Girls, need an honest opinion about my girl?

Question

Is it possible for girls to go from being in love (talking about marriage, kids etc) to needing a break and wanting to be by urself ? now that i look at it, we were moving too fast but i thought that is how love is supposed to be - there were things that were said between us that u dont say to anyone but the one u love.
Me and my girl broke up out of no where - instead of her saying lets slow down, she said she needed to be alone at we didnt talk for 2 weeks - i wrote her a letter saying that i understand that she needs her time and i am here for her - we talked last night but she was standoffish - she got mad, and didnt seem like she cared, but of course she said she cared - but if she didnt care then y would she text me, and then call me back 3 times? we left off with her saying she would call me back, but she didnt - i should just leave her alone huh ? but there are still some things i want to get off my chest

Answer 1

You should get everything off your chest otherwise believe me you will always carry it around with you and never get closure.
It sounds to me she has lost interest or has met someone else and is not sure if she wants him or you. From experience, if someone says they want a break, then unfortunately the writing is on the wall.
Best of luck

Answer 2

Yep let her come to you. Simply put, its not about moving too fast.It's about pushing too hard for it all to go where you want it. If this doesn't work out. Learn this if anything. If you are too availible, needy, clingy or even seem slightly desperate most women will run. Women feel they are losing control in their lives when guys push too hard. It scares them.

The fact that she is texting you and calling you back show there may be slight chance. But, its possible it may be ruined, guy. Let her call you, if you miss the call wait a little bit, if you can. Calling her all the time is annoying to her. If she gets back together with you. From then on, call or text her no more than once a day. Maybe even every other day. If she ask why didn't you call her. Tell her you were busy, Find something to do. Give her chance to miss you. You gotta show your strong without her. Otherwise she won't think you can be strong with her.

I think if you come across as disappointed but able accept the lost she may give it another try. Acting broken hearted means nothing to her if she is dumping you. If she asks, you can say your are "disappointed in yourself, maybe this is a good lesson to learn". Keep your issues to yourself for now. All that you have on your chest. Shut up, she doesn't want to hear it. Otherwise she will regress into the uncareing person you are now seeing. When women get this way its all about them. Let it be all about them... but don't join her in this. It's also about you. and you have be prepared to accept that it might be over and move on like a man with dignity.

Don't talk about marriage, kids etc. If she brings it up. Tell her you want wait to see if we work out. That last break made you realize how fragile this all is. Say you're wise enough to know you don't want to make the same mistake twice, or 3 times or 4.... If it meant to be we will make it happen.

Answer 3

It sounds to me that she at first thought she was ready for a relationship, then out of the blue realized that, that's not what she wants, be thankful she done this now and not after you married her and had kids, there would be alot more pain trust me.If there is still some things you would like to get off of your cheat write her a letter and send it to her or meet up with her somewhere and give it to her, and tell her what you have got to say is all in the letter. And that you hope to hear from her soon. If you hear nothing from her then i would just move on with your life and let her go.

Answer 4

Sounds like she just needs a little space. There is a possibility when a girl changes her mind like that, so abruptly, that there is someone else in the picture. Or, maybe she's been hurt in the past from someone she loved and doesn't want to experience that again. Mostly you should just give her a little time to sort things out, and you find out what the reason is from her. If it is true love, of course she will contact you.

Answer 5

Maybe she's found someone else? Maybe she is nervous about being in long-term relationship? Either way, let some slack off of the leash and let her be who she wants to be for a while. She might make some mistakes, or she might not-- but at least she will know that it is her life and her decisions. Just make sure you are there for her and always let her know the truth of how you feel.
When she sees from a different perspective how much you care, she might value your relationship more.
But don't forget that you have your life to live as well, and don't allow yourself to be abused too much!
GL!

Answer 6

Funny, my boyfriend sounds just like your ex-girlfriend. There's a possibly that their may be someone else but that's not always the case.

It sounds as though your girl isn't that into you. She obviously cares more about herself and hurting you isn't fazing her one bit. She's probably not ready for a commitment. I say whatever you have to get off your chest run it off. Don't call her. If two weeks went by and she didn't call to at least see how you were doing then trust me she really doesn't care. People who care think about you at least once a day, maybe even once a week for just friends. She may still talk to you because she feels bad.

Answer 7

It sounds like she's got cold feet but that's no reason to act the way she is. She should be adult about it and at least tell you why she wants a break. Give her all the space she needs and if she calls try ignoring her for a while. She won't like it and then she might realise that she has a great guy waiting for her and she made a mistake, she'll come back to you.

Answer 8

sounds like youth might be the problem here. write her a letter to get the things off your chest that you need to, wish her good luck in life and be done with her. she isn't sure what she wants so she will only take you on an emotional roller coaster. I know it's hard to let go, but it sounds like she is playing the "shelf" game. she will only take you off of it when she wants to. In the end love is something to be nurtured, not rushed. Next time try to find a balance between your heart and your head.

Answer 9

im sorry to hear that.
i think you really are in love with her but im sorry to say that i think the feeling between you two is not mutual.it looks like she found someone else.
maybe she was in love with you at first.but i dont believe that she ever LOVED you. you cant just forget someone you love just like that. so she must have been in love with being in love with you. am i making any sense??
anyways, i read this book called Captain Corelli's Mandolin by Louis de Bernieres. The captain loved a woman named Pelagia. The lovers were seperated by war and time. But Pelagia's father told her,
"love is what is left when falling in love fades away."
there. i hope you find something in that quote that will help you understand yourself, your girl, and your relationship.

Answer 10

It sounds like maybe she's a little scared of her feelings and is concerned about getting her heart broken so she's distancing herself. I say leave her alone and let her be for awhile. As much as you want to pour your heart out to her, she might not be ready to hear it and my guess is she probably already kind of knows how you feel. Give her some time to sort it through. Sometimes it takes awhile to get your head and your heart into sync.