Men what do you look for most in a woman when considering her for marriage material?

Question

What things matter the most to you?

Answer 1

Family oriented and social, obviously. Why marry someone who is already married to her career? Ambition is fine, but it would be very lonely being married to someone who is always too busy at work to ever be at home (might as well stay single).

Common beliefs, common ideas about how to raise children, common spending (and saving) habits, common hobbies & interests, etc. No two people are ever alike, but if there are more differences than commonality, then you can never be close and you will fight more.

And, of course, her ability to resolve conflict in a mature way. The number one predictor of divorce is someone how cannot handle conflict constructively.

You don't want someone who is too timid to speak up and share her concerns and needs (she expects you to "just know" what she wants), who gives you the cold shoulder, and who alwyas says that "nothing" is wrong when she is obviously angry -- this person is a poor communicator. And you don't want someone at the opposite exterme who is always mouthing off in an angry way and start nagging whenever things don't go to suit her. You want a calm, mature adult who is not afraid to speak up in a calm tone when there is something wrong, and work toward a mutually beneficial solution.

Answer 2

Psychologically and physically healthy, no children and no desire to have them, steady employment, saving rather than spending mentality, no tats or piercings.