hi people. this guy, is my ex. he wanted me back. he even posted here, i just realized. now im feeling so much more for him. anyway, i love him. he says he wants freedom. he doesnt want commitment. then what is these 2 years to him? i dont understand. he wanted me back so much, only to..to do this to me? the sex part. we didnt do it anymore. we didnt. i love him. i really really do, now i want him back. please tell me what to do. he is really persistent. he even told me that. he will block me in msn, or even worst, take pictures with other girls just to make me give up. i cant give up. he stole my first kiss. we made love, it was my first time. sigh. please guide me. anyone. please.
this was the thread he posted to get me back: http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ak3HtEz.2ExlZ6V8kqywG.Lg5gt.?qid=20070209085253AA2pmIt
2007-05-02 03:42:04 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really understand where you're coming from because I've been in the same situation and this is what I did. Let him see you happy. Show him that you can be independent and you don't need him. Let him see in his own eyes that you can find someone that will treat you like you want to be treated. I'm not saying forget about him, I'm just saying that when he sees that you're not worried about him (not saying that you aren't because you're going to be worried, trust me) he'll realize that he had something good. He'll see that you can make it and be independent and you don't need a man to satisfy your every need. He should come back and treat you so much better that before. If he doesn't then write me back and I'll tell you otherwise. Wish the best for you!!
2007-05-02 04:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by {♥Sadie King♥} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if he doesn't want you and he wants his freedom and wants to hurt you; then I suggest you move on with your life... I understand you have feelings for him, but you cant make a person love you back if they never really did in the beginning.
Stop pursuing him and start dating other people. If your ex really did care, believe you me, he would have told you so. He's not chasing you, so why are you spending your time chasing him...Men like the thrill of a challenge/chase of a woman and you are not giving him that. Pay less attention to him.
Also, men don't mature as fast as women do. A real man wouldn't play childish games to get his point across. He would tell you up front how he is feeling towards and it's on you to understand his point and to back off.
2007-05-02 10:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go. It'll take some strength on your part, but let him go. If you squeeze harder and hold on too tightly, you'll just crush any chance of ever getting back with him! I mean he says needing freedom is one of his concerns, right? How does holding on tighter grant him what he needs?
Besides, he came crawling back to you once already, didn't he? Maybe after a month or so he'll realize he F-ed up, and come back again. If not, well...look at it this way. Every single relationship you'll ever be in will fail, except one. That one is the one you marry. I think the days of marrying your high-school sweetheart are dead, quite frankly. Use this experience to pick a better match next time.
2007-05-02 10:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are not about who's the boss, who gives who chances, and such BS. Seriously. If you think you've got more and therefore can give, then you are not thinking right. Relationships are about compatibility, sharing, complementing each other, not about taking and giving.
Anyway, you should have had sex. Why the heck not? It takes so much out of a relationship if you don't. There are no relationships that are not firmly rooted in sex. Sex is not the only thing that makes a relationship work, but it is certainly the one thing that can make it not work.
I think the main reason for him not wanting you is that you made him feel guilty about wanting sex with you. But it is just natural for a human being to want sex. He might have realized that by getting to know girls who actually wanted to have sex with him. Now, if you feel comfortable enough about sex with him at this time, you should probably explain yourself and tell him you feel sorry that you were out of sync before.
2007-05-02 10:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl sometimes you need to just give up. Give him his space bc it sounds like you are pushing him away even more. Have you ever heard that old saying when you love something set it free if it comes back it was meant to be. It is very true. Try it. I know you are hurting right now, but time will help you heal. Most likely you will also move on with someone else and you will look back at this day and laugh.
2007-05-02 10:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by kissbutnevertell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart, you will learn hopefully sooner than later, some guys will tell you ANYTHING to get down your pants or what ever it is they want. To me, he posted that on yahoo answers just so you would fall for it. I mean , how romantic he would post something like that about you , right? Wrong. Read it again, it's really way over board ....don't you think? He's got you where he wants you, he's screwing with you. Forget about the loser. You can do way better. Find someone who knows what he wants, and doesn't talk smack. Hope you heed the warning.......good luck.
2007-05-02 10:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by Bindy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just playing games with you and you really don't want to get hurt by seeing other girls and feeling "blocked" from his life......
Move on and you will see how a reverse situation will make him feel.....
The "first" thing is a very special thing but just cut your losses now and remember that you loved him and keep good memories not the bad ones of trying to hold on......
2007-05-02 10:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by liddo1004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, the best thing to do is give him what he asks for. The worst thing you can do is to pressure him. Respect his wishes, and if he truly loves you, he'll realize it and try to work out the issues in your relationship. If he doesn't...then cry, be sad....but then pick yourself back up and realize that you are better off with out him. You deserve somebody that respects and loves you. It may seem like your world is crashing down in the beginning but it will pass.
One of my favorite things to say is "It doesn't matter how many times you fall-it's how you pick yourself up that matters". Good luck! I've been there....you can IM me if you need to talk.
2007-05-02 10:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sarabeth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I've read what you've said and what he said..and honestly, one of you needs to step up to the plate and either s*** or get off the pot. Otherwise, you guys will always be going back and forth with this and you'll always be unhappy. You both want each other because "you know you can". If one of you starts to move on and is happy, this will stop, you know what I mean? The longer this goes on, this worse it will get.
2007-05-02 10:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youe boyfriend has found a girl that will bone him when he wants. You sucking in bed pushed him away. You need to be his little wh-ore. You want him back you better tricks. No one wants a dog that just plays dead. You will never work out anyways. It is the first person you banged. When you get older you will realized that you never experienced life and start banging other guys. It is better to walk away and find someone that can turn you into their personal freak. Happy Humping
2007-05-02 10:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Richard Fitzwell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋