I am 12 year old and I know it not right to do but i get so mad it like i cant help it sometimes she just never seem understand me. We end up fightin and i yell at her and she say its a sin and disrespecting her and i end up getting spanked until i cry then have to say sorry 2 her even though im not always sorry even, just get kinda hurt and mad. Isnt it normal fight with you momma??
2007-05-02 03:53:00 · 15 answers · asked by Tia 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Congratulations on being honest about your feelings. Too many people can't tell the truth about how they feel because they are afraid of what people will think. You said you're 12. Sweetie, your body is going thru a lot of changes right now. Your hormones are changing and that's a lot to deal with. You are experiencing feelings you've never had before. Your feelings are also more intense and going places they've never been. While it's not good to yell at your mom it's understandable why you might. Talk with your mom. Tell her what you just told us. I'm sure your mom loves you dearly and because of that she will listen to you. She can help you thru this difficult stage of your life, after all she's been there! Don't come down on yourself for messing up. We all do. You and you mom can work things out together. You both need to see things from the others point of view. We moms are known to be good listeners and givers of advice. You love each other and you can work it out.
2007-05-02 04:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't measure sin....ANY form of rebellion is sin. The commandment is "honor your father and mother". It doesn't say "honor your father and mother if you think they deserve it" or "honor your father and mother if you feel like it". Disrespect is disrespect - period.
1) Don't apologize if you're not really sorry, because that's disrespectful.
2) You are TOO OLD for spankings. You are at an age where grounding / revoking privileges is a more appropriate punishment.
3) Trust me, you are NOT the first child / adolescent who has gone through this and you will NOT be the last. It is VERY normal for kids to argue with their parents once they approach adolescence. There are many factors that contribute to this - the biggest usually being peer pressure. "But my FRIENDS get to..." etc. I did it with my mom, and my daughters did it to me once they got to high school. They are adults now, and sometimes they still do it. But the good news is we ALL can be forgiven for any sin IF YOU ARE TRULY REPENTANT. (If you are really sorry...)
4) Your mother could help matters by trying to remember what it's like to be your age. You can help matters by appreciating all of the little things your mother does for you every day. It's easier to give grace & mercy to others when you put yourself in their shoes. That DOESN'T mean she should give in to you every time you want something or argue; but it does mean mutual respect is easier to obtain when you look at things from each other's perspetive.
Whether you believe it or not, you are your mother's world. Mothers (in general) tend to be fiercely protective of their children - after all, they went through a lot bringing them into this world. Also, God did not give you a mother so she could be your friend - you HAVE friends! You NEED a mother and it sounds like you have one who is actually willing to accept that responsibility even though it isn't always the most pleasant one! Too many moms these days are trying to be FRIENDS; probably because they're in denial about getting older or maybe because they think they're doing their children a favor. But by doing that, they are depriving their daughters of the opportunity to learn how to be a MOTHER, and it is our godly responsibility to TEACH them.
God bless!
2007-05-02 11:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between respecting someone and acting respectful towards them. There are people who you will not respect in life - not that your mom is such a person, but there will be some at some point - and even then, you have to treat them decently. My personal feeling is that respect is not given, but earned. But why not try telling her calmly what you are upset about instead of yelling? She might have more respect for YOU if you are able to communicate without resorting to being childish.
2007-05-02 10:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by ZombieTrix 2012 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think one of the most important lessons we can learn is that of self control. You have no reason to "yell" at your mother. You can say what you want to say, without yelling and speaking disrespectfully.
Not only will you not get spanked, you will not make your mother mad, and if you can speak to your mother calmly, you might make your point more clearly, so you could even get your own way!
Learn manners - they will get you much further than yelling.
2007-05-02 11:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do right now is pray that God will Guide you in telling the truth and ask him to help you to keep calm if you get into a situation where or your going to explode. Yes I can see what your coming from. Pray!
2007-05-02 11:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never yell at your mother. She gave you birth with pain, then brought you up.
In Islam it is a sin, and I'm sure no religion can approve of being rude to your mother.
It's a common problem of teens, that they thought their parents don't understand them, if you think she is not understanding, then talk to her about it, softly and with patience. She is your mother, and she definitely loves you. Try to be close to her, mentally, psychologically. Don't fight with her, and if she starts shouting etc., don't be rude, coz she is YOUR MOTHER, just be patient. She never fights with you becaue of anger or hatred, she loves you so much, and she believes that she has a right on you.
2007-05-02 11:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by Khan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is normal to fight with your Mom and in a few years, you two will be close again. Just remember, both of you, that you love each other and show it. Then fight and yell!
2007-05-02 10:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if you want to get technical yes it is a sin because the bible says honor your father and mother...but I do know that we all stuggle with sin daily....because I do say things to my parents that I shouldnt...but I have learnd in the past couple of months to pray about it and ask God to help me with things I struggle with In life the most....So I say just ask God to help you with arrguing with your mom...and i promise he will help you if you remain faithful to him and your family...I will be praying for you...remember forgive and forget...so just love her no matter what goes on....trust me 21 years with my parent is a struggle sometimes...lol..
2007-05-02 11:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by Hea~Hea1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ephesians chapter 6
" Children, be obedient to YOUR parents in union with [the] Lord, for this is righteous: 2 “Honor your father and [your] mother”; which is the first command with a promise: 3 “That it may go well with you and you may endure a long time on the earth.”"
2007-05-02 11:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by sxanthop 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Apologizing helps you forget the argument!
GOOD GIRL!!
I yelled at my Mom and I am SO SORRY now for it.
Getting older makes you wish you had not done that to her.
You come to realize that as much as you probably hurt your Mom's feelings--we hurt God's feelings like that, and WORSE, every day.
I would go to Mom and ask her if she forgives me--and she would always say, "Of COURSE, I forgive you."
TALK ABOUT FEELING BETTER!
2007-05-02 11:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋