Halfway across the country...I"m on a limited budget...big wedding..her dad(my bro) is dead, Ifeel guilty but really cannot afford to send a gift, let alone go 1300+ miles. Is a card enough?
2007-05-02 03:59:30 · 15 answers · asked by ayla089 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A card is plenty! She is your neice, she loves you and will be understanding. I think you should include a personal short letter in your card. Let her know you'll be thinking about her on her day and that you wish you could be there with her.
I'm not sure it's appropriate to tell her that you can't afford to get her anything. It seems weird - and I know that when money has been short for me it's not exactly something I would want to share with other people.
2007-05-02 08:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. A card is not enough, especially because you are her aunt. You can't say that you can't afford it. Everyone has wiggle room in their budget. If you have a vice, give it up to save money. You would be surprised how much money you will save if you give up your daily latte' or pack of cigs.
Even if the gift is only $50, she will appreciate it. I'm sure if you just sent a card with a nice note, she would be really hurt. Just because this is her second marriage doesn't mean she's not entitled to gifts. Maybe she needs the things she registered for.
I think that you need to give her a little something just to show you care. She will probably think you are totally cheap if you don't get her at least a gift of $50.
2007-05-02 11:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a wedding card and a nice frame for one of her formal wedding photographs? Or a pair of pearl earrings or a nice bracelet to wear with her wedding gown? You can buy any of these gifts for about $20 - $25. If you send her a piece of jewelery to wear on her wedding day you will be with her "in spirit." If you can't afford to travel to her wedding or buy her an expensive gift don't worry about, we all have limitations. There is no need to get upset about this or go into a detailed explanation of why you cannot attend the wedding, just simply say, "I will not be able to attend the wedding due to the expense involved." Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-05-02 11:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call your niece and tell her about your situation. I am sure she will understand. I think a card is plenty. Some of the best gifts I got for my wedding were cards that people had written heartfelt messages in. I still have them to this day in my wedding cabinet and I was married in August 2002. Hope this helps. Good luck. :)
2007-05-02 11:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by BamaBelle810 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would write her a really sweet note, letting her know how happy you are for her and that you wish that you could go. Explain the budget being tight, but let her know your thoughts are with her. The words Will mean more then a gift. Though I would still send something.
2007-05-02 11:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by mlsherratt 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely I would also express in the card how much I really would have liked to have been there but that economic issues prevented me from coming. I would probably end with send me lots of pics and remember that I am there with you in spirit.
2007-05-02 11:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Thats a tough situation but, i beleive alot of us have gone through the money being tight. A card will be your best bet! Maybe even a nice necklace thats not to pricy.. Do what you can and don't feel bad!
2007-05-02 11:08:22 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda Kasual 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot afford to send a gift, then you cannot afford it, plain and simple. Send them a card with your best wishes and don't worry about it.
2007-05-02 11:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find some way to go, and take a modest gift. Look, it's already hard for her without a dad, she needs family support.
2007-05-02 11:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should explain to her WHY you can't go, and yes give her a card and congradulate her by calling, emailing, etc. She'll be happy to hear that you care and are happy for her.
2007-05-02 11:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋