it. Remember that in the end, we need his forgiveness. We will be forever lost in our sins without it.
As for your ex - you've already expressed that it was difficult to come close to God when you were with him. I think you're best letting him on his own - he's got to be the one to come to God. You can't make him. He must do it on his own and you've got to do it on your own. Together, it seems, you just dragged each other down.
2007-05-02 05:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by TWWK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like two drowning swimmers, each trying to float by using the other. If working together, this can be accomplished, if only working for thyself, this could be a problem. It may be time to separate and learn to swim on your own, once accomplished you can teach others how to swim.
2007-05-02 05:14:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stacie, I would suggest that you both get into some Christian counseling or speak with your minister. All joking aside, you seem to be experiencing a lot of pain.
The Skeptical Christian
Grace and Peace
Peg
2007-05-02 05:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not withhold good from those who deserve it,
when it is in your power to act.
28 Do not say to your neighbor,
"Come back later; I'll give it tomorrow"—
when you now have it with you.
The Wise and Foolish Builders
24"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash."
If he will not build his house on good ground it will fall no matter what.
2007-05-02 05:11:09 · answer #9 · answered by sunscour 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...
Well, it seems that what you want is to change your life, you're just not ready to step on your friends' heads to do it.
If changing your life is what you want, then change your life. Friends and lovers can be hard to lose, but sometimes, like an infected limb, they must be cut off.
2007-05-02 05:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by B SIDE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the relation between searching for god and breaking away from people ??
2007-05-02 05:15:11 · answer #11 · answered by egypt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋